02-01-2012, 09:20 AM | #61 |
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Butch Genderqueer
I feel mostly male on the inside, but I have absolutely no desire to surgically or hormonally modify my female body. I am butch for a variety of reasons. "Butch" is an adjective meaning masculine; I enjoy playing the "butch" role in my relationships and would not have it any other way; I especially identify with the piece of queer history butches fought for and participated in; I also identify with the idea of using "butch" as a gender, which - for me - is a genderqueer identity; genderqueer meaning not solely male or female. I also identify as queer, a dude, a guy, and a dyke... because I can.
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03-23-2012, 09:29 PM | #62 |
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I am a stone butch domesticated daddy who is a lover of life, people and fur babies also the daddy to fur babbies :cigar2
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04-14-2012, 04:39 PM | #63 |
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I identify as queer because it's all inclusive - totally both and absolutely neither, and boi because it's male but soft around the edges. My personal leanings are MUCH more on the male side, but every once in a while I wake up on the femme side of the bed and rock that, too. Androgyn would be an appropriate term as well.
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10-07-2012, 09:57 AM | #66 |
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Male. 100%. It's the brain, heart & soul I was born with. Just got put in the wrong container.
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How I self-identify
I think I adopted the femme identity label because it more closely fits than any other label. I'm not opposed to labels; I think they can tell you basic ideas of expression in a short time period. Specifically online where you have absence of other cues and experiences with people, you can get a decent jest of someone with a label. That's not to say we all fit our labels perfectly, though.
I am femme in that I love frills, girl-talk, and butches as my partners. I am not femme in that my sexual preference is not #1 on the overall list of who I am. I identify first and foremost as a women, followed by a Christian, then as a femme lesbian. I think there is a distinction between 'woman' and 'femme lesbian' for me. Woman, for me, means I am half a whole. I am by nature the yin of that half and what it encompasses, as well as endless possibilities as a human being. To say this does not mean a butch woman is not also a 'woman' in identity. She may or may not identify as her/she, but rather by hym/hy. The femme lesbian label is more constricting. It places me in an exclusively-defined role and character, which I do not always agree with nor accept. When I bring this label into the GLBTQ community, I think my femme lesbian identity can also be constricting even among those I consider my peers as far as what people see in that label and the inferences they take from it. I think it's humorous at times and also frustrating. I like this thread a lot. Thank you for starting it!
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04-27-2013, 07:05 PM | #70 |
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When I first discovered my different nature compared to the rest of the world the only word I knew was queer but I kept that to myself. A year or so later I learned the word dyke and after that I learned lesbian.
What is my identity? Third Gender Queer, Gynesexual/romantic, Demisexual, Polyamorous and happy to be me. I go by Queer it saves a lot of explaining over the terms that best describe me.
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I am very much femme for lots of reasons. I am very girly and when I am in a relationship it is with someone who identifies as butch or ftm.
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Male, 100%. I've know since I was little that my body was the wrong one, my mind just knew that. Unfortunately it has been a decades long road for me to identify as FTM. I'm finally living who I am now. It feels good, it feels real, it feels right.
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gender = femme and my other gender is woman sex = female (I get very irritated when people confuse sex and gender) sexual orientation = dyke/queer. I often call myself lesbian though I'm not formost vagina driven. dyke cock is the first, then vagina. but both enjoyed. I was not born femme. I was born female then I learned that my characteristics that i grew into were tomboy. I loved girl clothes but had no desire to hang out with other girls at all. It wasn't till I realised I was a dyke that my big huge drag queen little girl came out. I was happy to meet her. I've slowly let go of the tomboy in the past 10 years, of having to prove I'm "capable" - I don't have to be good at fixing things. I still love camping and snakes etc but I no longer feel I have to prove anything by doing all the repairs. And frankly, I don't want to do any cleaning either. I'm happy to pay other people to do it. so perhaps I've gotten rather urban as well. |
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Queer Femme. When I first came out, I used to word "lesbian" but it just never seemed to fit me right. Then I started discovering my attraction to male-identified butches and trans guys and I went..."Oh." One of my closest friends told me there was a name for that: Queer Transensual Femme. I loved it. But recently I just shorted it to Queer Femme. I still use lesbian so others outside the B/F community can relate. Sometimes I loathe lengthy explanations.
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I am Butch but also consider myself two spirited. I also have a couple of other titles I am fine with too. Mom, Ba Ba ( grandson's name for me) I look like a male but I think like a woman. I think that women by nature are more intelligent then men are.(my opinion) I am attracted to strong,smart & independent femmes. But in the bedroom I like to be in total control.
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I am very much femme and identify as femme or even high femme. I wear lots of labels like femme, sub, babygirl, etc. I embrace labels and it's probably because I'm a librarian--we classify everything.
To the rest of the world, gay or straight, I'm a lesbian and that's fine with me. I am a lesbian too. In the LGBT world, some recognize me as femme. I came out of the closet when I was 17, then figured out that I was a femme when I was about 22 or 23. That was like a second coming out--what a thrill! Now that I'm in love with and in a committed relationship with a FTM, some may be inclined to question my self definition of "lesbian". I still consider myself part of the gay community, the LGBT community, but my identity is mine, not someone else's. I think identity, for me anyway, is something that evolves and grows with time. Whether it's gender identity, sexual identity, cultural identity, or what have you. I'm fascinated by this and just love the multitudes and diversity of identities in our world.
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i am femme, lesbian,queer, woman, etc..
i am with an FTM, but that does not take away from who or what i am. i am a babygirl, submissive, but have my independent side as well..
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What she said. I do use labels because it makes things easier for others, but mostly I self-identify as Loren, if you want to know about me, ask. Labels I use most often: queer, lesbian, dyke, leather-dyke, butch, androgynous, gender-queer, Asian, Latino, Latina, and polyamorous. There's more, but you get the gist. Why I use these labels is because I'm comfortable with them, and they're readily accessible. I used lesbian and dyke when I first came out. Lesbian to be polite, dyke to be "in your face". I'm of an age that I was part of the re-appropriation of "queer", so that has special meaning to me. Leather or leather-dyke or polyamorous doesn't identify me, it defines how I do sex and relationships. But I threw those in cause, well, cause I wanted to.
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I identify as a transguy or transgender male. I do not like the term "ftm" for myself because I feel that I am not or never was female specially after I hit puberty all my psychical femininity went out the door. Before I knew what "trans" was I was a dyke or lesbian who was very butch always , and for the majority attracted to women which always brought questioning myself up because a part of me was still attracted to other people specially as I became older. And soon later I realized I was also Pansexual. Now that I finally have "labels" I'm kinda more comfortable with telling people and being open. I'm not having to explain all these details and stipulations to how I identify.
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