What do you want?

Waldo · 12-30-2009, 10:40 PM

Seems like people have a fairly good grasp on what they don't want but often times fail to address the things they really do want in a partner and/or relationship.

Think about it, put it out there - what DO you want?

SuperFemme · 12-30-2009, 10:43 PM

I want trust and loyalty. I want to be able to be my quirky self always. I want my friends and lovers to not run away from my different-abilities. I want to live voraciously TODAY and know that when my illness wins, those that love me will continue to love me and my Adele-isms.

Lucky for me I have these things. I am always open for applications. I promise to not ask for that which I am not willing to give. I promise to love you back for eternity. Be it mine or yours.

Waldo · 12-30-2009, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

I want trust and loyalty. I want to be able to be my quirky self always. I want my friends and lovers to not run away from my different-abilities. I want to live voraciously TODAY and know that when my illness wins, those that love me will continue to love me and my Adele-isms.

Lucky for me I have these things. I am always open for applications. I promise to not ask for that which I am not willing to give. I promise to love you back for eternity. Be it mine or yours.

Nice SF. Wouldn't it be grand that no one should ever need to start off a list of "want" with two things that should be standard - trust and loyalty.

Gemme · 12-30-2009, 10:55 PM

I want respect and trust and faith in me and us as a cohesive unit. I want freedom to be myself and understanding during the times that I am not so wonderful. I want laughter and wit and brilliance. I want the patience of a saint and the integrity of a hero. Hell, I want a hero. And I want to be his heroine.

Waldo · 12-30-2009, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I want respect and trust and faith in me and us as a cohesive unit. I want freedom to be myself and understanding during the times that I am not so wonderful. I want laughter and wit and brilliance. I want the patience of a saint and the integrity of a hero. Hell, I want a hero. And I want to be his heroine.

Great. Now I have that dang I Want A Hero song in my head.

Sounds great otherwise.

Bit · 12-31-2009, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I want respect and trust and faith in me and us as a cohesive unit. I want freedom to be myself and understanding during the times that I am not so wonderful. I want laughter and wit and brilliance. I want the patience of a saint and the integrity of a hero. Hell, I want a hero. And I want to be his heroine.

Oh. My. Gawd.

I've never seen a better description of Gryph, and our relationship.

I'm betting Ryan is very much like him... May you have what you want, Gemme. It's totally worth the wait!

*and here I thought I wouldn't have anything to say in this thread!*

always2late · 12-31-2009, 05:00 PM

I want to know that in their eyes, I am the best girl in the room, no matter who else is in it. I want to be able to always look into their eyes and see love there, even when those eyes have faded. I want someone I can depend on, because they will always be able to depend on me. I want someone who can love me despite my flaws, its in my flaws that you can see me for who I am, and who does not expect me to be perfect. I want someone who can accept being loved in return. I want someone who will hold me when I cry and not mock my tears, stand with me when my back is against the wall, calm me when I rage, rejoice with me when I laugh, and dance with me in the rain. I want honesty, and truth, and respect, and the freedom to love, and be loved, unconditionally.

Sweet Bliss · 08-30-2014, 01:58 PM

Not a darn thing.

Really... not a thing.

If I don't already have it.... don't need it. Simple.

SuperFemme · 12-30-2009, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Waldo

Nice SF. Wouldn't it be grand that no one should ever need to start off a list of "want" with two things that should be standard - trust and loyalty.

The thing is this. I have falsely assumed that I had those things. Until it became glaringly clear that I didn't. I have never in my life felt so *safe* (in a non boring way) before I married Cal (Plato on this site).

I have also forged friendships amongst Femmes that make me feel equally safe. I cherish that. Having people travel across the country whilst I am in the ICU rambling feverishly at them about utterly non-sensical things restored my faith in Femme Alliances that I needed/wanted but was scared to death of after walking away from psuedo friendships that left scars so deep I thought I'd never let another penetrate. Loyalty and Trust are oft espoused by people in theory, but in practice the selfish "what's in it for me?" mode seems to win out.

I married somebody who knows my quirks, past history, familial strife and doesn't judge me. Instead this person is my rock and my anchor. We are a team. Silly perhaps, but I've not had that before. I cherish it.

Gemme · 12-31-2009, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Waldo

Great. Now I have that dang I Want A Hero song in my head.

Sounds great otherwise.

Any time I can help!

JAGG · 07-19-2011, 08:58 PM

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. Someone who's destiny is to be eaten by sharks. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful.

MissPriss · 07-19-2011, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful.

me too skinning a buck is a must!!! I fell like singing "Im just a guy" to every butch I have dated, and Im such a girl. Its strange!

FlowerFem · 07-22-2011, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. Someone who's destiny is to be eaten by sharks. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful.

Sharks ? I am a pretty good tennis player, but the rest of your desires, I have no experience with. Quite a range of different things, for sure. Were you joking about sharks?

MissPriss · 07-22-2011, 01:59 PM

At the moment...........

a tall galss of Jose
huge plate of chilli cheese fries
green skittles

ReDo · 07-22-2011, 02:44 PM

for hym to kiss my soul

SweetJane · 09-19-2011, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. Someone who's destiny is to be eaten by sharks. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful.

Yep that's a tall order. I've done demo and can do maintenance on my own car, but never skinned a buck yet I can clean fish---and I even bait my own hook. I'm an independent femme but will ask for help when I need to. Hmmmm sharks.... I don't swim that well so being eaten by a shark is possible.....grins.

tapu · 09-19-2011, 01:52 PM

open borders

starryeyes · 09-19-2011, 02:45 PM

I want to pay off my house!!!

Starry

foxyshaman · 09-19-2011, 03:10 PM

Mad Tantra skills
Laughter from the deep belly
Tall enough I can stand under her chin (cause I am super tall at 5' f*ck all)
A good enough wrestler she can let me believe I pinned her

That's all for now...

morningstar55 · 09-03-2012, 07:24 PM

what I want ???
a million bucks.. lol lol

ok ...
someone whom is
honest
mature
loyal
knows who they are
knows what they want
knowss where they are going
stable
is secure with themselves
has a job or retired
great sense of humor
has hobbies
enjoys life
is outgoing

12-30-2009, 10:40 PM	#1
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12-30-2009, 10:55 PM	#4
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12-31-2009, 05:00 PM	#7
always2late Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: m'lady Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 2,000 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,834 Thanked 6,231 Times in 1,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I want to know that in their eyes, I am the best girl in the room, no matter who else is in it. I want to be able to always look into their eyes and see love there, even when those eyes have faded. I want someone I can depend on, because they will always be able to depend on me. I want someone who can love me despite my flaws, its in my flaws that you can see me for who I am, and who does not expect me to be perfect. I want someone who can accept being loved in return. I want someone who will hold me when I cry and not mock my tears, stand with me when my back is against the wall, calm me when I rage, rejoice with me when I laugh, and dance with me in the rain. I want honesty, and truth, and respect, and the freedom to love, and be loved, unconditionally. __________________ Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi

07-19-2011, 08:58 PM	#11
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07-22-2011, 02:44 PM	#15
ReDo Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: her Relationship Status: I am the treat to your trick Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 129 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 265 Thanked 883 Times in 93 Posts Rep Power: 9521534	for hym to kiss my soul __________________ Always remember, tomorrow is another chance for a great day.

12-30-2009, 10:43 PM	#2
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	I want trust and loyalty. I want to be able to be my quirky self always. I want my friends and lovers to not run away from my different-abilities. I want to live voraciously TODAY and know that when my illness wins, those that love me will continue to love me and my Adele-isms. Lucky for me I have these things. I am always open for applications. I promise to not ask for that which I am not willing to give. I promise to love you back for eternity. Be it mine or yours.

08-30-2014, 01:58 PM	#8
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07-22-2011, 01:59 PM	#14
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09-19-2011, 01:52 PM	#17
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09-19-2011, 02:45 PM	#18
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09-19-2011, 03:10 PM	#19
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09-03-2012, 07:24 PM	#20
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