Here come the lesbians, here come the leaping lesbians... - Page 2

Heart · 08-01-2011, 02:50 PM

As someone who was involved in the serious BV discussion in this thread,(and I don't think that was just about butches), I had NO issue with the light posts that were interjected. They didn't bother me one bit. Seems like a lot of energy has now been spent back-and-forth making assumptions about people's intent and scolding them.

But eh, happens all the time.

I can remember occasions when I did feel that someone's thread flirting was intruding on the conversation when I did feel fragile in threads, when I did police discussions, when I did storm off in a huff, when I did feel unfairly chastised or moderated, and when I most certainly did decide never to post on the boards again.

lol.

tapu · 08-01-2011, 03:12 PM

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Tapu -- Your recent posts seem (to me) a little tantrumy, like "If I can't say what I want, then I don't want to say anything at all".

June--I don't think I should be allowed to say anything I want and I never even began to throw a "tantrum" about that. I said "Hey, how about them red sox?" and delivered it in a way that fit in perfectly with the flow of the thread. I wonder if the one person who took offense at that had been following the thread. It didn't seem that she got the context at all.

And then here's just something I ask you to consider: Was my saying that about the red sox really as offensive as you telling me I'm "tantrumy"? My remark was not to any one person, and was not an insult couched in terms of "to me."

I think that what's going on here is subtle in a lot of ways and I plan to reread and think about it, to see if there's something I think I should have done differently. Presently, I'm not feeling at fault.

tapu · 08-01-2011, 03:34 PM

No, not really. I see no distinction between 'tantrumy' and 'take your toys and go home.' And i think it's a side issue anyway. I would be more concerned about people feeling like they can't post without someone jumping down their throats. Regardless, I am planning to stick around and get more of a feel for things. I don't like to judge based on just a few experiences. I also believe that people can learn. Thank you for your responses.

tapu · 08-01-2011, 03:38 PM

I did pick up on that. Which is amazing since usually I'd be saying, "Red Sox, that's baseball, right? The round white ball with the pretty red stitching?"

LexiLove · 10-18-2013, 04:39 PM

Here.

I don't usually leap. I do have a dance pole though.

TruTexan · 10-19-2013, 12:44 AM

Just bumping the thread tonight.......

girllikeu2 · 10-19-2013, 04:17 AM

It is 6:15 in the morning. I am just now drinking coffee so there will be no leaping, buuuuut. Hello

TruTexan · 10-19-2013, 05:17 AM

Good morning to all of you, it's 6:16 am where I am this morning. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend.

CherylNYC · 10-19-2013, 07:49 PM

I inadvertently did a tiny leap in the playground today while watching lesbian friends watch their 16 month old twin girls play. I was wearing my leather jacket with an old-school denim overlay bearing the patch for our women's motorcycle club, of which I'm a founding member. I was on my way home from our annual Benefit Ride. This year we raised money for Queers For Economic Justice.

Yup. Some things don't change. Old school leaping lesbian here.

08-01-2011, 03:34 PM	#3
tapu Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Understated butch. Preferred Pronoun?: I Relationship Status: Party of One Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Maine Posts: 1,654 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,324 Thanked 3,112 Times in 1,103 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	No, not really. I see no distinction between 'tantrumy' and 'take your toys and go home.' And i think it's a side issue anyway. I would be more concerned about people feeling like they can't post without someone jumping down their throats. Regardless, I am planning to stick around and get more of a feel for things. I don't like to judge based on just a few experiences. I also believe that people can learn. Thank you for your responses. __________________ Really? That's not funny to you?

08-01-2011, 03:38 PM	#4
tapu Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Understated butch. Preferred Pronoun?: I Relationship Status: Party of One Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Maine Posts: 1,654 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,324 Thanked 3,112 Times in 1,103 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I did pick up on that. Which is amazing since usually I'd be saying, "Red Sox, that's baseball, right? The round white ball with the pretty red stitching?" __________________ Really? That's not funny to you?

10-19-2013, 12:44 AM	#6
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10-19-2013, 05:17 AM	#8
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,268 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Good morning to all of you, it's 6:16 am where I am this morning. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. __________________

10-19-2013, 07:49 PM	#9
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,150 Times in 1,206 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I inadvertently did a tiny leap in the playground today while watching lesbian friends watch their 16 month old twin girls play. I was wearing my leather jacket with an old-school denim overlay bearing the patch for our women's motorcycle club, of which I'm a founding member. I was on my way home from our annual Benefit Ride. This year we raised money for Queers For Economic Justice. Yup. Some things don't change. Old school leaping lesbian here. __________________ Cheryl

08-01-2011, 02:50 PM	#1
Heart Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: rainbows! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: NY Posts: 466 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 2,531 Times in 412 Posts Rep Power: 12032609	As someone who was involved in the serious BV discussion in this thread,(and I don't think that was just about butches), I had NO issue with the light posts that were interjected. They didn't bother me one bit. Seems like a lot of energy has now been spent back-and-forth making assumptions about people's intent and scolding them. But eh, happens all the time. I can remember occasions when I did feel that someone's thread flirting was intruding on the conversation when I did feel fragile in threads, when I did police discussions, when I did storm off in a huff, when I did feel unfairly chastised or moderated, and when I most certainly did decide never to post on the boards again. lol.

10-18-2013, 04:39 PM	#5
LexiLove Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Fierce.Lesbian.Femme.Dyke. Preferred Pronoun?: She.Her.Sweetums. Relationship Status: I have her...hoping to keep her Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: NY for now Posts: 53 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31 Thanked 135 Times in 36 Posts Rep Power: 950352	Here. I don't usually leap. I do have a dance pole though.

10-19-2013, 04:17 AM	#7
girllikeu2 Member How Do You Identify?: Dingbat Relationship Status: Facebook Official Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: *** Posts: 699 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 720 Thanked 1,100 Times in 288 Posts Rep Power**: 15433227	It is 6:15 in the morning. I am just now drinking coffee so there will be no leaping, buuuuut. Hello