What is on your mind - Page 351

kannon · 12-28-2011, 11:13 AM

allergies and sinus congestion is kicking my BUTT.

1QuirkyKiwi · 12-28-2011, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

That some members of my Scottish family maybe finally accepting the fact that I'm gay. ....I'm forever the optimist.

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Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

One black spot in the rest of my amazing and wonderful Christmas Day...

... Its one thing to know and understand your parents dont and wont accept you... or support you for who you are... Its possible to look the other way as long as they do the same...

... however, it hurts... when they throw it back in your face...

... Talking to my mom today, about the idea of moving out of the country... and how difficult it is to get a work visa as a teacher in Canada... her response was, well marry some rich, kind man... that would make it simple... I said, actually mom, in Canada I can marry a woman if I want to... and she just right out says... "You need to marry a man." ... *blink* and the conversation ends there... This is nothing new... I have been out for a while now, I am not changing my mind, or going back in the closet for them... *sigh*

but... maybe I do need to stop letting the intolerance slide... maybe I need to put down my foot and put up some barriers... I deserve to be loved by my "family" and if the one I was born with cant do that unconditionally... Maybe its time I concentrated on the one I'm building that does...

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Originally Posted by Dominique

I come from a family of Homophobes too. In my immediate family, all thats left is my sister. She officially disowned me after my brothers funeral. Life became a little easier. Sad but true. If no chosen family is left when I finally croak off, animal rescue league will be heir to my estate.

Anyhow, the standard line I am subjected to, be it a funeral, wedding or a run in at a grocery store is *Will you ever lead a normal life?* To which I reply *Tsk, Define Normal, like yours you mean?* Just once I'd love to be asked *How are you?* or *So, what are you doing now?* I found out long ago, life goes on...without them.

Still on that river in Egypt! ….De-Nile!

It seems I was a little too optimistic and mistook their, what appeared to be ‘acceptance’ of my sexuality, when in fact it was their choosing to ignore (yet again!) the obvious truth about me and clinging on too school playground prejudices!

I’m staying with them over Hogmanay in Scotland until the 2nd January….Oh the joy!

ruby_woo · 12-28-2011, 03:07 PM

I hope I can find an apartment that allows cats. I might get a cat, and name her Lucy.

Bard · 12-28-2011, 03:19 PM

reading all the posts about families that refuse to except you as you are it makes me very sad ... Desd and I are both very lucky in that respect both sides of the family take us and love us as we are. We spent Christmas with her folks and they treat me as if I was one of their own and they love my daughter. My dad and Jen love Desd and are coming for the wedding from AZ. It never made a bit if difference to Dad that I was gay he takes me and loves me just as I am and her adores his granddaughter and make no mistake she is his even if my EX is her Bio mom Goose is still his granddaughter and he would fight anyone who said different

Logicaly · 12-28-2011, 08:41 PM

Very sad today. Can't stop thinking about the fact that I got laid off from my job and now I once again have to enter the job search. I really loved what I did, and the company I did it for. It makes me sad that a previous CEO walked away with millions and screwed the rest of us.

1QuirkyKiwi · 12-29-2011, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Bard

reading all the posts about families that refuse to except you as you are it makes me very sad ... Desd and I are both very lucky in that respect both sides of the family take us and love us as we are. We spent Christmas with her folks and they treat me as if I was one of their own and they love my daughter. My dad and Jen love Desd and are coming for the wedding from AZ. It never made a bit if difference to Dad that I was gay he takes me and loves me just as I am and her adores his granddaughter and make no mistake she is his even if my EX is her Bio mom Goose is still his granddaughter and he would fight anyone who said different

I’m very fortunate that my Maternal Grandparents were accepting, as was my twin brother and my English cousin and his parents. I’m closer to my English cousin than my Scottish ones and on my first time in the UK to study, he and my Aunt and Uncle were here and offered support….it was my first time away from my family and I was on the other side of the world and very scared. My cousin was there to show me London and get me accustomed to the city (….in the early 90s, London had just under twice the population as the entire country of NZ. I was used to a traffic jam of 15 cars and a million sheep! LOL!).

My cousin is protective of me….I’m like the little sister he never had and he is like another older brother (in no way does he replace my late twin brother). I was living in Scotland trying to spend time with my family; only, I constantly kept getting why wasn’t I married to a MAN and the various other comments. I was offered a job in London, again and took it! Nope! That didn’t go down well at the time, but, I said it was a promotion of sorts (it wasn’t an untruth, lol!).

I accept that my Scottish side of the family will most likely never accept that I’m gay and that is OK! ….even though it hurts. I see them once a year, less when living over seas and we email and chat on the phone.

Dominique · 12-29-2011, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

I accept that my Scottish side of the family will most likely never accept that I’m gay and that is OK! ….even though it hurts. I see them once a year, less when living over seas and we email and chat on the phone.

Take me as I am...or don't. I no longer explain myself to anybody. I DON"T care what they think. It's my life, and I will live it my way.

Yet, when I am thrown onto the mix of the *family* I stand around and make a mental inventory of those who judge me. Let see, the laundry list goes like this. You stole from your employer, you have been married 4 times, you over eat and over drink, You used to do drugs, Wonder if you still do. Every time I see you, you have a different car and its always wrecked. Why is that? You cuss too much. You need to go to charm school. Another Boyfriend? But still not married what is that, 6 kids now?
blah blah blah...so really Do you think I care what they think?

Julien · 12-29-2011, 08:26 AM

What's on my mind? So much stuff that I don't know if I can multitask today.

Maybe I should make a list to organize it by importance and relevance.then I can concentrate on the things that I need to concentrate on and file the other stuff in the compartments in my mind

Easier said thank done

1QuirkyKiwi · 12-29-2011, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Dominique

Take me as I am...or don't. I no longer explain myself to anybody. I DON"T care what they think. It's my life, and I will live it my way.

Yet, when I am thrown onto the mix of the *family* I stand around and make a mental inventory of those who judge me. Let see, the laundry list goes like this. You stole from your employer, you have been married 4 times, you over eat and over drink, You used to do drugs, Wonder if you still do. Every time I see you, you have a different car and its always wrecked. Why is that? You cuss too much. You need to go to charm school. Another Boyfriend? But still not married what is that, 6 kids now?
blah blah blah...so really Do you think I care what they think?

My Scottish family are an insular lot and all except my eldest Scottish cousin, they live (as far as they are concerned) a near perfect life….and, good on them! As I said; it’s OK! That they don’t accept me for my sexuality, and I’m the only girl out of 5 boys born of Norwegian Grandparents….it doesn’t stop me from feeling hurt, but, neither does it stop me from living my life the way I want.

We each live our lives as we feel is right and I realise that I am fortunate to still have the support of my family.

UofMfan · 12-29-2011, 08:31 AM

Breakfast, and how absolutely delicious is going to be.

weatherboi · 12-29-2011, 09:35 AM

starryeyes · 12-29-2011, 09:44 AM

Tomorrow closes a HUGE chapter in my life. It is very bittersweet, but I am finally living my life how I want, and I am happy. I will always cherish the past, but I am SO excited about the possibilities of my future.

Smiles and Hugs
Starry

JustLovelyJenn · 12-29-2011, 02:01 PM

things change slowly in life sometimes... and at others do a 360 in a day... but they always change... lately I have been thinking about how comforting that change is... and how when i expect it, and watch for it... I am the one to decide how and what that change is... and it gives me control, something that is also a comfort... I like the changes in my life right now... and the ones that I am planning for in the future.

TheDreadPirateRoberts · 12-29-2011, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

things change slowly in life sometimes... and at others do a 360 in a day... but they always change... lately I have been thinking about how comforting that change is... and how when i expect it, and watch for it... I am the one to decide how and what that change is... and it gives me control, something that is also a comfort... I like the changes in my life right now... and the ones that I am planning for in the future.

you know yourself best.....and i know what you mean about change....it can happen so suddenly....and look back as if it happened in slow motion.....it can be comforting to know that you can shape changes u make in your life...esp the positive ones! ....im soo happy you like where you are .....

PinkieLee · 12-29-2011, 04:00 PM

What's on my mind... how bad my freakin' foot hurts right now. I went home for my lunch break, decide to be a responsible adult & bring the trash can back up to the house, and my graceful self somehow twisted my ankle on a rock. *disclaimer, yes I was wearing flip flops*

The longer I sit here, the worse it is starting to feel. I really hope I didn't break something in my foot.

*OUCH*

Leigh · 12-29-2011, 04:01 PM

Looking foward to 2012

TheDreadPirateRoberts · 12-29-2011, 04:07 PM

whats on my mind....dinner....how awesome it is to see my dear ones smiling...your voice in my head....and wondering what it is you have planned

Vlasta · 12-30-2011, 12:15 AM

everything , I am trying to be positive , but I also have to be realistic . What if ? What am I going to do ?

JackMcGrath · 12-30-2011, 07:49 AM

So very much is on My mind.. yet, I am at peace with it all. I am loving the feeling.. and it will only get better.. I will make it so.

JustLovelyJenn · 12-30-2011, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by TheDreadPirateRoberts

whats on my mind....dinner....how awesome it is to see my dear ones smiling...your voice in my head....and wondering what it is you have planned

All the things I have planned are on my mind... AND... you will just have to wait and be surprised!!

12-28-2011, 11:13 AM	#7001
kannon Member How Do You Identify?: bloke Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Happy is the heart that believes in angels Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Land of Milk and Honey Posts: 884 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,920 Thanked 2,067 Times in 584 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	allergies and sinus congestion is kicking my BUTT. __________________ Sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken.

12-28-2011, 03:19 PM	#7004
Bard Family Man How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: She just gets me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ..... Posts: 2,828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,997 Thanked 12,786 Times in 2,431 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	reading all the posts about families that refuse to except you as you are it makes me very sad ... Desd and I are both very lucky in that respect both sides of the family take us and love us as we are. We spent Christmas with her folks and they treat me as if I was one of their own and they love my daughter. My dad and Jen love Desd and are coming for the wedding from AZ. It never made a bit if difference to Dad that I was gay he takes me and loves me just as I am and her adores his granddaughter and make no mistake she is his even if my EX is her Bio mom Goose is still his granddaughter and he would fight anyone who said different __________________ This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain And a hundred percent reason to remember the name! Give yourself over to absolute pleasure. Swim the warm waters of sins of the flesh - erotic nightmares beyond any measure, and sensual daydreams to treasure forever. Can't you just see it? Don't dream it, be it.

12-28-2011, 08:41 PM	#7005
Logicaly Member How Do You Identify?: Transgender Male Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: She is the gamer girl to my gamer boy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California, Bay Area Posts: 683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 395 Thanked 1,744 Times in 513 Posts Rep Power: 8641137	Very sad today. Can't stop thinking about the fact that I got laid off from my job and now I once again have to enter the job search. I really loved what I did, and the company I did it for. It makes me sad that a previous CEO walked away with millions and screwed the rest of us. __________________ ~Logicaly~ Geeky guy extraordinaire Always and Forever

12-29-2011, 08:26 AM	#7008
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12-29-2011, 09:35 AM	#7011
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12-28-2011, 03:07 PM	#7003
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12-29-2011, 08:31 AM	#7010
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12-29-2011, 09:44 AM	#7012
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12-29-2011, 02:01 PM	#7013
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,995 Times in 3,685 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	things change slowly in life sometimes... and at others do a 360 in a day... but they always change... lately I have been thinking about how comforting that change is... and how when i expect it, and watch for it... I am the one to decide how and what that change is... and it gives me control, something that is also a comfort... I like the changes in my life right now... and the ones that I am planning for in the future. __________________ --Jenn

12-29-2011, 04:00 PM	#7015
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12-29-2011, 04:01 PM	#7016
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12-29-2011, 04:07 PM	#7017
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12-30-2011, 12:15 AM	#7018
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12-30-2011, 07:49 AM	#7019
JackMcGrath Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: Permanently Banned 12/30/11 - Previously banned member under a new name Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Lat. 41.83N Long. 71.41W Posts: 183 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 278 Times in 101 Posts Rep Power: 0	Onward to 2012. So very much is on My mind.. yet, I am at peace with it all. I am loving the feeling.. and it will only get better.. I will make it so.