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I really like your statement here specifically. I think the word "breeder" is a slur.
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It's offensive? Can you step out of Dylan zone for one fucking second and hear this? You don't get to tell us how to feel about a word that has been used on us as defensive, derogatory or insulting. Damn it Dylan.. I know you gotta know better.. It's not about you you you and your god damn sentence structure and how you see fit. As a guy, it's even worse for you to come up in here and JUSTIFY that term. Damn dude... FFS listen.
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No. According to the urban dictionary, the child-free community has more specific and ugly language for mothers and fathers.
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Women in this country are groomed to breed/reproduce/carry on the human race/however you choose to say it.
Because women are seen as objects. Whores and mothers. Sinner or saint. They're not seen as individuals. Housekeepers and secretaries. And if they don't want to have kids, there's something wrong with them...or they hate men. And every thing they do is (supposedly) done for the benefit of a man or to get a man. Don't believe me? Pink is on the cover of Cosmo this month talking about sex secrets...because even someone as strong as Pink is catering to a man and worried about 'keeping her man happy'. It started with religion, and it's perpetrated through a sexist culture. Girls and women are sooooo groomed for it that they can't even decide for themselves if they can have an abortion. It's in every commercial geared toward women, and it's perpetuated in every commercial for children. "Take care of these precious little ponies". "Take care of this little baby". "Clean the house with this play set". "Make your baby dinner with this kitchen set". "Put make up on, so you can get a man, so you can have babies". So, seriously, you think girls/women aren't bombarded with this message from the second that F goes on that birth certificate? Honestly, Dylan |
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It's about a word and how it is used by some (not you) to hurt. I'm not dragging a discussion either, I am wanting to have a dialogue about the feelings that this word invokes for some of us. Please take yourself out of the equation, ok? |
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Believe it or not..
Some women Wanted to be mommies..... gasp... true story
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And FFS Snow, could you hear a word in context instead of hearing it as you want? Give me another word, Snow. What other word denotes the same way women are groomed? Give me another one, and I'll use it. That has the same connotation. Reproducer? Doesn't have the same connotation. Give me something that has the same connotation as puppy mill. Because that IS how the patriarchy sets up and grooms girls/women. Dylan |
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In answer to your question, no. I don't think it is in reference to women only. I also don't think it's appropriate to use on any gender. Seriously. |
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When I was pregnant.. I was refered to as pregnant.. Not bred. How about that Impregnated.. Pregnant. Last time I checked that was a word.
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It wasn't instilled or grilled into me
to have children, I chose the gift of life. It was my sole choice not to abort, mine alone no influence from outside sources. I raised my daughter to be and stand strong to make her own decisions on having a child, she's chosen to do just that and I adore her no matter what. Woman are intelligent and can chose their fate to have children or not.
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Wait. What does ffs mean?
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for fuck's sake?
for further study? fringe field switching? fee for service?
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Pregnant is a certain stage of the reproduction cycle It's not the same connotation And let's not forget that once women are past the age of reproducing/carrying on the human race, they're no longer seen as attractive or useful to the patriarchy (unless they're the caretaking, doting grandmother who once again is dealing with children). Dylan |
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I thought we were to have 2.3 children only and to stay gorgeous for our men. Who would have the energy to clean, work, and be sexy with THAT many kids? |
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What I never understood was
why do those who choose not to have children feel the need to judge those of us who do and them flame us with those nasty little words. They made their choice, we made ours and if your reading this today, thank a mother.
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I think it's safe to say that the "connotation" is offensive.
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I will gladly become MOMMA-SON I don't use gramma. Yanno Dylan once again, some of us wanted kids. It wasn't shoved down our throats, we just wanted them.. I can't tell you how much I wanted my kids. IT HURT. Every single one, once I knew them I would give my life for them. That's what you ain't hearing Dylan, that as a MOTHER, you insisting on using the word is humiliating and ugly. FUCK your points of view.. Respect that a handful of women keep asking you to listen, can you just listen and give us that much respect? Not that fucking hard Dylan, I do it for you ,and would if you asked -and have.
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I wasn't bred...I'm not a cow. I became pregnant. I am a mother. I parent. Any of those is better, at least to me. I agree that women are judged, in part, by whether or not they have children. We are also judged, in part, by our physical appearance, how much money we make or have, who we partner with. the class we are born into, the car we drive, the clothes we wear and more. For me, the central problem isn't that women are raised to be mothers or measure their worth by their sexual appeal to others (although I have a problem with both of those things)...it's that we aren't generally raised to treasure our own individuality - no matter what it looks like or where it takes us.
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I've heard it used by the (straight) child free by choice people in reference to other straight people who have children. I've heard it used by, mostly, gay men in reference to straight people. It's the term we yelled back at the protester who were yelling "Fags!" at us when our float went by. In these circumstances, it's been used against men and women equally and usually towards heterosexual couples.
Granted, this was all probably 20+ years ago and I'm not sure I've seen it used since except on rare occasion. And when I do it hear it used in that way that is meant to insult, I'm horrified that we used it back then. In our somewhat limited defense, there were not many queers with children in our limited social circle at the time. I do have a friend who refers to his siblings as the "breeders" of the family because he has something like 14 nieces and nephews . In this particular case, he uses it with affection because he is very glad to have those kids in his life. And yes, he uses the phrase to their faces. I think that may be the only time I've heard it used without offensive intent. |
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