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That's great that you allowed yourself the freedom to explore that option, now you know it's just not going to work for your relationships.
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I like to build relationships, I do not like just screwing around. I don't mind being the 'experiment' for someone who is curious, or the 'special friend' of a married woman or is or isn't out... I am a safe date for woman who are not out. but I don't have sex just because its offered. ... but I will if I want to.
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That's why polyamory can be so wonderful not because it's leaving someone in the dark it's BECAUSE everyone knows what they are in for and there are no down low scenarios.
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Yeah, I don't even do the don't ask, don't tell thing. We all have to know and at least respect one another. I haven't fucked someone who was cheating since I was in my twenties.
There's a tv show called polyamory or something. I caught a few minutes of a couple of episodes. I couldn't take more. I recall that someone told a guy that they didn't want another person in the relationship, and he said, I don't think THAT's poly. He clearly thinks poly is having as many sexual partners and additional relationships as at least HE wants. There was one woman who was not into it much. Her husband said he was partly into poly because his wife wanted sex less than he did. So she is involved in the new relationship too -- with another couple. She looks sad, teary almost, and is trying to say something -- this is as a sexual encounter is beginning. The other woman says what's wrong, honey, do you want ME? She doesn't listen to the answer and initiates sex with the other woman. It was hard to watch. Clicked away at that point. Sad that that is what is being represented on TV. If people knew how much work it is, . . . . |
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Where do you get off suggesting everyone is not fully informed???? You quote me AND THEN post that is not poloyamory for YOU!!! I DO NOT CHEAT... EVER ON ANY ONE!!! I DO NOT LIE >>EVEN TO GET TO HOLD SOMEONES HAND!!!! I take four to six months gettiing to know someone, before a sexual relationship is even possible You have no right to accuse me of such a thing or use my post as an example of cheating.
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Excuse me I was speaking from me space about what I expect in poly. Your example which I happened to quote in our household would be cheating. I even preferanced it in "me" space. There is no need to chastise me for discussing polyamory in a polyamory thread.
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People often think or try to be with someone who is Poly, but when the time comes that they take another lover, they realize they are just not cut out for it. Nothing wrong with that. Can't blame someone for exploring and not living something that they are not OK with. |
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It is work. People want to look right passed all the hard work that is done and see *WOW lots of sex going on there* The emotions and situations that come up are beyond explanation. And when did lack of sex become the free pass to screw around? Not happy? Leave someone, cheating and sneaky behavior is NEVER ok, i don't care how *sex starved* you are. It's always excused when a man cheats on his wife because she wasn't putting out enough. MAYBE if he stopped being an asshole she would want to have sex with him. Also, i feel MONO means two people and no one else, period. i would not consider myself mono if i entered into a relationship where my partner had other lovers. Am i wrong here? |
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i had a similar experience decades ago. only difference was that i was jealous and immature and insecure. the person making the accusation was a cheating asshat of the gold medal Olympian variety but that didnt make it any less true that i was also jealous and immature and insecure. i think a poly/mono relationship can work because there's no way *i* can say that they cant. blanket statements make my eyebrows go all twitchy. with that on the record, i know that *i* still dont have the emotional maturity it takes to be poly or to be in a relationship with someone who is. |
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Question... So the married woman's partner would know that you, the special friend, are the experiment of their curious, not out partner? if i were the partner i would be crushed to find out my partner and her *special friend* were experimenting behind my back. I'd probably incite a riot. I'd feel like a fool. Just wondering, it sounds like sneaky stuff to me.., not what "i "consider poly. |
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I do NOT agree, if there was a lack of clarity, the question of that should have been asked, ... instead a judgemnt of my behavior, by someone who what to look down her nose at me, was posted on an open forum. I did not say her husband was in the dark!!!! That was a made up accusation!!! I wrote, "I like to build relationships, I do not like just screwing around." I hang out and played pool with her husband, he was fully informed, BEFORE any sexual contact took place... IF a woman is single and does not want her co workers or her mother to know she is gay then she has that right... I respect the terms agreed to between each person I am involved with! If her rules of relationship with someone else, is such that SHE may be with whom she pleases when she pleases.... that is a call for those who are exchanging body fluids.... NOT judgemntal people on the internet who are not part of the relationship. Poly is a short hand for polyamorus, I did not nitpick a meaning out of context and make a slangerous accusation toward anyone on this thread. I am not dishonest! I do not cheat! In my comments back>> because I was quoted, are not chastisement for discussing polyamory in a polyamory thread. IT is chastisement for quoteing me and makeing comment that suggest I am dishonest and deceatful... >>Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow -- "That's not polyamory and it can be really irritating and tiring when poly threads and conversations are started that this example is thrown into the mix when clearly it's not."<< "this example" refering to my post, is the statment shows the intent to defame me, and say I am not honest in my actions, For the record this IS My code of conduct : http://polyamorysociety.org/tools.html
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I didn't think anything needed clarification, there wasn't any judgement nor was it personal. I was talking about "my" views on poly relationships. Your poly, my poly, Joe the Plumbers poly will all be different my bad if you're upset over my wording.
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YES!!! .... he was fully aware!!! EVERYONE who needs to know is fully aware. If you where her partner you would have known everything.... because I meet and talk with everyone or it doesn't happen. We all talk, visit each others homes and meet family members (even children and pets) and have meals to getther before it ever gets that far.... As well... my primary meets them ... we all get to know and trust each other.. how else is a relationship built? >>it sounds like sneaky stuff to me.., not what "i "consider poly.<< how the h#ll is it being sneaky??? we are out in public having dinner-- openly talking about issues of our lives-- every one reads every else email etc-- (sarcasim)-- I am supposed to sent you a note too???-- How high an mighty can people get-- judgeing other with what they "consider poly" or not... and I don't give a flip what peopel on the internet think is "correct' poly' or not... the woman I spend time with... she matters... I care that her needs are met and if that means we act like straight girlfriends out in public...so be it... I do NOTHING behind any partners back. Mine or hers.
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Back to the question of if poly/mono can work - in my experience it can. Sometimes it did, othertimes it didn't. I've had both types of relationships go up in purple polkadotted flames. I've been on both sides of each equation.
I have taken away many things from the experiences, most importantly (for me) is I realized neither is "better" just different. I can appreciate the uniqueness of each situation and also that what works for each person and couple, triad etc. is different. Your mileage will certainly vary..
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*AHEM* since the thread is intended for opinions...
I think if person A enters in a relationship with person B who has other lovers, person A can consider this monogamous if person B is their only mate / sexual partner. As someone else mentioned, person A has the right to self-identify and that identity may or may not fit in with what other people think.
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