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Lol no romantic bone in my body.
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I am very affectionate, extremely solicitous, very tactile and loving...but the gifts and candlelight dinners with lots of meaningful stares and frought silences kind of romance just puts me on edge. Soooo uncomfortable for me. I'll actually take a passionate debate over that kind of romance any day. lol
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I'd say I'm fairly romantic
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Might be one but I think that's about it lol
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I was totally like that too,I was in a band in the 80's and flatly refused to do love songs,only political songs,the last relationship I used to joke that she had put a spell on me,coz I used to find that stuff BS.In my 30's I never celebrated valentines day,I used to say it was a capitalist plot,to get ppl,to spend $,they cant afford,on stuff that is double the price,on that day. Guess who sent 2 doz red roses on a recent VD ???????? sheepishly putting my hand up.
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Depends on what you think romance is....
If dancing is romantic, guilty If sitting on the beach and talking is romantic.... guilty If if is the fact that I love romantic proposals.... guilty again I think that is as far as it goes with me and typical romance. I don't like receiving flowers (unless from my kids for a mother's day, etc) or if they are hand picked - why waste money on something that is going to die? What is romance? I think that something I would find romantic just might be something another would not find romantic. For the most part, I like the simple things..... oh, plus gold and diamonds, I like gold and diamonds too.
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To me romance is about discovering those thing, both big and small that make your lover feel cherished and loved, and then doing them. What feels romantic to one person could feel like a complete bore to the next person, so taking the time and making the effort to truly get to know what romance means to your lover/partner is romantic in itself.
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I am not fussy about romantic gestures. If they come genuinely from the heart then I will love and appreciate them, whether they are more traditional or unconventional or unique things. My girl is an over the top romantic, so I get all kinds, all the time. I am very lucky. I also consider myself to be romantic and like expressing it in various ways, some of which are traditional and some of which come from my quirky self, but most of all what I think will resonate with her heart.
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I don't really know what romantic means but if you call bringing flowers, doing little things, etc, then yeah I am guilty. But I am a 2x4 trans guy so I gotta be told LOL.
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Romance works both ways.I like it when she helps me put on my tie and gives me a long kiss.Telling me she loves me and to be safe.Standing behind me in the bathroom,both of us looking into the mirror as she combs my hair back and kisses my neck..sometimes she'll pull my hair back and bite my neck.I love long hugs and surprise dinners.Making out in the backseat of a car.Getting flowers is nice..mushy,blah..moving on.
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Okay so I bought my girl a single pink rose, a card and candy she likes. She said that I was becoming more romantic. I just think it's cuz she puts up with me.
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I guess it would depend on what the person I am dating at the time felt was romantic. To me thinking of you and while I am out picking up some little thing I know you either like or something I see reminds me of you so I get it for them. to me the little thoughtful things I feel I do naturally are being romantic. but I doubt all women would think that ,like some may be the type that like the grand gestures periodically, maybe they think is romantic. I feel it's all in one's perception.
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I tend to be overly practical. I clean the house, fix the faucet, make you a five course dinner and rock your body with things like drinking wine off your skin and letting you completely sit this one out (so to speak).
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Romance, to me, is the small things. Coming home to discover my spouse did all the dishes. Or a phone call halfway through my day when I've casually mentioned that I'm having a hard day. Surprising me with my favorite foods. Snuggling with me at night. It really is the little things.
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Romance and thoughtfulness go hand in hand for me. They both symbolize that you're thinking about your partner's wants and needs, so wish to put those thoughts into actions whatever they may be. I agree it's a two way exchange but once you find the right partner it should be a natural expression of your love and not a false forced gesture that's cliché.
Running a hot bath, making a meal, going for a walk somewhere scenic or cuddling on the sofa watching a movie are all very romantic to me and not material things. Time is such a very precious gift so giving that to me and vice versa is also very romantic. |
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I think it's romantic when someone makes me a cup of tea, fixes my bike, buys me a book I really want, takes me to see a lecture I've wanted to see, teases me /takes the piss, calls me semi-insulting terms of endearment, picks out shoes they'd like me to wear, ogles my boobs in the restaurant or park or supermarket, surprises me with a road trip to some place science geeky. Or surprises me with something very dark and pervy. Flowers to me just mean "I've done something shitty and I'm trying to butter you up" and they just no longer have a pleasant link for me. Like people doing things for me because they *know* me and know what I'd like. Not because "butches do _____ for femmes." Because it means they aren't paying attention to who I am, just my gender, and frankly it feels like I'm a number in a well trodden formula and I could be any femme, cause they did it for them too. I prefer to tailor my romantic moves to the individual. My exwife loved me baking her favourite bread, picking her flowers and reading her to sleep. Another ex liked me wearing clothes she'd pick out for me, washing her hair and making roast lamb. I'd prefer to do what others like. But I'm not good with words or being emotionally expressive. I'm good with humour and teasing endearments. |
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