Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[betenoire]

First, a RULE. Oh yes, a Rule. If you break it I will snatch you bald-headed.

You are to only speak about yourself and what you are. You are not permitted to frame your Femmeness in what you are not. If the Femme that someone else is is different from the Femme that you are is - good. That's how it's supposed to be. That's how individuality works. Your Femme and my Femme being different does not de-femme either of us.

Let's roll.

(I would go first, but I have to pee like you wouldn't believe. And I want more coffee.)

[betenoire]

I am rough and tumble. I can walk up to my 3rd floor apartment (no elevators!) with a pack on my back, a dufflebag over each shoulder, and a suitcase in each hand without breaking a sweat. If there's only one of something left and we both want it, I will offer to arm wrestle you for it. And I'll probably win.

I am clear lipgloss, black liquid eyeliner, and chipped nailpolish. I'm busy, okay? 5 days a week I am ponytails and no makeup at all. I don't look "better" with cosmetics on, I only look "different". I love flipflops, polkadots, OPI, vintage, short short bangs, knee-length skirts, cardigans, and chunky glasses. I will gleefully flip you off with one hand while fixing my lipgloss with the other.

I am self-sufficient. If I let you open the door for me or carry my books between classes - it's because I LET you. I'm doing you a much bigger favour than you are doing for me....believe me. I like my control. It's mine. If I give any of it up to you - you should probably feel pretty fucking special.

I am my father's daughter. Stubborn, opinionated, pottymouthed. If I hate you, I hate you for life. I remember what you did to me in the 4th grade and I do not want to add you on facebook.

I am a Gemini. I want to talk to you for hours provided we can change the topic of conversation every 3.5 minutes. I want you to like me, to really really like me. OOOOOOH glittery object! What was your name, again?

I am a whirlwind of contradictions. Totally badass but easily injured. Strong, fast, easily bored....but lazy. It is very important to me that there is always filtered water in the apartment, but not at all important to me that I remember to refill the Brita.

I am rock and roll. I know that David Bowie is god, and that early Johnny Cash is some of the most important music ever made. I love Morrissey when he's mean, not so much when he's sad. If the dj is playing music I like I'll be the first person on the dancefloor and the last person off it. I don't care that my hair is wet with sweat - I have some very important energy to burn. I think dancing is a solitary sport - I do not want to dance -with- you. I only want to dance -near- you.

My carbon footprint is tiny. My actual footprint, too.

[SuperFemme]

I'm a versatile and fluid kind of a Femme. I have strong opinions, and am not afraid to learn something or say that I am wrong.

I am all over the place willy nilly when it comes to what I choose to clothe myself in. I may get resentful when expectations are made regarding this.

I love my energy yet protect it all in one breathe. I love to love. I am fiercely loyal. The Femmes in my life are far more important to me than the butches in my life. I value those connections too, but have a tendency to hoard my Femme confidantes in a way that is just for us.

I drive a hybrid, recycle and take in strays (of both the human and animal variety). My carbon footprint in shrinking and my cankles are growing thanks to cancer. I'm cool with that. I am ready to die and plan to make sure those that love me have a great big party when that day comes.

I am all kinds of supporting roles: Mom, Sister, Daughter, Wife, Ally...the list is long. I am none of these things because I am Femme yet I am Femme when doing these things. One does not make the other for me.

I am raising a son and I love the males in my life. A lot. I protect that love as fiercely as I go after a pair of patent leather boots at a Barneys sale.

I am an original and there is no mold to break. I just am a Femme.

[Chancie]

Who the hell knows what kind of femme I am, but I was miserable when I thought I lost my hot pink graphing calculator, and I am generally happier when my nails are done. I have several goals to reach before I turn 50, and one of them is starting a robotics program at the high school where I teach math, and another is growing my well cared for hair to my waist.

[Heart]

I am femme in an energistic, individual, idiosyncratic, inconsistent, natural, performative, deeply personal way.

I am also femme in a historical, social, political, cultural, community context.

[diamondrose]

I am a product of my mother- independent, particular about my kitchen,self sufficent, simple kind of woman, cherishing the simple pleasure in life.

I am a collector of many things colorful and flat goofie. I am a good time, a sure laugh, a ray of light on a gloomy day. I can strike a conversation with anyone easily and am that personality they can take to

I am that friend my femme friends can always count on to be there.

I am fiercly loyal, considerate, and highly intune to people
I am opionated , strong, and sure in what I believe in and passionate about things I hold closest to my heart like fairness in the world and animal rights.

I am that old fashion type house wife with a job. I am a cooker, nurturer, care giver in my palace called home.

I am not perfect and am okay with that. I face my battles and accept my outcomes with my chin held high

I am that dolled up woman on a friday night evening dinner and that barbuecing, fishing, camping, shorts and tee girl on a saturday summer afternoon

I am me

[Gemme]

I am a Gemini femme in every way.

I bore easily.

I love the shinies and sparklies.

I give 100% when I dive into something. Of course, when I lose interest and embark on another venture, I give that one 100% too.

One of the most hurtful comments someone ever made to me was that I bored them. I take great pride in bringing excitement and variety to someone's life, even if things aren't always hunky dory, so that really hit me hard and deep.

I go from 0 to 60 in .2 seconds. I am Italian and have that temperament. Little stuff blows over quickly and without damage. Big stuff simmers like a pot of sauce for a long time and when I'm done, prepare for the big kaboom.

One minute, I am demure and soft and sweet and the next, I am crass and mean and sassy. Contradictions, yes. I have them. Embody them.

Terms used to describe me (by myself and others) include: finicky, selfish, giving, funny, bright, loud, quiet, vulnerable, defensive, annoying, pleasant, driven, lazy, chunky, tiny, private, open, fearless, scared shitless, bold, shy, talented, dramatic, wallflower, spirited, an emotional void, as well as umpteen others. I'm sure this has cleared up any questions one might have about who I am.

There are always multiple streams of thought in my head. I see every situation from multiple angles and, while I attempt to wade through the variables, people often assume I am wishy washy. I'm not...usually. I just want to make the very best decision and/or choice possible. Some times that takes time.

I have control issues. When I feel control is being taken from me, without my consent and without negotiation, I throw up walls.

I firmly believe in the mantra *my body, my choice*. I determine who and what touch my body and in what capacity. If someone doesn't respect that and my body, then it will be my choice to knock them on their ass. Despite my short stature, I am perfectly capable of doing just that.

While I am perfectly capable of many things, I derive pleasure from people doing things for me. Not because they think they should, but because they want to, and I want to do things for them. It's a cycle that, once in motion, is mutually symbiotic. I am his Princess; he is my Prince.

Music is life. I, literally and absolutely, would not be here...typing this...breathing air...without it. I don't care what anyone thinks, but I know for a fact that Madonna saved my life and, in return, she gets at least 15 songs on my MP3, always and forever. Even with over 1300 songs on it, that is devotion, man.

I have eclectic tastes. Musically, I love Madonna, Kelly Clarkson, Aretha, Marvin Gaye, Christina Aguilera, Nickelback, Daughtry, Disturbed, Rob Thomas, TSO, Tina Arena, Chaka Khan, Adam Lambert, 3 Doors Down, *Nsync, Timbaland, Missy Elliott, Annie Lennox/Eurythmics, Bianca Ryan, Black Eyed Peas, Carrie Underwood, Britney, Deborah Gibson, DJ Laz, Faith Hill, God-des and She, Hilary Duff, Leona Lewis, Maroon 5, Prince, Rick Spingfield, Rick James, James Brown, Three Days Grace, Vanessa Hudgens, Ciara, Everlife and about 5000 other singers, musicians, bands and groups.

I rarely have one favorite of anything. Mostly, it's my top 3 faves. I do have a favorite movie though. I decided, as a child watching it, that that was going to be my favorite and it was done.

I compartmentalize things very well.

I am a referential artist and crafter, though my skill level is minimal.

I never know what to say to someone when they suffer a great loss. I feel helpless in situations in which I don't know what the 'right' thing to do or say is.

I often end my sentences with prepositions and I don't care, even though I fancy myself a writer on occasion and am kind of a grammar snob (but only about certain things).

I am Wonderland and sometimes, I feel like Alice, lost deep within myself.

[femmedyke]

I am a total sweetheart with a bit of an edge; I hold doors, carry packages for old folks and smile at absolute strangers. I will also key your car if you look at me like that again, fucking creep.

When we watch the show “What would you do?” I can say that I would speak up on all scenarios about 99.75% of the time.

I’m wicked mouthy and have a sharp tongue but I’ll take it back if I make you cry.

I dig humanity, but its people I don’t really care for much; still, I never give up on them.

I do my best everyday to be mindful of our planet; be it recycling, buying local and organic or not shopping at big chain stores – I would like to think I can make a difference.

I cuss too much, laugh even more and cry more than that.

I can’t cook… I actually loathe it but will marathon bake at weird times during the year. (Maybe just so I can wear my red apron.)

I am short, busty and when I turned thirty I grew hips; these days I rather like them but I didn't so much when they showed up.

I rock short hair, dark lips and most recently, I fell in love with my eyelash curler. I prefer a rounded toe in heels but fucking love a chunky boot. I don’t wear a lot of jewelry, just sentimental pieces.

I have a flair for the dramatics and often live with my head in the clouds.

[read: flaky]

[The_Lady_Snow]

I am strong and gentle, I am fire and ice, I am kind and firm, I am Master, Daddy and a Mother. I am loyal and at times sensitive. I am a proud Leather Femme that protects her pack fiercely.

I am sister, mother, daughter and friend, I am loyal to each of these people of my life. I am dirty, mean, sadistic, and nasty when in my leather space, I am masculine and feminine as I swing.

I am a cock yielding, fuck you raw, make you cry kind of femme. I am Owner,
lover, confidant and oh yes I am curvy.

I am sexy, confident, unapologetic, non conforming in your face kinda bitch. I am twisted and sweet.

I am Sephora, NASCAR, football, laying in bed during a thunderstorm alone and enjoying life till the fullest because I am complete and need no one to validate my femme.

I am soft music, slow grinding on the dance floor, pin you on your back as a fuck you slowly and beg for more.

I am proud and honored to have the femme friends I have and would give my right arm for them.

I am soft laughter, talking all night, slap you in the face, and hold you tight when a storm comes in.

I am Alpha and for some Omega.

I am

Femme

Queer, Kinky, Raw

Femme.

[Nat]

I wear makeup a few times a week and sometimes I shave my legs. My clothes are XXL and generally soft and eccentric and I'm growing my hair out. On the inside, I'm kinda gothy bohemian kittenish mermaidish person, but I'm not sure how much of that translates. My eccentricity comes across, from what I understand. I'm switchy, witchy, activist, feminist, lesbian, always growing or at least trying to.

I'm physically strong and wouldn't mind being stronger. I have a strong mother-bear side and then there's a part of me that's still a kid too. I do have a somewhat logical brain, but I am more intuitive/emotional/creative in general. I'm sensitive - which is good and bad. But then there are times when I'm insensitive, and those times are the ones I generally regret most.

I'm in a place lately where I'm just not so concerned at the moment with my place/niche in the world or in the community. I just seem to be seeking and maintaining peace inside myself. I just kinda feel like: take me or leave me as I am. I just want to be myself.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I am a Gemini femme in every way.

I bore easily.

I love the shinies and sparklies.

I give 100% when I dive into something. Of course, when I lose interest and embark on another venture, I give that one 100% too.

One of the most hurtful comments someone ever made to me was that I bored them. I take great pride in bringing excitement and variety to someone's life, even if things aren't always hunky dory, so that really hit me hard and deep.

I go from 0 to 60 in .2 seconds. I am Italian and have that temperament. Little stuff blows over quickly and without damage. Big stuff simmers like a pot of sauce for a long time and when I'm done, prepare for the big kaboom.

One minute, I am demure and soft and sweet and the next, I am crass and mean and sassy. Contradictions, yes. I have them. Embody them.

Terms used to describe me (by myself and others) include: finicky, selfish, giving, funny, bright, loud, quiet, vulnerable, defensive, annoying, pleasant, driven, lazy, chunky, tiny, private, open, fearless, scared shitless, bold, shy, talented, dramatic, wallflower, spirited, an emotional void, as well as umpteen others. I'm sure this has cleared up any questions one might have about who I am.

There are always multiple streams of thought in my head. I see every situation from multiple angles and, while I attempt to wade through the variables, people often assume I am wishy washy. I'm not...usually. I just want to make the very best decision and/or choice possible. Some times that takes time.

I have control issues. When I feel control is being taken from me, without my consent and without negotiation, I throw up walls.

I firmly believe in the mantra *my body, my choice*. I determine who and what touch my body and in what capacity. If someone doesn't respect that and my body, then it will be my choice to knock them on their ass. Despite my short stature, I am perfectly capable of doing just that.

While I am perfectly capable of many things, I derive pleasure from people doing things for me. Not because they think they should, but because they want to, and I want to do things for them. It's a cycle that, once in motion, is mutually symbiotic. I am his Princess; he is my Prince.

Music is life. I, literally and absolutely, would not be here...typing this...breathing air...without it. I don't care what anyone thinks, but I know for a fact that Madonna saved my life and, in return, she gets at least 15 songs on my MP3, always and forever. Even with over 1300 songs on it, that is devotion, man.

I have eclectic tastes. Musically, I love Madonna, Kelly Clarkson, Aretha, Marvin Gaye, Christina Aguilera, Nickelback, Daughtry, Disturbed, Rob Thomas, TSO, Tina Arena, Chaka Khan, Adam Lambert, 3 Doors Down, *Nsync, Timbaland, Missy Elliott, Annie Lennox/Eurythmics, Bianca Ryan, Black Eyed Peas, Carrie Underwood, Britney, Deborah Gibson, DJ Laz, Faith Hill, God-des and She, Hilary Duff, Leona Lewis, Maroon 5, Prince, Rick Spingfield, Rick James, James Brown, Three Days Grace, Vanessa Hudgens, Ciara, Everlife and about 5000 other singers, musicians, bands and groups.

I rarely have one favorite of anything. Mostly, it's my top 3 faves. I do have a favorite movie though. I decided, as a child watching it, that that was going to be my favorite and it was done.

I compartmentalize things very well.

I am a referential artist and crafter, though my skill level is minimal.

I never know what to say to someone when they suffer a great loss. I feel helpless in situations in which I don't know what the 'right' thing to do or say is.

I often end my sentences with prepositions and I don't care, even though I fancy myself a writer on occasion and am kind of a grammar snob (but only about certain things).

I am Wonderland and sometimes, I feel like Alice, lost deep within myself.

*bumping my own stuff*

Cuz, like Lady Pamela, I want to hear what my femme sisters have to say.

[girl_dee]

i am a femme who has yet to conquer all the things she's wanted to, i'll get there!

[thedivahrrrself]

I am both stronger and more fragile than I appear. I accomplish most of the things I do out of sheer persistence and willpower; I'm not naturally good at many things, but I will work hard to make it look easy. I am fiercely independent, and I think I can do most things better than you, or anyone else for that matter. Go ahead, prove me wrong.

If there is only one thing left and we both want it, I'll let you have it. Or if I really, really want it, I will convince you why it is more logical for me to have it.

I am all-day lipstain. I don't want to fuck with makeup more than once in a day. I'm no foundation most days, unless I have a pimple. Then, I'm very self-conscious. Eye makeup is reserved for days when I wear contacts, or very special occasions. I'm big, funky glasses.

I'm clear nail polish on my fingers, and God-only-knows-what-color-I-was-in-the-mood-for-the-day-I-got-a-pedicure on my toes. I have natural nails. Fake nails hold too many germs. My nails like to chip, so they are often filed to slightly different lengths. I think the middle one chips from hitting the roof of my car so much. I'm an aggressive, and fast, driver. I drive a stick. Don't ride my ass, or I will let you know what fun things you can do in a standard.

I love platforms, hair color, vintage jewelry, big, puffy skirts, and rouched dresses. I hate most patterns, but I'll probably wear it if it makes my body look good. I like to dance. I'm not that good at it, but if I can do it, anyone can. So, get your ass on the floor!

I am polite. I don't often forget pleases, thank yous, or have-a-nice-days. I open the door for everyone. If I let you open the door for me, recognize that I actually had to think about this, stop, let you catch up (I'm a fast walker), and let you open the door. I did this for you, because I know you like to feel chivalrous.

If I let you see any further than skin-deep with me, feel special. I will tell almost anyone what I do. If I tell you how I feel, you better listen. I'm not likely to repeat it.

I don't always know what I want, and I am not likely to ask for it. I am extremely affectionate until I feel rejected. Then, I am cold. Be careful what you say to me. I will internalize the things you may not want me to remember later. I need to cry sometimes, but it's hard to get me there. My trust is wavering - at times I don't even trust myself. So don't break it. It's very hard to repair.

I am opinionated and I cuss like a sailor. I won't cuss around your mom, or your kids, but I say fuck like it's fucking going out of style. It's a nice word, you should try it.

I am a Pisces. I'm moody and over-sensitive, I have the attention span of a 4-year old sometimes, and nothing moves me like music. You can write me a novel, and I'm more likely to cry at a song.

I have tattoos. I don't care what you think of them. I got them for me. Each reminds me of something important that I forgot once and swore never to forget again, and the quarter-sleeve on my arm made it possible for me to wear tank tops in public without worrying about how fat my arms are. It's not finished yet, and it probably won't be my last tat, though it will probably satiate me for a few years.

I'm terrible with names. I wish that weren't so.

I contradict myself constantly. Pointing that out is likely to get you nowhere. I have lazy days, but I'm generally very hardworking, just not at the things I probably should work hard at. I'm more likely to work my ass off doing something for you than for myself. I give and give and give and give, and when I've given too much, I retreat inside myself. I've been known to run to the convent for solace and inner reflection. I use religion like a drug, but I pray every night.

I'm very maternal. If I don't have a child of my own, I'm likely to have people or pets I take care of. Family members, friends who need help, random homeless people, stray animals... I'm a sucker for someone in need. You can help me make rational decisions, but don't try to discourage this, or I will end up mothering you. And believe me, you don't want that.

Oh, and did I mention I'm long-winded? Maybe that goes without saying...

[KayCee]

With esp. these last two posts I see so much of myself. Good to know there're other femmes 'out there' who are similar to what I feel/act too. Sometimes I think...'I'm somewhat 'off' with my thinking or my way to interact with others, but after reading this thread I think I can't be that 'bad' or 'off' either.

Thank you!

[gotoseagrl]

good thread.

hmm. i am an old spirit and always have been. there is a sensitive place in my soul for things of the past. i am attracted to people older than myself. i consider myself very femme and am fiercely attracted to butches. i am very shy (writing this is a bit difficult, but i love the topic), reserved and introverted, though i will always find a way to be direct when i feel so compelled (see quote below). i am always very polite. i warm up easily to those with whom i effortlessly connect. i am usually "the quiet one." it is easier for me to express myself through writing or touching. in a bad situation i tend to draw into my shell at first. not a chatty type, but with the right people can spend endless hours going on and on. i am a homebody, but do love traveling. i am an over-thinker. i do believe in that space between self and thought. i am extremely passionate, but am generally not an extremist. i tend to admire passions of others whether i agree with them or not. i'm deeply moved when people are simply or unexpectedly kind and thoughtful. i am open to truth and exploration. i cannot do without honesty. i love learning. i embrace diversity. i think individuality is hot and blind conformity is not. i don't believe propriety is always necessary. i find it gratifying aligning to grids, but more aesthetically pleasing when they are broken (think David Carson & April Greiman). i am a hopeless romantic who has tried fighting it as a curse (lol). i am a marshmallow. i am very submissive and i like a clearly defined dynamic in a relationship. i love intimacy. i love partnership. i love exchanging "that glance" no matter the place. subtlety can be hot. so can raw straightforwardness. music and nature are my solace. beaches (any place with water), libraries and museums are my sanctuaries. i'm a nerd. i am hypersensitive to my environment. generally don't like big crowds or loud noises for an extreme amount of time. i love minimalism over extravagance. i love simple pleasures. i love laughing to tears. i tend to find extraordinary joy or peace in the smallest or most overlooked aspects of life. sometimes i just love darkness, silence and stillness. i am not a clothing label type of person. i'd rather shop for books or art over clothes. i don't wear fake nails, mine grow naturally. i stopped wearing makeup a few years ago but shaping eyebrows and keeping lips soft are a routine. i dress casually most of the time, but do enjoy dressing up whenever i have to. love boho style clothing and jewelry, though the only particular fashion i tend to adhere to is comfort. i love wearing long, comfy skirts, especially while treading on the shore or relaxing somewhere. i love dressing for fall & winter. i don't think i'll ever let my hair grow past my shoulders again. i prefer alternatives to fancy purses. i can be ready in less than an hour. i generally despise materialistic fluff. i don't like facades. i am a realist who loves to escape. i feel as though there are uncharted parts of my soul and can strongly sense things & places i've never truly experienced before. i am sincere.

[dixie]

I am a true Leo femme... I am definitely one of the most fiery, loud-mouthed, outspoken femmes you will ever meet...eventhough I tend to keep quiet and hide in the shadows until I feel it is my moment to shine. Had to learn the hard way not to overpower and try to take center stage...

I truly am fire and ice. I will heat to the boiling point and within mere seconds freeze solid as a stone. I can be the angriest I've ever been and in the blink of an eye be the happiest...

One day I'm rough neck, hardcore, trash-talking, foul-mouthed badass in leather and chains...next day I'm a shy, quiet wallflower in a breezy cotton jumper...day after that I'm an alluring, provocative, purring sex kitten-vixen-seductress in silk and 7-inch heels...

I am comfy: pony-tail, glasses and sweats with my nose stuck in a book...and yet I am glamourous: liquid black eyeliner, red lips, flowing almost-waist length black hair in an evening gown twirling the stem of a champagne glass between my manicured fingertips...

I am Sunday drives, picnics by the lake and hikes thru the woods...yet I am dinner parties, fund-raising galas/soirees, theatre and opera...

I'm big city woman yet oh so much small town girl...

I'm vicious and risk taking, yet compassionate and loyal...

I'm used, abused, forgotten and forsaken... I am loved, cared for, befriended and admired...

I will be your best friend or your worst enemy... your fantasy or your nightmare...

I am passion and impulse...yet I am stoic and control...

I am extremely intelligent with no common sense...yet i am common sense with not an intelligent thought floating in my head...

I will be the first to get the joke or I will laugh tomorrow at something you said yesterday...

I am so strong and so fearless...yet I am so fragile and so terrified...

I am granddaughter, daughter and mother...

I am acquaintance, friend, lover...

I am no one, yet someone...

I am so much more than this...yet sometimes nowhere near...

I am ME...nothing more...nothing less...

I am FEMME...

[AtLast]

WOW!!! This thread and the responses just RAWK!!! Thanks to all and all the new posts to come!!!

[gotoseagrl]

Originally Posted by dixielady

I'm big city woman yet oh so much small town girl...

i am both as well.

Originally Posted by dixielady

I am so strong and so fearless...yet I am so fragile and so terrified...

i find it to be quite an experience feeling so fragile while watching my breaking point stare me in the face and yet ... im still here.

[Bard]

To all the wonderfull Femmes who have posted in all your beautiful glory each amazing and touching in your own way and y'all brighten up the world simply by being you all strong proud and Femme. Thank each of you for sharing and for just being who you are

[SassyLeo]

I'm a Queer Femme. A Leo. An only child.

I am smart. More life smart and less book smart.
I'm a space cadet, sometimes an airhead and apparently off in my own little world. Maybe because instead of being punished as a child, I was told to "find something constructive to do".
I'm fierce when I want and need to be and quiet and soft when it feels right. Sometimes within a matter of minutes.
I'm unknowingly sensitive yet a crazy hard shell to break. I'm a strong boundary holder which often looks like lack of compassion.
I'll call you on your shit, sometimes whether you want to hear it or not. I'm blunt and honest and mostly in the best ways.
I make my own decisions and will ask for your input when I need it. I'm not the best at admitting I've made mistakes but I do it. Sometimes more than I'd like. But I never regret anything. Really.
I'm a loud talker, a louder laugher and have been known to watch people because I am fascinated about how others operate in the world.
I am opinionated and sometimes judgmental. I have feelings about fucked up stuff that people do. I don't like drama, but I like hearing about others'.

My dearest friends get to see my weak parts, my pains, my sad and my deepest happy.

I'm fiercely loyal to my MAC Rebel lipstick and Benefit Bad Gal Lash. They make me feel powerful and strong, showing the outside how I feel on the inside.

I also rock capri's and tanks and my love's sweatpants and t's. Sometimes I feel sexier in the latter.

I dig camping and hiking and WATERFALLS and love to take photos of random art and nature that catch my eye.

I'm a jewelry wearer, lots of it. Chunky and funky and full of color.

My dark brown curly hair is intertwined with white. Yes, I love my hair. Though I might dye it someday if the white takes over.

I rarely paint my fingernails, but pedicures are a must. Red is best. And even better in a hot pair of open toe wedge heels.

My 5'6" is full of curves; smaller waist, big butt and broad shoulders. I'm sexy in an unassuming way.

I'm Beautiful. My genes did me well. I have my papa's blue eyes and lashes, I am told are my best feature.

I'm a small town girl who grew up in a town that became a city.

I like to be courted. I like attention. I appreciate being adored, but am not a fragile pedestaled figurine. I can open the door for you just as well as you can open it for me.

I'm physically strong. Independent and self sufficient.

I am sometimes kinky. This does not mean my I am a bottom or top or sub. I can be all or none.

I'm a survivor of sexual abuse. And some fucked up relationships. But I don't give up hope for healing.

I'm the product of 2 queer parents. Raised in the 70's and 80's. My queer is deep. Like blood, sweat and tears deep. It shaped me.

My Femme is Queer. A Dyke. A Fat Femme. A Fierce Femme.