Domestic Abuse

Sam · 11-16-2009, 07:54 PM

Emotional or psychological abuse
The aim of emotional or psychological abuse is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence. If you’re the victim of emotional abuse, you may feel that there is no way out of the relationship, or that without your abusive partner you have nothing.

Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence.

You may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since physical violence can send you to the hospital and leave you with scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse—sometimes even more so. Furthermore, emotional abuse usually worsens over time, often escalating to physical battery.

Sexual abuse
Sexual abuse is common in abusive relationships. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, between one-third and one-half of all battered women are raped by their partners at least once during their relationship. Any situation in which you are forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity is sexual abuse.

Forced sex, even by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence. Furthermore, women whose partners abuse them physically and sexually are at a higher risk of being seriously injured or killed.

Economic or financial abuse
Remember, an abuser’s goal is to control you, and he will frequently use money to do so. Economic or financial abuse includes:

Rigidly controlling your finances.
Withholding money or credit cards.
Making you account for every penny you spend.
Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter).
Restricting you to an allowance.
Preventing you from working or choosing your own career.
Sabotaging your job (making you miss work, calling constantly)
Stealing from you or taking your money.

Sam · 11-19-2009, 12:22 PM

I support Domestic Violence, i usually pick a charity every year in November to get donations for, then i usually match whatever donations i can get with my own earnings.

This year i picked Project Safe in Athens Georgia.

So far on my facebook group and my twitter has brought in $500, so i'm still striding for $1000.00.

So you can donate here x

and you can join my fb group and forward the group to all your friends and family.

x
You cam pm me anytime. thanks

Andrew, Jr. · 11-19-2009, 01:26 PM

Why is the facebook coming up under the name of Sherri Rosenberg and not Sam Jankowski?

Sam · 11-19-2009, 01:28 PM

I dont know. try this link its a group i made up until i can get the Cause to let me sign up.

Try this link let me know.

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=170359319379

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Why is the facebook coming up under the name of Sherri Rosenberg and not Sam Jankowski?

Andrew, Jr. · 11-19-2009, 01:37 PM

Sam,

You need to delete it. It still comes up Sherri Rosenberg. And no you couldn't have just thought it up.

apretty · 11-19-2009, 01:58 PM

i get Sam Jankowski.

Andrew, Jr. · 11-19-2009, 02:04 PM

APD,
Is that the name next to Setting?

Linus · 11-19-2009, 02:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Sam,

You need to delete it. It still comes up Sherri Rosenberg. And no you couldn't have just thought it up.

Andrew, I'm getting -- on both links -- Domestic Violence Facegroup and Sam. Have you checked your system?

Softly · 11-19-2009, 02:09 PM

Sam here too.

SuperFemme · 11-19-2009, 02:11 PM

I too am getting Domestic Violence Group and Sam.

No need at all to take it down.

I'll donate later today.

Sam · 11-19-2009, 02:18 PM

ok thank you all, i had it set to private, but its still coming up as mine.

i appreciate the donations. thank you

Sam · 11-19-2009, 02:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Sam,

You need to delete it. It still comes up Sherri Rosenberg. And no you couldn't have just thought it up.

thought what up? its a group off my facebook.

anyone can add me to fb..

Andrew, Jr. · 11-19-2009, 02:25 PM

Linus,

Actually, Rosie called me from work to tell me about it. I was playing with the furkids, and eating some lunch when all of this was going down. I had no idea until then.

I am waiting for a 2nd phone call from her later on. She is going into a meeting with her boss and her boss's boss. I will let you know more later.

Thanks,
Andrew

Admin · 11-19-2009, 02:39 PM

Need to clarify: Are donations going directly to Project Safe in Atlanta?

Edited to Add: Sorry, I need to close this thread. It is fine to ask for donations for various causes but I must insist that any plea for donations must be with a link that goes directly to the cause in question. There is a direct paypal link available for Project Safe for those wanting to help. http://projectsafegeorgia.org/contact_psga.htm

Nothing personal against anyone here, great work!

11-16-2009, 07:54 PM	#1
Sam Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 2/11/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: I'll let you know Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,101 Thanked 668 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 0	Domestic Abuse Emotional or psychological abuse The aim of emotional or psychological abuse is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence. If you’re the victim of emotional abuse, you may feel that there is no way out of the relationship, or that without your abusive partner you have nothing. Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence. You may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since physical violence can send you to the hospital and leave you with scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse—sometimes even more so. Furthermore, emotional abuse usually worsens over time, often escalating to physical battery. Sexual abuse Sexual abuse is common in abusive relationships. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, between one-third and one-half of all battered women are raped by their partners at least once during their relationship. Any situation in which you are forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity is sexual abuse. Forced sex, even by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence. Furthermore, women whose partners abuse them physically and sexually are at a higher risk of being seriously injured or killed. Economic or financial abuse Remember, an abuser’s goal is to control you, and he will frequently use money to do so. Economic or financial abuse includes: Rigidly controlling your finances. Withholding money or credit cards. Making you account for every penny you spend. Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter). Restricting you to an allowance. Preventing you from working or choosing your own career. Sabotaging your job (making you miss work, calling constantly) Stealing from you or taking your money.

11-19-2009, 02:25 PM	#13
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Thanks Linus! Linus, Actually, Rosie called me from work to tell me about it. I was playing with the furkids, and eating some lunch when all of this was going down. I had no idea until then. I am waiting for a 2nd phone call from her later on. She is going into a meeting with her boss and her boss's boss. I will let you know more later. Thanks, Andrew

11-19-2009, 12:22 PM	#2
Sam Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 2/11/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: I'll let you know Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,101 Thanked 668 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 0	I support Domestic Violence, i usually pick a charity every year in November to get donations for, then i usually match whatever donations i can get with my own earnings. This year i picked Project Safe in Athens Georgia. So far on my facebook group and my twitter has brought in $500, so i'm still striding for $1000.00. So you can donate here x and you can join my fb group and forward the group to all your friends and family. x You cam pm me anytime. thanks

11-19-2009, 01:26 PM	#3
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Why is the facebook coming up under the name of Sherri Rosenberg and not Sam Jankowski?

11-19-2009, 01:37 PM	#5
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Sam, You need to delete it. It still comes up Sherri Rosenberg. And no you couldn't have just thought it up.

11-19-2009, 01:58 PM	#6
apretty Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: sea shell Relationship Status: married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: san diego Posts: 1,687 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,927 Thanked 4,377 Times in 1,015 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	i get Sam Jankowski.

11-19-2009, 02:04 PM	#7
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	APD, Is that the name next to Setting?

11-19-2009, 02:09 PM	#9
Softly Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Seattle Posts: 655 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 465 Thanked 701 Times in 253 Posts Rep Power: 3646035	Sam here too.

11-19-2009, 02:11 PM	#10
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	I too am getting Domestic Violence Group and Sam. No need at all to take it down. I'll donate later today.

11-19-2009, 02:18 PM	#11
Sam Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 2/11/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: I'll let you know Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,101 Thanked 668 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 0	ok thank you all, i had it set to private, but its still coming up as mine. i appreciate the donations. thank you

11-19-2009, 02:39 PM	#14
Admin Administrator How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: The Planet Posts: 1,686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 394 Thanked 5,633 Times in 1,013 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Need to clarify: Are donations going directly to Project Safe in Atlanta? Edited to Add: Sorry, I need to close this thread. It is fine to ask for donations for various causes but I must insist that any plea for donations must be with a link that goes directly to the cause in question. There is a direct paypal link available for Project Safe for those wanting to help. http://projectsafegeorgia.org/contact_psga.htm Nothing personal against anyone here, great work!