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I don't do the blind date thing.
I have to have been in your company and at least know you *some* before it ever gets to the date point. In the mean time, I'm running down my check list. Do you know how to have fun? It can be the littlest of things....will I see you playing toss with the dog? Maybe the furball prefers a frisbee? I'm very outdoorsy. Will you walk in the woods on a hike? Do you own a bicycle that you ride? Does everything you do involve a cooler of beer? What does your vehical look like? I don't care if it's an older model...but as many have stated, I do care if it's loaded down with drive thru bags. Have you washed the vehical recently? Things have gone on in the economy that have affected people in some very painful ways. I have a friend who had to let her car go and another friend at age 49, who had to move in with her parents. How are you handling these types of life changing events, IF something to this effect has happened to you.....because as we all know, life goes on. That will speak volumes to me about your character. I'm not about money nor am I about material...they are just things. I am about character and intergrity. So show me your true colors, you'll see mine. I am what I am. Nothing pretentious about me. Oh, one final thing....please do not try to impress me. Actions speak louder than words. If I am comfortable in your company, we may get to the *date*
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How I want to be treated during a date
I am a simple femme; I am neither comfortable with fancy restaurants or the stuffy clothes you wear to fancy restaurants. On the other hand, I do like for us to get dressed up once in a while, say for a special occasion like my love's b-day.
Since I consider myself a simple femme, just spending time together is fine for me. We don't have to 'do' anything, we can just 'be'. Does that make sense? Put away the cell phone! Don't play the games on your phone or get on Twitter or Facebook while on a date with me. I really enjoy eye contact while we are talking, it lets me know you are listening to me. I also enjoy sitting outside in the evening, using that time to get to know each other is priceless. As I've seen in other posts I agree completely that good oral hygiene is a must!
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oh ok
you win on our next first date you can just wear boxers of course we will be ordering in
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one word: Judy
she is old and in bad health and she checks up on us by looking out her kitchen window and looking into our living room oh, wait she has probably seen it all before
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If she hasn't I'd be afeared
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this derail has been brought to you by the letters A and C
now back to the actual thread topic sorry *giggle*
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I haven't actually dated a lot, so I'm only an authority on what I like (or imagine I would...) and, like ami, it's hypothetical since Scoote hates it when I date.
Anyway...like June posted, I'm actually not comfortable with someone paying for me. I'm fine if we stop for a coffee and you pay....but I'm not comfortable with you taking me out and spending a great deal. If we end up in a relationship then we can talk about how we want to manage our finances and I might get more flexible (but don't count on it ) For me, the key is to pay attention...and communicate. Like others have said...turn off the phone, don't text, don't lecture me or dominate the conversation. Talk to me. Be courteous to me, and also to others - including servers and strangers. I prefer to do something that allows us to talk...and that really can be a cup of coffee, even at McDonald's. The beach is good, parks are good, movies are good as long as we can talk about it afterwards (and not during it or I'll be very irritated with you). You don't need to open my door or pull out my chair...and definitely don't try to impress me. Be yourself - and if your self is a nice self...then I'm happy.
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For me it is the time spent with me on the date...
I am just as happy walking the beach with the date as sitting in a concert... Well more happy with the beach.. we are able to talk and i do love to talk and be heard .... I guess it is the company that is most important to me.. Don't get me wrong I do love to be taken out from time to time... But a quick call saying hey do you feel like getting out and hitting the park or beach or just enjoying each other is just as important to me. |
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wine me, dine me, 69 me. lol oppps
Your all funny. I ain't never turning down a gift. Bring me lots of flowers. Spoil me. I'll spoil ya back. Don't ever keep me waiting.
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Gawd I hate dates.
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You are so badddddd....lol. Great posts all!!!! Hope is okay for a "butch" to post! I got "derailed" once already!!! lol Clay
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I don't date anymore ...wait we still do date nite so I suppose I do date. But just Him *grin*
On our first *official* date, Daddy took me to a Red Sox game !!!! He listened to me when we talked about what I liked. So this dyed in the wool Yankee Fan got really great seats and took me to a Red Sox game. I don't need fancy dinners to impress me, but I do like to get dressed up and enjoy an evening out on the town. Flowers don't impress me anymore because they die, but to have something planted just for me is the bomb. Strolls on the beach and stop by a place that sells seafood wins my heart, even tho He doesn't eat it, he always picks a place that He knows they offer seafood because I do. For me it's the little things, making sure we have a place to enjoy our meal and conversation. and allowing me to pay now and then - I like planning a date as well and I like knowing we went somewhere special as my treat. I think a lot of people just assume a butch has to pay and I don't. If I'm flush I'm all about spoiling my date - well He's my last date lol but I do love to spoil him in return. I'm digressing - I guess what I would add is find out what she likes, and pay attention to her. Put away the cell phone, and try to go somewhere new where you have the time to give her the attention and not your friends who happen to be hanging in your favorite place. The spit and shine is a given, even if it's a beach date a clean butch is a dateable butch lol. Open her door, shower her with attention, if you feel the need bring her a single rose to let her know you were thinking of her. IMHO giving presents on a date is not something I would want.... If you get to date 2 by then you know her fav music and bringing along a cd is acceptable. Don't get drunk!! nothing worse than being with someone and you're drunk and you're their ride home. Keep your ex in a neat lil box where she belongs.....I can't stress that enough. You're dating her not the ex lol Be yourself, be pleasant and charming, the person you presented to her when you asked for the date. Don't assume sex - it's a date not a committment
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My biggest pet peeve: " I don't know, what do YOU want to do?"
So help me, if you ask me out and you don't have a plan, I will get right out of that car and go back in the house! i love surprises. One time a very good friend of mine picked me up at my house and made me put a blindfold on. After an hour I was still giddy, but mildly cranky and started being a pain in the butt. He parked and let me peek out the bottom of the blindfold so i could see the paving stone path I needed to walk on, then i had to be all blindfolded again until he put my hand on a railing and it sounded like thunder everywhere. He took me to Niagara Falls at night to see the lightshow on the mist. It was the most amazing thing anyone has ever done for me, and it surprised the hell out of me. A surprise. Something beautiful. Plenty of time to talk or just be quiet and enjoy the experience together. That's what I love. Although, at this point I would just be happy to get asked out at all. I'm with some of the others who have posted here, I'm over being the emotional and financial support for masculine-types who have some work to do. Maybe I'm less warm now that I'm looking out for myself, but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do.
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To me...a first date is really important. You know the old saying "You only get one chance to make a first impression". I find that to be true. And a good impression needn't be made with an expensive dinner, or gifts. To me, its all about respect. Putting effort or thought into a date shows that you think I am special, and that my company is valued. Treat me like a lady...that may sound old fashioned, but that is what I am and I want to be treated as such.
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Great posts in here!!!
I'm simple when it comes to going on a date. I just like the old fashion sort of stuff. A movie in home or out, a walk, a nice low budget dinner, hand holding, door opening, a smile, a touch, interesting converstation and hopefully a connection. Best part about a great date is the offer of a second.
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I do like to be taken out to dinner, but nothing too flashy...I like it more down to earth, a nice Italian/Greek/Turkish restaurant is good.
I don't really like going to the movies on dates, because I am really looking to make more of an emotional connection, and I personally don't think much of a connection is made, while two people stare at the same screen in silence (but that is just me.) I do like a little bit of being "taken care of" doors open etc...I appreciate it as a sweet gesture, but on the other hand it isn't mandatory. LOL Conversation though is a must, going for a walk is wonderful...Walking and talking, yep.
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