If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently? - Page 2

Rockinonahigh · 07-14-2010, 12:17 PM

One thing I should have done in the past is take better care of me insted of busting my ass doing things for ppl who didnt appresheate it.Over the years I have given so many ppl in my life slack when they did things that were not good for me cause I was a ppl pleaser insted of seeing them for who and what they were befor it was to late...this caused me no end of self dislike for being such a push over.Now im a lot more careful and not as trusting as I once was...I really hate that I have lost a lot of trust I once had of ppl's objectives.I would like to think I can still trust folks and I do in reality its just I wonder when I let ppl into my life if they are going to use me for whatever thay want then..im nothing but an object to get the place they want to be or get.I hope that made some sence,well I did to me anyway..

MrSunshine · 07-14-2010, 01:22 PM

There was a time I would (I even had that as a wish in my profile) but now, no way. I wouldn't want to take the chance of having to re-live some of the shit I've lived through. Once was more than enough.

chefhottie25 · 07-14-2010, 07:22 PM

I wouldn't do anything different. It has been a crazy ride and a beautiful journey. I needed to take them both to grow.

Leigh · 07-14-2010, 08:00 PM

There are a couple of things that I would have done differently, but right now I think that I was meant to do things as they were and it has moulded Me into the person that I am today

sweetfemme247 · 07-14-2010, 08:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Braedon

There are a couple of things that I would have done differently, but right now I think that I was meant to do things as they were and it has moulded Me into the person that I am today

I could think of a couple things you could of done differently

Leigh · 07-14-2010, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by everettdiva

I could think of a couple things you could of done differently

Yes I agree I could have and I wanted to, but there's nothing I can do about that now right? Its in the past and I cant change that

sweetfemme247 · 07-14-2010, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Braedon

Yes I agree I could have and I wanted to, but there's nothing I can do about that now right? Its in the past and I cant change that

i was only teasing no need to get defensive

Jesse · 07-14-2010, 08:24 PM

If anything at all, I would have learned certain lessons the first time rather than having to experience repeated performances.

sweetfemme247 · 07-14-2010, 08:26 PM

if i could change something from the past it would be not give people so many chances when it comes to love and dont trust to many people with my feelings and life............ nothing I can change now, I have made alot of friends and also came across alot of people who are full of drama and love to just sit and gossip about everyone and everything.

Lynn · 07-14-2010, 08:33 PM

I wish I had sought the help of career advisors at important junctures in my life. I became a social worker because I wanted to help people, but also because it seemed like the easiest route to a career. Well, it was. But, now that I'm older and really interested in growing, professionally, I am finding it financially impossible to go back to school. I wish I had become a lawyer. I could have helped people, been intellectually challenged, and actually have made a decent living. It does get tiring when I have to worry about paying the bills every single month.

Otherwise, I'm pretty happy with the way things have turned out. If I had made other decisions, I might not have the joys of my children, my home, and my relationship.

Soft*Silver · 07-14-2010, 09:02 PM

I would not have been sitting at that red light when the semi hit my car

I would not have drank Nov 11 2008

I would have moved to a warmer state but one that still had fall

I would have had one or two more children

I would have gone on for my PhD

ruthie14 · 07-14-2010, 09:59 PM

I would have gotten a bachelors degree instead of an assoiciates.

I would have tried to have a child earlier.. maybe then I could have had one of my own.

I would have come out a lot earlier had I known.

I would not trust so easily, forgive so readily, or take crap from anyone for who I am.

Woulda shoulda coulda .... gets me no where

ravfem · 07-15-2010, 11:20 AM

i'd go back to March 9, which is "Get Over It" Day so i could go round tellin
everybody to just get over it already! (starting with myself)

BornBronson · 07-20-2010, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by BornBronson

I was a Hollywood runaway rape victim at age 11.That turned me into the person that I became for the next 30 years of my life...it was not a nice person.I couldn't see how wrong my life style was until just recently.I was a brute,a monster,especially to the female race.Some of you experienced that side of me personally.I'm sorry.

Of course there's no turning back time.

I'm much nicer these days,trust me.

In other words I would of never ran away to Hollywood.
I hate that town.*snort*

Thanks for all your feedback.

Boots13 · 07-20-2010, 03:09 PM

Oh yeah, without a doubt
I definitely would have

lifted with my legs !

My back is killiing me.

I'm really serious about this...

Venus007 · 07-21-2010, 01:05 AM

I would have taken all that money I spent on booze and drugs in my wild, wild youth and invested it, I could have been retired by now.

Words · 07-21-2010, 01:53 AM

I wouldn't have left home at 16.

I would have done it sooner.

NJFemmie · 07-21-2010, 07:04 AM

There are things I wish didn't happen.
There have been moments in my life I wish I could erase.
In retrospect, the things I've learned because of it all have been priceless, and for that reason, I wouldn't change it. I might have wanted to tweak it a little, but certainly not change it.

JustJo · 07-21-2010, 07:30 AM

Pick different parents

MsTinkerbelly · 07-21-2010, 07:56 AM

I have thought long and hard about this, since my answer to this question has always been "I wouldn't change a thing, because all I have I owe to where I've been", but that doesn't hold so true any more.

I would have had more children for certain, although my Amy has always been enough.

I would have spent more time with my Mom and Dad before they passed....God, I miss them every single day. I have no regrets about the quality of our relationships, but I feel cheated out of time with them.

That is all I guess.

07-14-2010, 08:24 PM	#28
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,793 Times in 3,939 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	If anything at all, I would have learned certain lessons the first time rather than having to experience repeated performances. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

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sweetfemme247 Member How Do You Identify?: fem Preferred Pronoun?: femme, she, her, baby, sweetie Relationship Status: holding my heart close and putting back up a wall Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: california, palm springs Posts: 994 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 206 Thanked 719 Times in 350 Posts Rep Power: 4115670	if i could change something from the past it would be not give people so many chances when it comes to love and dont trust to many people with my feelings and life............ nothing I can change now, I have made alot of friends and also came across alot of people who are full of drama and love to just sit and gossip about everyone and everything. __________________ Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. Jim Rohn

07-14-2010, 08:33 PM	#30
Lynn Member How Do You Identify?: Unabashed Feminine Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Her, She Relationship Status: Married! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 689 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,499 Thanked 2,416 Times in 504 Posts Rep Power: 9668974	I wish I had sought the help of career advisors at important junctures in my life. I became a social worker because I wanted to help people, but also because it seemed like the easiest route to a career. Well, it was. But, now that I'm older and really interested in growing, professionally, I am finding it financially impossible to go back to school. I wish I had become a lawyer. I could have helped people, been intellectually challenged, and actually have made a decent living. It does get tiring when I have to worry about paying the bills every single month. Otherwise, I'm pretty happy with the way things have turned out. If I had made other decisions, I might not have the joys of my children, my home, and my relationship. __________________ In the flush of love's light we dare be brave And suddenly we see that love costs all we are and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free. Maya Angelou Wedding Photos: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...1&l=22b092b98c

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SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,502 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,430 Thanked 15,622 Times in 3,976 Posts Rep Power*: 21474856	I would not have been sitting at that red light when the semi hit my car I would not have drank Nov 11 2008 I would have moved to a warmer state but one that still had fall I would have had one or two more children I would have gone on for my PhD __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-15-2010, 11:20 AM	#33
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07-14-2010, 12:17 PM	#21
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,937 Times in 3,936 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	One thing I should have done in the past is take better care of me insted of busting my ass doing things for ppl who didnt appresheate it.Over the years I have given so many ppl in my life slack when they did things that were not good for me cause I was a ppl pleaser insted of seeing them for who and what they were befor it was to late...this caused me no end of self dislike for being such a push over.Now im a lot more careful and not as trusting as I once was...I really hate that I have lost a lot of trust I once had of ppl's objectives.I would like to think I can still trust folks and I do in reality its just I wonder when I let ppl into my life if they are going to use me for whatever thay want then..im nothing but an object to get the place they want to be or get.I hope that made some sence,well I did to me anyway..

07-14-2010, 01:22 PM	#22
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,889 Times in 1,154 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	There was a time I would (I even had that as a wish in my profile) but now, no way. I wouldn't want to take the chance of having to re-live some of the shit I've lived through. Once was more than enough.

07-14-2010, 07:22 PM	#23
chefhottie25 Member How Do You Identify?: boi Preferred Pronoun?: hy Relationship Status: happily taken Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: ohio Posts: 1,406 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26 Thanked 889 Times in 477 Posts Rep Power: 1175216	I wouldn't do anything different. It has been a crazy ride and a beautiful journey. I needed to take them both to grow.

07-14-2010, 08:00 PM	#24
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07-14-2010, 09:59 PM	#32
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,243 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5731586	I would have gotten a bachelors degree instead of an assoiciates. I would have tried to have a child earlier.. maybe then I could have had one of my own. I would have come out a lot earlier had I known. I would not trust so easily, forgive so readily, or take crap from anyone for who I am. Woulda shoulda coulda .... gets me no where

07-20-2010, 03:09 PM	#35
Boots13 Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: No Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: PNW Posts: 823 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,387 Thanked 2,315 Times in 428 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Oh yeah, without a doubt I definitely would have lifted with my legs ! My back is killiing me. I'm really serious about this...

07-21-2010, 01:05 AM	#36
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07-21-2010, 01:53 AM	#37
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NJFemmie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The original lime-twisted femme Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to most things, especially lesbian. Relationship Status: Still loving my Mare ;) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 4,683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,343 Thanked 11,425 Times in 2,978 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	There are things I wish didn't happen. There have been moments in my life I wish I could erase. In retrospect, the things I've learned because of it all have been priceless, and for that reason, I wouldn't change it. I might have wanted to tweak it a little, but certainly not change it. __________________

07-21-2010, 07:30 AM	#39
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MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,958 Times in 5,020 Posts Rep Power: 0	I have thought long and hard about this, since my answer to this question has always been "I wouldn't change a thing, because all I have I owe to where I've been", but that doesn't hold so true any more. I would have had more children for certain, although my Amy has always been enough. I would have spent more time with my Mom and Dad before they passed....God, I miss them every single day. I have no regrets about the quality of our relationships, but I feel cheated out of time with them. That is all I guess.