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Old 10-30-2011, 10:01 AM   #21
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I have always been called a BBW because it seems to be the label that is put on me, I am 5'7 and very curvy, I can be a bit self conscious at times because when I was younger I was bullied for being on the bigger side, despite the fact I played many sports and was very active in the Girl Scouts and all the activities, I've always been a bit on the fuller side, It took me a long time to get to where I am today, I still have my moments but for the most part I am okay with myself, I carry myself well, my head held high and with as much confidence as I can muster.
I am honestly not bothered with labels, fat, curvy, voluptuous, its all good
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Old 01-26-2012, 06:52 PM   #22
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i find the "what qualifies as bbw" conversation really interesting especially because of how it's classified with regards to porn and the fetish community...i had this discussion with some other sex workers recently. there's a line between curvy/bbw/ssbbw but no one's exactly sure where it falls.

my understanding is something along the lines of curvy is big hips/ass/tits but not a lot of stomach - the 'higher' end of 'normal' on the bmi scale (which i hate, but it's semi-useful for understanding how other people classify us as fat folks). bbw tends to be 'overweight' on bmi scale. ssbbw tends to fall farther into the 'obese' range. so when i weighed 240-250 i was bordering on ssbbw. now (at 215) i'm firmly in the bbw range. if i lost about 40-60 more lbs i'd probably be in the curvy range. the highest size i've worn was a 22/2x, now i usually wear an 18 (or a 20 in jeans) and xl-1x.

it's really confusing because i know a lot of sex workers who id as bbw for the sake of appealing to niche customers but aren't really considered bbw by fetishists as they aren't big enough. and breast/ass size plays into it a lot...having smaller breasts but a bigger stomach is more likely to get you classified as a bbw by others regardless of your actual weight.

personally i'm not a huge fan of bbw as a label for myself but it gets put on me a lot. i associate it with being fetishized and while i'm okay with that when i'm getting paid for it, it's not something i enjoy privately (although i know there are plenty of bbws who do, and that's cool). i tend to date people who prefer or at least like big women because i love my body and i have no desire to change it (so i am not getting involved w/someone who thinks i'm a fixer upper), but i won't date people who are into me primarily/solely because of my body size. i prefer terms like thick, curvy, voluptuous, fat, etc. when describing myself.
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Old 01-31-2012, 08:53 PM   #23
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I don't know if there is really anything that does qualify as bbw; anyone can say a certain size or a certain weight is considered a bbw but I just don't know if its fair to consider someone a bbw ........... it doesn't really bother me but even still just seems kinda silly to me personally.
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I've been called BBW, I guess if I must have a label this is it, but I'll say one thing.....So?? "go big or go home!!"
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