What does ButchFemmePlanet.com mean to me?

curlyredhead · 04-27-2013, 05:19 PM

This is a place for you to express your personal connection to this wonderful site.

My thoughts are and this how I view our world.

The spectrum of the community is so large and so vast. Its not black and white.

If you take a photo and you zoom it in as far as it goes all you see is little boxes. Not all
Of us fit in that box perfectly. This is what makes each and everyone of us unique.
The bfp site allows us to be who we are and stand proud. This makes us whole. Sexual orientation and gender identity and labels are all fluid.

Feel free to chime in your thoughts.

Heavenleahangel · 04-27-2013, 06:06 PM

Excellent thread! I think I will add my 2 cents.

Finding the Planet was like finding a second home. A place where, in theory and principal, you fit in no matter what and are accepted. I say in theory because while others do not agree with you, or don't find the same things you like to be appealing, you are not judged or degraded for it.
Here at "home" we have over-see-ers like parents who make sure we are on our best behavior and not over stepping the boundaries of the sanctum of the House/rules. They put their all into this House to keep it a safe, nonjudmental place for E/everyone who *respects* it and each other.
There are many "relatives" {Daddies, Unkles, Aunties, Mommies, Sisters and Bros} and we come from all walks of life and ethnicity, but thats the cool part! We are all still "connected" by the threads that we create and write and where the freedom to be ourselves can be expressed in our words. We can support each other, disagree, be as goofy/funky/serious/zany or bodacious as you care to be and it's all ok cuz there are probably others who feel the same way you do! We're that cool!
And we all know how wild and crazy our family "reunions" can get! Yup! We are a family. Welcome to the Planet! Welcome Home!

Just my humble opinion. Thank you to all who makes the Planet possible!

WolfyOne · 04-27-2013, 06:14 PM

Without the vision from Dusa to create this safe home away from home for me, for everyone, I'd probably still be very closed off in my posts at other sites. Here, I have come into my own and am not afraid to speak up and out. I originally said when I came here that I would not want anyone to go through what I did at another site...the fear of posting, the fear of having someone jump my ass with each word I write. It's why I advocate for the newbies here who have a little trouble expressing in words how they feel. I have learned so much about myself and others over the last few years because of all the open and honest people here. I have much thanks to give to many of you for all the patience and kindness you've showed me and others.

This is such a wonderful community filled with love and admiration for one another. I, personally couldn't think of a better community than this one I belong to. All of you, even those I don't know well mean the world to me. You have all touched a part of my heart through your words, your posts and the way you interact with others.

Medusa and Jack, I couldn't ask for better chosen family. For those that don't know much about you, should know how kind, caring and full of compassion that you are. How not only do you open your hearts to your own families, but you open your hearts to to this community.

June, you're truly a softy that has to be tough when times call for it. You love others more than you let on and I ♥ you for that.

Linus, you have given of yourself even when you know your limits have been stretched to the max...like the energizer bunny, you keep moving forward.

And our moderators, all I can say is, they tolerate all they can until they MUST step in and make things either better, easier or with more clarity.

Without this community, a part of me would be lost. Sure, I'd still have my friends and chosen family, but I would lose a part of my self expression. And we all know how much I like to express myself or should I say expose, lol.

Looking forward to many more years and making many more friends because this site exists.

Heavenleahangel · 04-29-2013, 08:08 AM

BUMP!!!!! Come on, Folks! What does this wonderful Planet mean to you?????

Nat · 04-29-2013, 09:41 AM

In many ways to me it means home.

curlyredhead · 04-29-2013, 11:00 AM

A place where you can feel safe and be who you are and not be judged!

ArkansasPiscesGrrl · 04-29-2013, 11:51 AM

A place that can help you DISCOVER who you are, give meaning to the jumbled up thoughts and feelings you have, and then help encourage you to CELEBRATE and OWN the finished product!

(well, at least that is what happened, and essentially continues to happen with me. I am a work in progress. You all have helped me, and countless others, in learning what it could possibly MEAN to be a Femme, or a Butch, or a bottom or Top, or any other friggin cubbyhole you might want to explore. And all the while, loving us, and encouraging us, and crying with us when we cry, laughing with us (and sometimes at us!) when we laugh, teaching us when we question. Finally accepting us, moreso than I think I have ever been accepted in a community before.)

Bad_boi · 05-19-2013, 11:53 PM

It is a place for making friends. It is a place of unity and acceptance.

When I started coming here I started out IDing as butch and then I started to accept being an FTM. People here continue to support me even though I am somewhat different. I am still me. I feel that people of all identities need their own space but when we come together in support that is what really matters. Someday I hope the world will be as open and accepting for all minorities as this site has been accepting to me.

Chelsius · 05-20-2013, 06:59 PM

Camaraderie, friendship. It's a safe place.

afrcnqueen · 12-08-2015, 10:45 AM

The Planet means to me Education (boy have I learned some things about the queer/gay/lesbian community)...laughed along the way by learning terms like "fuckery" made wonderful friends that I will keep forever :-) it has been a wonderful journey

Chad · 12-08-2015, 06:41 PM

For me BFP provides a sense of community, support, friendship, and chosen family. I have made some wonderful friendships here.

homoe · 12-08-2015, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Chad

For me BFP provides a sense of community, support, friendship, and chosen family. I have made some wonderful friendships here.

Ya, exactly what Chad said

Tuff Stuff · 10-04-2017, 03:14 PM

Keeps me informed on what's going on in the community and society at large,but mostly the community.The company ain't so bad, either.

JDeere · 07-30-2016, 07:03 PM

Community that I can connect with, when I don't get to get out much with the outside community here in town, I actually don't hang out with any b/f folks here in my side of town.

Gayandgray · 08-05-2016, 06:17 AM

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Originally Posted by JDeere

Community that I can connect with, when I don't get to get out much with the outside community here in town, I actually don't hang out with any b/f folks here in my side of town.

I'm pretty much in the same boat. And with my spouse so sick, it's hard to go out anywhere or get together with friends.

Zimmeh · 08-05-2016, 07:01 PM

I found this site thanks to the DayWalkers. Ever since, I joined, I have laughed and cried at the posts here. I have attended several Reunions and I am hoping to attend another one soon! The best one, is when Medusa changed my name from Zimmyglrl to Zimmeh

Where I currently live, there isn't much of a lgbtq community, so this is my safe place. I love chatting with people from all over the world and I look forward to making new friends along this journey.

Zimmeh

pumpndude · 11-21-2016, 07:53 PM

A place where I can come and be myself, not judged...
also a place to share my thoughts on topics and make friends too...

thank you,
ButchFemmePlanet Family

introverted1 · 11-24-2016, 04:58 PM

I like being in a place where people get me. As in, "Yes, I really do need to fix my hair and apply makeup before I go hiking." LOL!

cathexis · 10-04-2017, 02:39 PM

BFP is a place where I'm judged on the quality of my discourse or argument not on looks, scars, body dimensions, or clothes.

For me, it's one of 2 sites regularly visited. The most intimate one. My online activity, Partner, and anonymous trips to the store make up the day. Of course, there's a few doctor's appointments per month.

Am glad y'all are here. Thank you.

Dominique · 03-28-2018, 11:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cathexis

BFP is a place where I'm judged on the quality of my discourse or argument not on looks, scars, body dimensions, or clothes.

YES!

I love the discourse. I am a very passionate person, so naturally when the threads HEAT UP, I am most interested. We have some very talented writers here.

04-27-2013, 05:19 PM	#1
curlyredhead Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Female to Male "Straight" Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Plano, TX Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 644 Thanked 893 Times in 265 Posts Rep Power: 5285383	What does ButchFemmePlanet.com mean to me? This is a place for you to express your personal connection to this wonderful site. My thoughts are and this how I view our world. The spectrum of the community is so large and so vast. Its not black and white. If you take a photo and you zoom it in as far as it goes all you see is little boxes. Not all Of us fit in that box perfectly. This is what makes each and everyone of us unique. The bfp site allows us to be who we are and stand proud. This makes us whole. Sexual orientation and gender identity and labels are all fluid. Feel free to chime in your thoughts.

04-27-2013, 06:06 PM	#2
Heavenleahangel Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Femme; Earth bound Angel and Babygirl; Preferred Pronoun?: She, Angel, as long as it's respectful Relationship Status: Waiting for the One who can complete me Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Albany, NY~but originally from Georgia Posts: 562 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,257 Thanked 2,069 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 18675552	Excellent thread! I think I will add my 2 cents. Finding the Planet was like finding a second home. A place where, in theory and principal, you fit in no matter what and are accepted. I say in theory because while others do not agree with you, or don't find the same things you like to be appealing, you are not judged or degraded for it. Here at "home" we have over-see-ers like parents who make sure we are on our best behavior and not over stepping the boundaries of the sanctum of the House/rules. They put their all into this House to keep it a safe, nonjudmental place for E/everyone who respects it and each other. There are many "relatives" {Daddies, Unkles, Aunties, Mommies, Sisters and Bros} and we come from all walks of life and ethnicity, but thats the cool part! We are all still "connected" by the threads that we create and write and where the freedom to be ourselves can be expressed in our words. We can support each other, disagree, be as goofy/funky/serious/zany or bodacious as you care to be and it's all ok cuz there are probably others who feel the same way you do! We're that cool! And we all know how wild and crazy our family "reunions" can get! Yup! We are a family. Welcome to the Planet! Welcome Home! Just my humble opinion. Thank you to all who makes the Planet possible! __________________ Sweet Georgia Peach

04-27-2013, 06:14 PM	#3
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,407 Times in 4,139 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Without the vision from Dusa to create this safe home away from home for me, for everyone, I'd probably still be very closed off in my posts at other sites. Here, I have come into my own and am not afraid to speak up and out. I originally said when I came here that I would not want anyone to go through what I did at another site...the fear of posting, the fear of having someone jump my ass with each word I write. It's why I advocate for the newbies here who have a little trouble expressing in words how they feel. I have learned so much about myself and others over the last few years because of all the open and honest people here. I have much thanks to give to many of you for all the patience and kindness you've showed me and others. This is such a wonderful community filled with love and admiration for one another. I, personally couldn't think of a better community than this one I belong to. All of you, even those I don't know well mean the world to me. You have all touched a part of my heart through your words, your posts and the way you interact with others. Medusa and Jack, I couldn't ask for better chosen family. For those that don't know much about you, should know how kind, caring and full of compassion that you are. How not only do you open your hearts to your own families, but you open your hearts to to this community. June, you're truly a softy that has to be tough when times call for it. You love others more than you let on and I ♥ you for that. Linus, you have given of yourself even when you know your limits have been stretched to the max...like the energizer bunny, you keep moving forward. And our moderators, all I can say is, they tolerate all they can until they MUST step in and make things either better, easier or with more clarity. Without this community, a part of me would be lost. Sure, I'd still have my friends and chosen family, but I would lose a part of my self expression. And we all know how much I like to express myself or should I say expose, lol. Looking forward to many more years and making many more friends because this site exists. __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

04-29-2013, 08:08 AM	#4
Heavenleahangel Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Femme; Earth bound Angel and Babygirl; Preferred Pronoun?: She, Angel, as long as it's respectful Relationship Status: Waiting for the One who can complete me Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Albany, NY~but originally from Georgia Posts: 562 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,257 Thanked 2,069 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 18675552	BUMP!!!!! Come on, Folks! What does this wonderful Planet mean to you????? __________________ Sweet Georgia Peach

04-29-2013, 09:41 AM	#5
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender Preferred Pronoun?: whatevs Relationship Status: in a relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Tx Posts: 3,535 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,042 Thanked 13,992 Times in 2,595 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	In many ways to me it means home. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

04-29-2013, 11:00 AM	#6
curlyredhead Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Female to Male "Straight" Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Plano, TX Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 644 Thanked 893 Times in 265 Posts Rep Power: 5285383	A place where you can feel safe and be who you are and not be judged!

04-29-2013, 11:51 AM	#7
ArkansasPiscesGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: feeling pretty darned blissful right now! Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: central AR Posts: 856 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,594 Thanked 3,080 Times in 741 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	A place that can help you DISCOVER who you are, give meaning to the jumbled up thoughts and feelings you have, and then help encourage you to CELEBRATE and OWN the finished product! (well, at least that is what happened, and essentially continues to happen with me. I am a work in progress. You all have helped me, and countless others, in learning what it could possibly MEAN to be a Femme, or a Butch, or a bottom or Top, or any other friggin cubbyhole you might want to explore. And all the while, loving us, and encouraging us, and crying with us when we cry, laughing with us (and sometimes at us!) when we laugh, teaching us when we question. Finally accepting us, moreso than I think I have ever been accepted in a community before.)

05-19-2013, 11:53 PM	#8
Bad_boi Member How Do You Identify?: Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status: Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Seattle Posts: 727 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 0	It is a place for making friends. It is a place of unity and acceptance. When I started coming here I started out IDing as butch and then I started to accept being an FTM. People here continue to support me even though I am somewhat different. I am still me. I feel that people of all identities need their own space but when we come together in support that is what really matters. Someday I hope the world will be as open and accepting for all minorities as this site has been accepting to me.

05-20-2013, 06:59 PM	#9
Chelsius Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queerdo Lady Unit Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: WI Posts: 76 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 33 Thanked 201 Times in 65 Posts Rep Power: 978930	Camaraderie, friendship. It's a safe place. __________________ “Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open.” - Albus Dumbledore

12-08-2015, 10:45 AM	#10
afrcnqueen Member How Do You Identify?: By name Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Happy on my journey to Self- Love!! :-) Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: where Love resides..... Posts: 278 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,176 Thanked 704 Times in 208 Posts Rep Power: 8314034	The Planet means to me Education (boy have I learned some things about the queer/gay/lesbian community)...laughed along the way by learning terms like "fuckery" made wonderful friends that I will keep forever :-) it has been a wonderful journey __________________ I know I'm a handful, but that's what you've got two hands for...

12-08-2015, 06:41 PM	#11
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,325 Times in 5,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	BFP For me BFP provides a sense of community, support, friendship, and chosen family. I have made some wonderful friendships here.

10-04-2017, 03:14 PM	#13
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,318 Times in 506 Posts Rep Power: 9408452	Keeps me informed on what's going on in the community and society at large,but mostly the community.The company ain't so bad, either.

07-30-2016, 07:03 PM	#14
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,871 Times in 9,718 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	Community that I can connect with, when I don't get to get out much with the outside community here in town, I actually don't hang out with any b/f folks here in my side of town.

08-05-2016, 07:01 PM	#16
Zimmeh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: I am a human and not a possession Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Volusia County, FL Posts: 6,746 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23,549 Thanked 13,441 Times in 4,316 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I found this site thanks to the DayWalkers. Ever since, I joined, I have laughed and cried at the posts here. I have attended several Reunions and I am hoping to attend another one soon! The best one, is when Medusa changed my name from Zimmyglrl to Zimmeh Where I currently live, there isn't much of a lgbtq community, so this is my safe place. I love chatting with people from all over the world and I look forward to making new friends along this journey. Zimmeh __________________ "A loving heart is the truest wisdom" -Chinua Achebe

11-21-2016, 07:53 PM	#17
pumpndude Member How Do You Identify?: Good Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: Sonora, CA Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 211 Times in 70 Posts Rep Power: 1503250	A place where I can come and be myself, not judged... also a place to share my thoughts on topics and make friends too... thank you, ButchFemmePlanet Family __________________ Everything Ending Is Also A Beginning We Just Don't Know It At The Time

11-24-2016, 04:58 PM	#18
introverted1 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: introville Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 422 Thanked 741 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 7058200	I like being in a place where people get me. As in, "Yes, I really do need to fix my hair and apply makeup before I go hiking." LOL!

10-04-2017, 02:39 PM	#19
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,710 Times in 1,603 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	BFP is a place where I'm judged on the quality of my discourse or argument not on looks, scars, body dimensions, or clothes. For me, it's one of 2 sites regularly visited. The most intimate one. My online activity, Partner, and anonymous trips to the store make up the day. Of course, there's a few doctor's appointments per month. Am glad y'all are here. Thank you.