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03-06-2012, 01:59 PM | #1 |
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Important things I learned from past relationships
I feel like I spend all my time on here focusing on my past bad relationships, whereas most of mine have been really good! Of course memories are always slightly tainted by breakups (which are never nice) but I always walk away with something valuable, no matter how awful the relationship.
I learned I had a beautiful voice and that I could sing from the first person I truly loved. I learned about dirty, kinky sex from another relationship which unfortunately turned dirty and nasty. I learned that organisation isn't that hard, from someone I admire to this day, and I learned that I can write from a relationship which left me broke What important things have you learned which you can't now live without?
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03-06-2012, 03:24 PM | #2 |
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my need for kink!!! my first Sir taught me that
my love for doing bodywork, i was told i had a gift and i listened, i went to school for it and it's what i do today my photography is decent and that i can actually sell pictures sometimes, i loved selling them at the resort and in town in Oregon and now online. my first real love showed me that i am really queer, RIP Hazel remembering the good stuff is important, i've had some good times in my life! i am learning so much in my current relationship, which will never be a past relationship, that i could burst. |
03-06-2012, 03:26 PM | #3 |
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i've always known the type of person that elevates who i am. but i wasn't lucky enough to keep her. she taught me the very thing this thread is about. she taught me to leave "the room" better than when i walked in "the door". she left me with a deeper meaning. she looked behind the blade of grass, ... it's never ending. life is about discovery.
i miss her, always will. |
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from the past I only bring the good to the present.
I have expereince beautiful love. Nasty raw love making, Cold fish, truth and lies.
I also know that not all women are the same,there are great ladies in the world worthy of love and trust. My quote Do not tell me who you are.... show me.
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03-06-2012, 07:09 PM | #5 |
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My past relationships have helped me to set my limits...what I want and what I need. And how to forgive.
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03-06-2012, 07:33 PM | #6 |
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My past relationships taught me about what I really want in a relationship. That's probably why I've been single for so long. I won't settle and I can wait forever if need be. I want the real thing that will last a long long time.
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I learned how to survive them.
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No you can't change me and I can't change you. If either of us feels that the other needs to be changed, then probably we should just be friends.
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To never take love for granted. Did that when I was young.
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With the last one, I've learned to open my eyes, so I can really hear with my ears
I'm relearning the independence I once had and lost being in a relationship I'm still working on confidence and worthiness Learning that being single the last 2 years was good for me as it helped me clean out cobwebs that have been there way too long
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That our journey is important. The people that come into our lives are needed for us to become the best people we can be.
Even when it is tough and some relationships are not good, there are things we can learn from them to become better people. Being able to stay friends with someone we care about says a lot about character. That some of us are way better off as friends or acquaintances and should have never went down that "road". Move on, let go of mistakes and heartache, don't dwell on the negative people that come and go in our lives or the negative situations. Just be happy and be proud of who we are. Learn from our mistakes, dust your boots off and never be afraid of loving again. When you least expect it, your true love can come a'callin. And you will realize the journey was worth it.
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03-07-2012, 11:27 AM | #14 |
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Important things I learned from past relationships
Sometimes it is better to stay friends then let it go to the next level. I will be fine with enough time to heal after a breakup. The person who I was in a relationship in was important to me and always will be even if it is a bad break up. |
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I learned that I made someone else more important than myself and I drank over it. Wont do that again...however, I am ever so grateful for that Truth.
I learned I am unwilling to move across the country on uncertainties. I learned I am stronger than I ever thought..and ended up doing things I didnt think I could handle. I learned that I can love so well, and yet have loved so wrong. As Blade once said, my picker was broken and I needed to fix it. I learned that I will never settle for being second in a relationship ever again. I learned that I wont do exes in a relationship. Theirs or mine. I learned that lies are obvious as long as I am not in denial. I learned that no one can make me happy with myself but some sure can make me miserable about themselves...
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I've learned that every relationship (and everyone) until now has been a dress rehearsal. And just as important.
I've learned that I'm stronger than I thought I was, and become stronger every day. I've learned who my true friends are--the ones who can understand what you're saying on the phone even when you can't stop crying.
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The most important thing I have learned from past relationships is to never ignore the red flags. You have gut insticts for a reason.
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That the 1st few months is the honeymoon stage but once u move in together true colors show
Not to trust To listen to my head To never make any decisions right after you get home from surgery and still have drugs in your system,,you make baaaad decisions and that sucks. That they need to have a job and pull their share,,I hated being broke all the time and not appreciated. |
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wow I've learned a whole lot. The most important is I learned who I am and what I don't want in a relationship. My friends and family tell me to just go for it, go meet someone, etc etc. But I already know what I'm looking for and in 10 minutes of conversation I'll pick up on that.
I've learned to be good to myself and not expect others to give me what I need. It's been a hard road coming to terms with the ending of a relationship dream and the truth is I might not ever get over it. I've learned that its pointless to enrage in a power struggle. If the connection doesnt flow naturally then its best to walk away.
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