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This all makes me wonder a bit, because all this time I thought I was having 'Me' sex ~ 'My' sex...my own style, delivery, etc. Not to say this hasn't been an interesting thread to follow. I just cannot fathom categorizing mah sex. I can say that Bed Death is something that can reincarnate. For those who are experiencing this, if it's in your heart to revive it...then don't give up.
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It's pretty simple. We are all different. There are no two people who share identical desires. I am not so pleased there is all this stereotyping going on. I can only speak from my own experience as an older femme.
I came out as a Femme in 1979 and was partnered with a Butch. We did not follow any rules sexually. She beat the crap out of me almost daily. Thankfully, I did not judge all butches to beat their femmes. I lived, loved and partnered with a Femme. I believe in this relationship, I felt quite the Lesbian and for me, lost so much of who I was. Sex, well -- It was just that. Sex. GOD... If she would have just slammed me up against the wall and taken me. Our sex life was traditional in every sense of the word. We experienced LDB pretty quick into the relationship. Without passion, this will happen. It happens with straight people too, as well as those of us in the B/F dynamic. Since the ending of that relationship, I have only exclusively dated Butches. I am Femme - There is a dynamic which takes place between the butch in my life and myself. I am not subservient to my butch, nor do I follow any set of rules. Sexually... That is really between the butch I am sleeping with and myself, and they are not constructed of any rules, other than the ones we have negotiated and feel passionate about. My butch has their boundaries and I have mine. We love with respect. I am not sure why we are criticizing one another here. Why we are fighting for our right to be better than the next. What really matters most. Each and every one of us should find that special person we want to spend our lives with. To experience the ultimate gift of love. To experience the ultimate gift of passion with your love. Of course, if you do not want love - but just want to fuck... Then really... Do it! Fuck and be Happy - Any which way you do it. I love the term Butch Cock - I love the term Femme Cock - I love the term Cock. When I think of the anatomy of a bio male - I think Penis. In my world, Cock is reserved for me and my partner. Call it a Dildo, that's great - I called it a Dildo when I was in a femme/femme relationship. "Hey Rachel... Where's the Dildo?" Does it get any more romantic than that. Julie
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The logic follows...bed death is a reason to leave an otherwise good relationship and leaving said relationship May be based on how you identify and what color and shape your cock may be... wow. hahahahahaha
menopause medications MS Lupus Rheumatoid Arthritis Osteoarthritis etc., etc., etc., All relationships go through periods of more and less sexual activity. Some of us choose ways to be sexual and keep our relationship (non monog, poly, serial monog, etc), some move on (finding someone who exactly meets their sexual needs (okay that made me laugh a little, too), some chose to fake it till you make it (been faked on, I dun like it myself) and some after a period of time renew their sexual activity. I love sex. I loved sex when I was an out femme lesbian in the 70's. I loved sex when I was a political rabid social worker femme lesbian in the 80's. I loved sex as a femme dyke in the 90's. I love sex now as a Queer Femme. Right this moment in time, I have making love and sex in an amazing way. Away from all labels of gender or queerness, I think the fluctuation of sexual activity is a pretty basic human physiological and emotional phenomena.
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Kobi now has "Old MacDonald Has A Farm" stuck in her head thanks to you folks..... ....with a butch cock here and a femme cock there.... ....here a cock, there a cock, everywhere a cock cock...
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LOL. Like InfiniteFemme, i sooo like the word. Butch COCK, femme COCK.
Yum, yum, yummy yum. i can't imagine limiting my SEX life in some way because it might look heteronormative. i fought the sex wars in the eighties. i am done with that. i don't defend my sex life. i enjoy it. |
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Now, now Isadora...you know if a glow in the dark dolphin was comin' at you, you'd jump out of bed <g>.
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Lesbians are notorious bad dressers.
This always makes me chuckle. Tho, I did finally order my first ever fleece lined flannel shirt. And sneakers can be formal footware - requires an attitude but can be done!
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I am not a bad dresser, casual most of the time, but not bad.......
I do not 'hate' anyone, some men aggravate me, but so does the toilet paper being hung wrong. I do not have penis envy. I had a wonderful senstive man, (I even said he had one ovary), still, he wasn't "right" he is a man. I like women, period. LesbyLola |
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I am a FABULOUS dresser. When I bring the Lesbian of myself into the equation. You can find me wearing Birkenstocks. This whole statement of thought is soooooo soooooo sooooooo I am getting older and losing my words. Is this a Lesbian thing?
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I confess, I am a lesbian and have never owned a pair of Birkenstocks despite the fact that I have lived in Santa Cruz, CA; Ithaca, NY and Portland, OR. However, I have owned flannel shirts. I must be butch
As to sex, I agree it's all individual and you can't stereotype or predict how someone or a group of someones has sex or enjoys sex by their gender or sexual orientation.
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What is the difference between being a femme and a lesbian? is one mutally exlclusive/inclusive of the other?? I'm seriously asking anyone who'd like to answer. Thank you IF for your answer the other day. I am hoping to see if someone can expand on your answer. The reason I ask (you ask) , is that I feel like nothing I am, or feel, fits ANY of these subdivided labels that I find so prevalent here on the planet. Here I thought I was doing well to finally come out as a lesbian, only to find that well? hell.......that ain't all there is!!! I'm talkin years of self-evolution here. I wear Birks, but I wear boots too, and? you'll catch me in kitten heals on just the right occasion (tongue cheek here) Is there anybody out there who 'gets me'???? think I'm strange?? (yes, tell me) This is the lesbian myth thread, but it seems all encompassing I am NOT in the least uncomfortable with who I am, but it seems as though I may indeed be misunderstanding myself, LOL...geebus! |
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Breathe. This is just another myth. It is a thread on lesbian myths. So, I was saying there is a myth that lesbians are poor dressers. So this whole statement of thought is soooo soooo soooo mythical. Capiche?
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Lola - I don't really think there is a clear cut definition of what femme is and means. It is individual for all of us. For me, it is not about what I wear - but who I am inside. I cannot explain it. It is like LOVE - there is no clear definition for Love, as it means something different to all of us.
I wish you luck in figuring all this out. And maybe you are simply a Lesbian Women, which is equally as fabulous. Just enjoy and love who you are, that is really all that matters at the end of the day.
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