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Validate one another as human beings. Speak of each other's worth. It is the cornerstone of any healthy, loving, intact relationship.
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It's simple...
As my Mom and Dad said (completely separately from each other I might add)....
KNOW that where you ARE is EXACTLY where you WANT to BE. If you BOTH have this mindset... the rest will follow... you will always find a way to figure it out during the hard times, the fun times, and the loving times... and the difficult things of life don't come between you when you are on that same page.
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OMG..... now I know why I've been single for 5 years.
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My Dear Brother Ebon read this for Pup and I at our wedding; seems to be a good fit for the thread:
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. --Anne Morrow Lindberg Just thought I would share that. Glynn |
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Keep up hygiene and appearance even after you "have" me
Look at me when I'm speaking to you Go on dates, even after years Be very affectionate Be honest and open, above all Compliments, compliments and compliments Notice the "little things"-a new hairstyle, new clothes Remember what brought you together in the first place, and rekindle that heat Remember that both of you have to be dedicated to personal growth Laugh, often and hard
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Remember that paying attention to the small things helps build a strong foundation for facing the big stuff together.
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Call her Beautiful, don't just tell her she is.
Dig up rocks for her ~ because U want to. (just make sure that pretty rock doesn't just look like a stoopid potato when ya get it home) When U have passed the 7 year mark and are working on 8, and she knows that she now haz all yer Exes beat in the relationship duration thing...let her rejoice and dance around the kitchen like she's spiking a football in the End Zone. Oh, and brush her hair for her ~ try not to pull it (too hard)
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Brushing her hair...... OHHHhhhh yes good one!
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It helps if she thinks you're adorable.
Tell her you love her and that she's beautiful, but really mean it. Choose someone who thinks you're really funny, even if you don't know why you amuse them so much. Express gratitude and appreciation as often as you feel it. Always ask if you can get her something while you're in the kitchen.
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Make sure she knows she's not replacing your ex.
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Cook dinner
Massages after a long hard day Clean and wash her car Bring home wild flowers you picked on the side of the road. Fuck her well, and often. Dont stop when she says she cant again, there is always one more in there. Bring her coffee Wash her hair Tell her how beautiful she is when she wakes up in the morning, and then show her. Smile and be proud of her when she is on your arm. Even when you are at home depot together, covered in dirt..picking up last minute supplies you ran out of while planting a garden. Put air in her tires, and check the oil. Take her out on surprise picnics. Never wait for the perfect moment to tell her how you feel. Say it when you feel it, dont hold it in. Give her white and red roses, the symbols for purity and love. Hold her hair back while she is throwing up from the flu. Bring her chocolates, and a heating pad when she has cramps and PMS, also, just say, yes baby..to anything she says during that time. Listen to every lyric, to every song she posts..she may be talking to you. Protect her, keep her safe. Spank her ass when she needs it. Let her spank yours if she needs it. |
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enjoy listening to music dance have dinner together candles flowers even on a weekday different friends spend time away with said friends common friends same as above have interests that keep the conversations exciting silence together read to her if she enjoys this let her read to you if you enjoy this cook together already has been shared surprise her in ways she enjoys hmmm seems I have some thoughts on this enjoying reading this thread thanks Greco
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...enjoy and take time for frequent family-centered dinners, at a real dinner table... away from the TV, computers and other such devices.
Even if it's a dinner for two, or just "pizza night"... sit at a dinner table and take time to be together without distractions, enjoy eachother's company and lots of laughter...or a serious talk where you give the other your undivided attention... at a real dinner table. For years while raising my son, because we were always so busy or were distracted by TV or video games, I neglected the family dinner time.... Until his grandparents reminded me of the importance of and special communications that can happen while at a real dinner table... and it reminded me of how many special memories I have of my great-gramma while at her table. In a relationship, I think the special time spent at a dinner or breakfast table is very important and very healthy. And it's fun to make special traditions for dinner time.... like my son's favorite that was passed down from my great-grampa..."Have dessert first; how else would you have room for it." ...I love to see people's expressions when I occasionally pull that one on them. Or, the old fashioned "pass and break the bread" at the beginning of a meal (that's one of my favorites). Dinner table traditions are a fun thing to do and opens up the door for laughter and relaxation. I believe the things that can happen and the open communication that flows at a dinner table can really strengthen bonds in a relationship.... it also shows you are willing to MAKE time out of your busy day for the other person or family members.... I love my beautiful dinner table NOT because it is a 100 year old hand carved, honey stained solid oak with beautiful round top and "hand turned" legs, with 4 very beautiful "wheat back" solid oak comfortable chairs...but because of the many special times and memories with family and loved ones.
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