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Excellent advice about the car too. When my Mom died she had a leased car and was the only person on the lease. Honda expected my Dad to turn the car in AND pay the balance of the lease (2.5 years) but would not put anything in his name. The Power of Attorney "died" when my Mom died. Dad kept & drove the car until the end of the lease. If you own your home you will need to address that too. Please talk to an attorney as soon as possible. |
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Hi Lyric, Sorry to hear about Toxic. DNR would be a good thing to have Do Not Resuscitate If Toxic doesn't want to be on machines etc.
Even though I'm in Canada and it is legal to be married etc we (same sex couples) have always carried a copy the Medical Power of Attorney and Power of Attorney with us in case something should happen (either away from home or not) Too many horror stories out there to take a chance. Keeping you both in my thoughts. Musicman |
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One of my good pals here in Richmond is an attorney, specializing in our community. I am certain she would be glad to speak with you. Call me? Love you bunches! Christie (and Jess, of course!) |
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I wanted to leave a sincere thank you to everyone who posted in this thread to leave advice or words of support. There were so many useful pieces of information left here and I have learned about some things I either did not know or had forgotten. Thank you!!
As an aside, we have seen a new neurologist who seems fantastic, and we have gotten a referral to Johns Hopkins in Baltimore, so things are looking up! Armed with everything that has been shared here, I feel more confident about having what we need to have in our files to make things a bit easier. You are all fabulous!! Thanks again! |
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(((((LyricandToxic))))) Hey hon! I am very sorry to hear of Toxic's health issues.
Christie and I have had POA and Medical POA and Living Will for a few years now. There are several versions on line ( and I am sorry I can't recall which ones we downloaded), that are valid in VA once notarized. VA also recognizes a holographic will ( handwritten and notarized) as being valid as long as it is the most recently documented will. Documents like this can be notarized at just about any bank. I usually get at least two witnesses ( generally a secretary or cashier on hand). You can go to a lawyer and if you have a great many assets or folks who might create issue, it may be a good idea. There are quite the few things you can do without lawyers, however. Do let us know if we can help with anything. We love you! Great words of experience here. Thanks folks! |
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If memory serves....Obama signed something that had to do with community and hospitals. Something about if the hospital/doctor gets medicaid/medicare monies, they cannot discriminate or they will lose their federal money.....
I'll have to search around or maybe Scarlett knows what I am talking about and whether it is applicable in your situation. |
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I wanted to come back to this thread and post another very heartfelt thank you to everyone here who offered advice, information, and support, or who left me private messages. Everything has turned out to be amazingly helpful, and I had been feeling kind of helpless and lost, so everything everyone said even added a much needed boost of confidence for me. We were able to arm ourselves with all of the documentation we needed, and I was even able to qualify at work for FMLA so that I can take time off to help her on days that she needs it.
Her surgery takes place at Johns Hopkins next Thursday, and one thing they were able to speculate pretty positively on is that what we are dealing with is not benign, so that takes a huge load off. I love Hopkins and did one of my college internships there, and in addition, my dad had heart surgery there a couple of years ago, so I feel completely confident that they know what they're doing and that she will come out of it just fine. They even made a note to give her a private room so that I could stay in it with her, so I feel really good about that and have a very positive feeling overall. Thanks again for everything, everyone! The fact that so many in this community who step up and offer advice or words of encouragement to someone they have never even met is a true testament to the caliber of individuals here. |
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I wanted to give my thanks to you all for your heart felt words to lyric and myself during my recent illness. The advice you all gave her was so helpful in assisting in the next direction we needed to take. Everything the last few months has seemed like a whirlwind actually. I am now recovering from the the removal of the tumor. I do have some vision loss but my doctors are hopeful it will come back. On a brighter note....I am pain free...and have been seizure free thus far....-knock on wood-
I can not tell you what it meant to read your words to lyric and myself. You all have truly touched me beyond words. Thank you. I look at everyday as a new day and really...it is a blessing...The Doctors and everyone at John Hopkins treated both lyric and I with kindness and respect...they kept her informed and on top of everything regarding my heath and recovery. Again....Thank you all... |
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Toxic and Lyric,
I am so happy to hear that things are going well for you. I have never met either of you, but you are "family" nonetheless. I wish you continued recovery. Hold each other close. Many blessings to you. Smooches, Keri |
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