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~ocean · 09-13-2015, 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel C.

I'm so tired! I volunteered at a fundraiser for at-risk youth, including homeless gay and lesbian teens. While I was happy to contribute to a worthy cause, I couldn't help but notice that there were a lot of couples AND that the average age was late 20's to early 30's. This is certainly not my demographic so I pose the following questions:

1) When you feel like you are the only single person, how do you deal with it (avoid the scenario, embrace your singleness, etc)?

2) Do you attend events if you know only 5-10% are in your age group?

(((( mel )))) start a funny ole lesbian meet up club 40+ ? lolol just an idea ~

Gemme · 09-13-2015, 09:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mel C.

I'm so tired! I volunteered at a fundraiser for at-risk youth, including homeless gay and lesbian teens. While I was happy to contribute to a worthy cause, I couldn't help but notice that there were a lot of couples AND that the average age was late 20's to early 30's. This is certainly not my demographic so I pose the following questions:

1) When you feel like you are the only single person, how do you deal with it (avoid the scenario, embrace your singleness, etc)?

2) Do you attend events if you know only 5-10% are in your age group?

It depends on the circumstances. Using your example, I wouldn't care about demographics or singledom because it's not about me. If I were volunteering somewhere, it is about that cause and the people that it will help. I'm not a part of the equation and neither are the other volunteers.

If I'm attending something that is more entertainment than purpose, then those factors may come into play more. It would honestly depend on how I felt in that moment before I left for the event, if I would be the only person I knew there, et cetera. If I'm going somewhere and I've agreed to meet a friend, I wouldn't dream of canceling on them, no matter who else was there and how old they were or weren't.

Some events can be tough if you are basically the ONLY person outside of a particular age bracket or if you are the ONLY person there by yourself. When I decide whether to go to something, the other people are not really even part of the equation for me. Mostly, is the drive going to annoy me is what I think. Will someone try to kill me on the way there goes through my mind. Basically, personal safety trumps any other card in the deck when I decide whether to go out and attend a function.

Zimmeh · 09-13-2015, 07:16 PM

Hope everyone is having a great end to their Sunday! Leaving an assortment of fresh fruit and other goodies for the night. I had a great day at work. When I got off at 7p, my coworker kept messing with our supervisor. I was laughing so hard that I started to snort 😳 When I do leave Starbucks, I will miss my coworkers 😂

Zimmeh

JustLovelyJenn · 09-13-2015, 10:52 PM

I just got home from a trip to Utah for my grandmothers funeral... right now I hate being single... I want to be held...

*curls up on the couch*

JDeere · 09-13-2015, 10:54 PM

Hey Singles

anyone have any specific goodie requests for y'all?

Mormegil · 09-15-2015, 09:45 PM

Mel.C. , the lgbt church i attend has a varied congregation in more ways that one and that includes age. I notice most of the women , if notall around my age are married or in a relationship. And the rest are quite a bit older than me. The woman i was intrested in that turned me.down was in her 40s , im 31.

But i do feel very lonely when i go. Especially if she comes up and hugs me trying to be friendly. I would almost rather she just doesnt touch me at all which may sound weird . But its emotionally painful.

But i just sit and watch them all hugging and greeting eachother and its like im sitting still while the world spins around me. But i make myself socialize. It may hurt me to watch everyone else mingle. To watch couples hold hands or hug eachother. But if i didnt go out and atleast try i would just isolate alone at home. So no.matter what i do i hurt. But atleast out there maybe somebody will.notice me eventually

And yes i attend events where ages vary greatly. And when there are women my age they already have a girlfriend or wife.

Mel C. · 09-20-2015, 07:44 PM

bumping cause there are singles in da house...whoop whoop

JustLovelyJenn · 09-20-2015, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Mel C.

bumping cause there are singles in da house...whoop whoop

Really? Where??

Barb42 · 09-20-2015, 08:43 PM

... Just dropping in to see how things are going... Ive been gone awhile but back now & ready to enjoy a new chapter of my life...

Wishing all a great night..

JustLovelyJenn · 09-20-2015, 10:46 PM

Welcome back Barb, nice to see you.

Barb42 · 09-21-2015, 01:20 PM

Thank you Jenn. Glad to ne back..

Zimmeh · 09-29-2015, 06:04 PM

Good Evening to all of you!!! Since its kind of like Fall here in Florida, I'm leaving behind some yummy pumpkin spice treats!

Have a good night,

Zimmeh

homoe · 09-29-2015, 06:07 PM

Hi, I'm still single and sleepless NEAR Seattle..

LOQUI · 09-29-2015, 06:37 PM

Im kind of liking this place...there is always food!!

randrum · 09-29-2015, 07:47 PM

The food is a nice touch. So are the comfy chairs. And good people.

Keep Smilin · 09-29-2015, 08:41 PM

Sweet Dreams everyone!! 😊

DanzAmazon · 09-29-2015, 09:51 PM

Random drive-bye g'night. I'm gonna miss seeing everyone this weekend in LV. Have a blast for me!

JustLovelyJenn · 09-29-2015, 11:09 PM

Still here, still single...

Teddybear · 09-30-2015, 04:48 AM

Just want to wish all us singles a Good Morning

I have a :line cook: ready for breakfast orders and don't forget to get ur coffee.

Have a great day everyone

Zimmeh · 09-30-2015, 05:48 PM

Today has been a crazy day for me! I picked up a shift at our new Orange City, Florida Starbucks and I just got home! The best part about today, is spending a few hours with my mom. We went shopping for me a new pair of flats for work and grocery shopping. I found a few things to get my mom for Christmas ❤️😀

How was everyone else's day?

Leaving some nice hot tea and hot cocoa to help us relax 😀

Zimmeh

09-13-2015, 07:16 PM	#9603
Zimmeh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: I am a human and not a possession Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Volusia County, FL Posts: 6,746 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23,549 Thanked 13,441 Times in 4,316 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Hope everyone is having a great end to their Sunday! Leaving an assortment of fresh fruit and other goodies for the night. I had a great day at work. When I got off at 7p, my coworker kept messing with our supervisor. I was laughing so hard that I started to snort 😳 When I do leave Starbucks, I will miss my coworkers 😂 Zimmeh __________________ "A loving heart is the truest wisdom" -Chinua Achebe

09-13-2015, 10:52 PM	#9604
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,995 Times in 3,685 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I just got home from a trip to Utah for my grandmothers funeral... right now I hate being single... I want to be held... curls up on the couch __________________ --Jenn

09-13-2015, 10:54 PM	#9605
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,871 Times in 9,718 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	Hey Singles anyone have any specific goodie requests for y'all? __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

09-15-2015, 09:45 PM	#9606
Mormegil Junior Member How Do You Identify?: just myself Preferred Pronoun?: meh Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2014 Location: pensacola , FL Posts: 64 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31 Thanked 184 Times in 50 Posts Rep Power: 1853352	Mel.C. , the lgbt church i attend has a varied congregation in more ways that one and that includes age. I notice most of the women , if notall around my age are married or in a relationship. And the rest are quite a bit older than me. The woman i was intrested in that turned me.down was in her 40s , im 31. But i do feel very lonely when i go. Especially if she comes up and hugs me trying to be friendly. I would almost rather she just doesnt touch me at all which may sound weird . But its emotionally painful. But i just sit and watch them all hugging and greeting eachother and its like im sitting still while the world spins around me. But i make myself socialize. It may hurt me to watch everyone else mingle. To watch couples hold hands or hug eachother. But if i didnt go out and atleast try i would just isolate alone at home. So no.matter what i do i hurt. But atleast out there maybe somebody will.notice me eventually And yes i attend events where ages vary greatly. And when there are women my age they already have a girlfriend or wife. __________________ "All is full of love"

09-20-2015, 08:43 PM	#9609
Barb42 Member How Do You Identify?: Soft butch Preferred Pronoun?: whatever.. Relationship Status: SINGLE Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Indiana Posts: 226 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,215 Thanked 727 Times in 205 Posts Rep Power: 3291560	... Just dropping in to see how things are going... Ive been gone awhile but back now & ready to enjoy a new chapter of my life... Wishing all a great night.. __________________ Im just me thats it..

09-20-2015, 07:44 PM	#9607
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,840 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	bumping cause there are singles in da house...whoop whoop

09-20-2015, 10:46 PM	#9610
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,995 Times in 3,685 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Welcome back Barb, nice to see you. __________________ --Jenn

09-21-2015, 01:20 PM	#9611
Barb42 Member How Do You Identify?: Soft butch Preferred Pronoun?: whatever.. Relationship Status: SINGLE Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Indiana Posts: 226 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,215 Thanked 727 Times in 205 Posts Rep Power: 3291560	Thank you Jenn. Glad to ne back.. __________________ Im just me thats it..

09-29-2015, 06:04 PM	#9612
Zimmeh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: I am a human and not a possession Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Volusia County, FL Posts: 6,746 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23,549 Thanked 13,441 Times in 4,316 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Good Evening to all of you!!! Since its kind of like Fall here in Florida, I'm leaving behind some yummy pumpkin spice treats! Have a good night, Zimmeh __________________ "A loving heart is the truest wisdom" -Chinua Achebe

09-29-2015, 06:07 PM	#9613
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,588 Times in 14,919 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	Hi, I'm still single and sleepless NEAR Seattle..

09-29-2015, 06:37 PM	#9614
LOQUI Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Non Binary, Trans, Always Me. :) Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 1,139 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,335 Thanked 2,486 Times in 848 Posts Rep Power: 19030326	Im kind of liking this place...there is always food!!

09-29-2015, 07:47 PM	#9615
randrum Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Preferred Pronoun?: Just call me G Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Cincinnati Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,480 Thanked 3,063 Times in 668 Posts Rep Power: 21474846	The food is a nice touch. So are the comfy chairs. And good people. __________________

09-29-2015, 08:41 PM	#9616
Keep Smilin Member How Do You Identify?: Fabulously happy Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Content with myself :-) Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Happily in my own Pollyanna world :-) Posts: 109 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,171 Thanked 433 Times in 101 Posts Rep Power: 5181089	Sweet Dreams everyone!! 😊 __________________ ~KS~ Life is too short to live unhappy. Seek peace, joy and love for you will recieve that which you seek. -Anonymous

09-29-2015, 09:51 PM	#9617
DanzAmazon Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: TBD by how I know you. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Austin Posts: 64 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 163 Thanked 223 Times in 54 Posts Rep Power: 1318527	Good night. Random drive-bye g'night. I'm gonna miss seeing everyone this weekend in LV. Have a blast for me! __________________ DanzAmazon - on a Femme's journey. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The Renaissance Femme: the world thru the lense of a femme leatherdyke - http://therenaissancefemme.wordpress.com/ The Delicious Experience - Eco-Adventure Tours & Retreats for all budgets.

09-29-2015, 11:09 PM	#9618
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,995 Times in 3,685 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Still here, still single... __________________ --Jenn

09-30-2015, 04:48 AM	#9619
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,239 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Just want to wish all us singles a Good Morning I have a :line cook: ready for breakfast orders and don't forget to get ur coffee. Have a great day everyone __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..

09-30-2015, 05:48 PM	#9620
Zimmeh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: I am a human and not a possession Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Volusia County, FL Posts: 6,746 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23,549 Thanked 13,441 Times in 4,316 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Today has been a crazy day for me! I picked up a shift at our new Orange City, Florida Starbucks and I just got home! The best part about today, is spending a few hours with my mom. We went shopping for me a new pair of flats for work and grocery shopping. I found a few things to get my mom for Christmas ❤️😀 How was everyone else's day? Leaving some nice hot tea and hot cocoa to help us relax 😀 Zimmeh __________________ "A loving heart is the truest wisdom" -Chinua Achebe