03-15-2010, 04:08 AM | #1 |
Infamous Member
How Do You Identify?:
Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status:
Happy Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic.
Posts: 9,234
Thanks: 9,840
Thanked 34,662 Times in 7,652 Posts
Rep Power: 21474860 |
If I knew then what I know now......
With age comes some degree of wisdom. Sometimes, I look back and wonder where other choices would have lead. And I find that if I could do it over, I would consider:
1. work for the government - I could have retired 2 years ago with full, lifetime income and insurance. 2. if #1 wasnt feasible, I would have foregone higher education and learned a trade. The freakin plumber putting in my hot water heater makes $100 an hour! Never make that in my field. 3. I would have bought a home at a much earlier age - like when I had the energy, strength, and stamina to be a home depot 'ho. Its easier to flip thru the yellow pages these days. 4. I would have never started smoking. Aside from being a nasty habit, the cost equates to an extra mortgage payment per month. 5. I would have become a vegan. I am getting weary of the survivors guilt whenever hunger pangs occur. 6. I would have paid more attention when Mom was making her homemade stuffing. Thats one recipe gone forever. 7. I would have taken more videos of aging relatives. I miss seeing them and hearing their voices. 8. I would have paid more attention to holistic health and less to traditional medicine. 9. I would have considered a run for political office when I thought I had all the answers. 10. I would have spent more time playing and less time working. Anyone else?
__________________
|
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Kobi For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 04:25 AM | #2 |
Infamous Member
How Do You Identify?:
Femme Relationship Status:
. Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: .
Posts: 5,530
Thanks: 4,478
Thanked 12,949 Times in 3,419 Posts
Rep Power: 21474856 |
1. I would have come out to my family before I did to the rest of the world - the gap was over 20 years.
2. I would not have accepted some job offers and would not have turned down others. 3. Like Kobi I would have paid attention and gotten a couple recipes from my grnadmothers. 4. I would have told those bullies in school to kiss my a**! 5. I would have taken better care of myself. |
The Following User Says Thank You to Miss Scarlett For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 07:11 AM | #3 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Queer femme submissive Relationship Status:
Married Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: UK
Posts: 969
Thanks: 1,449
Thanked 4,261 Times in 677 Posts
Rep Power: 21474851 |
I would never have assumed that my kids would extend the same unconditional love and affection to me that I extend to them.
I would never have assumed that running away, be it physically or emotionally, would result in my problems being left behind. I would never have assumed that because I was a 'good' person, others would always take that into account when judging my words and actions. Basically, I would never have assumed anything. Words |
The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to Words For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 07:17 AM | #4 |
Infamous Member
How Do You Identify?:
Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status:
Happy Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic.
Posts: 9,234
Thanks: 9,840
Thanked 34,662 Times in 7,652 Posts
Rep Power: 21474860 |
Words explains well the old saying....never assume.....lest you make an ass out of u and me. I love that one.
__________________
|
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Kobi For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 08:46 AM | #5 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
femme Preferred Pronoun?:
sea shell Relationship Status:
married Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: san diego
Posts: 1,687
Thanks: 1,927
Thanked 4,377 Times in 1,015 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852 |
this one time, i would have had the cannoli and taken latin
|
The Following User Says Thank You to apretty For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 09:12 AM | #6 |
Infamous Member
How Do You Identify?:
femme Relationship Status:
attached Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: .
Posts: 6,896
Thanks: 29,046
Thanked 13,118 Times in 3,391 Posts
Rep Power: 21474857 |
...would have never let myself be *persuaded* into giving certain relationships more chances and/or staying longer than I should have.
...not trusting what I know to be truth. (so much more--but there's two!) |
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to Soon For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 09:29 AM | #7 |
Guest
|
If I knew then what I know I would not have allowed anyone to tell me that I 'wasn't good enough'
|
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 10:29 AM | #8 |
Timed Out
How Do You Identify?:
Me Preferred Pronoun?:
He Relationship Status:
Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Over the Rainbow in a House
Posts: 5,072
Thanks: 16,004
Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts
Rep Power: 0 |
I never would have told the truth to my parents about being a ftm. Never. It has done nothing but brought heartache and pain to my entire family. I would have spent more time with JoAnn before she died. Her death was a major loss to me. |
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Andrew, Jr. For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 10:31 AM | #9 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
A Force with which to be reckoned Preferred Pronoun?:
just be nice... Relationship Status:
I call her Mine Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Transplanted to the PNW
Posts: 1,246
Thanks: 2,552
Thanked 2,476 Times in 706 Posts
Rep Power: 14753261 |
... I wouldn't change a thing.
|
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to christie For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 10:57 AM | #10 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
still ballin' Relationship Status:
Triple X Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: west side
Posts: 2,544
Thanks: 5,716
Thanked 6,496 Times in 1,638 Posts
Rep Power: 21474853 |
Two words. Apple stock.
__________________
|
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to Queerasfck For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 11:04 AM | #11 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
The original lime-twisted femme Preferred Pronoun?:
I answer to most things, especially lesbian. Relationship Status:
Still loving my Mare ;) Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 4,683
Thanks: 1,343
Thanked 11,424 Times in 2,978 Posts
Rep Power: 21474854 |
... I would cut out all of the "middle men".
__________________
|
The Following User Says Thank You to NJFemmie For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 06:07 PM | #12 |
Timed Out
How Do You Identify?:
Me Preferred Pronoun?:
He Relationship Status:
Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Over the Rainbow in a House
Posts: 5,072
Thanks: 16,004
Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts
Rep Power: 0 |
If I knew then what I know now...
*I would have worn more Coppertone. I had no idea of what skin cancer was. *I never should have been so trusting of certain people online who claimed to have been my friend. Instead, I am so disappointed in our own community. It seems to happen alot. And that in itself makes me very sad. I just don't get it. The Lady Snow was/is right. *I would have been animal rescue-ing alot longer than what I have been so far. |
03-15-2010, 06:34 PM | #13 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?:
Ummmm Relationship Status:
Nah Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine
Posts: 2,616
Thanks: 1,577
Thanked 3,890 Times in 1,155 Posts
Rep Power: 21474853 |
woulda, coulda, shoulda.....fuck regret!
|
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to MrSunshine For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 06:58 PM | #14 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
A soul for a compass and a heart for a pair of wings. Preferred Pronoun?:
All I ask of living is to have no chains on me. Relationship Status:
All I own are the strides I spend to the finish line. Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Somewhere in between here and gone.
Posts: 662
Thanks: 110
Thanked 1,449 Times in 369 Posts
Rep Power: 6344714 |
__________________
Two or three things I know for sure, And one is that I would rather go naked Than wear the coat the world has made for me. |
The Following User Says Thank You to Selenay For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 07:06 PM | #15 |
Infamous Member
How Do You Identify?:
TG Preferred Pronoun?:
He Relationship Status:
once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Down on the farm
Posts: 5,492
Thanks: 9,850
Thanked 14,401 Times in 4,049 Posts
Rep Power: 21474856 |
Speaking for my Papow, he'd have said yes when he said no to the offer MANY years ago to buy IBM stock, his words were naaa them computers won't never amount to nothin. LOL
|
The Following User Says Thank You to Blade For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 07:07 PM | #16 |
Infamous Member
How Do You Identify?:
femme Preferred Pronoun?:
she Relationship Status:
Married Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: rose cottage
Posts: 5,510
Thanks: 8,457
Thanked 15,646 Times in 3,985 Posts
Rep Power: 21474856 |
I would have loved my parents better. Now that I am a mom, with a kid like me, boy do I appreciate my parents far more than I did when i was young
I wouldnt have sold my home in the suburbs to move out to the country I wouldnt have added my partner's name to my bank accounts...lost my family farm over that one I would have had less horses all at once I would have gotten my licensure as a SW as well as LPCC... I would have gone on for my law degree I would have gotten halloween candy for Mrs Rogers...I let her down this is good for now...
__________________
Pole bachit, a lis chuye.
The field sees, the forest hears |
The Following User Says Thank You to Soft*Silver For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 07:31 PM | #17 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
stone butch Preferred Pronoun?:
makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status:
single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: shreveport,Louisiana
Posts: 4,907
Thanks: 4,682
Thanked 14,937 Times in 3,936 Posts
Rep Power: 21474855 |
I would have
Talked less,listened more.
stoped trying to be such a hot shot,yeah I made it but the price was way deep. Had a whole lot less horses to care for. gone to college sooner. paid more attention to ppl older than me who walked the path I was on. Trusted less ppl who said they were my friends and werent. paid more attention to my gut feelings.. once and a while just live in the moment. |
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Rockinonahigh For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 08:03 PM | #18 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Femme Preferred Pronoun?:
m'lady Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: NJ
Posts: 2,000
Thanks: 1,834
Thanked 6,231 Times in 1,462 Posts
Rep Power: 21474853 |
I would have..
Gone to med school Trusted my gut a whole lot more Come out earlier Never started smoking
__________________
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi |
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to always2late For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 08:33 PM | #19 |
Practically Lives Here
How Do You Identify?:
Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?:
She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: The roads are narrow here
Posts: 36,587
Thanks: 182,195
Thanked 108,763 Times in 25,659 Posts
Rep Power: 21474887 |
I would have spoken up more....about my perception of my mother's boyfriends, about my abuse, about my desire to go to school, about not wanting to put others on my accounts and cosigning for them, about what was going on in my gut and head and I would have followed through. I would have been the person then I know I now can be. That would have saved me a lot of time, pain, and trouble.
|
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Gemme For This Useful Post: |
03-15-2010, 08:53 PM | #20 |
Infamous Member
How Do You Identify?:
femme Preferred Pronoun?:
she Relationship Status:
Married Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: rose cottage
Posts: 5,510
Thanks: 8,457
Thanked 15,646 Times in 3,985 Posts
Rep Power: 21474856 |
I wouldnt have been too shy to dance
I wouldnt have gotten married the first time. I didnt love him. I wanted to, because he SO loved me. But it was during my drinking years. I married him so I could feel better. I was sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I hadnt made the connection yet that I had a problem. And of course, to feel better could have been achieved had I gotten into AA sooner. But, out of it, I got my daughter, so no, I guess i wouldnt have changed that after all... I would have figured out a way to help my brother before he died I would have gone to work for the prison system. Oh the security I would have now...
__________________
Pole bachit, a lis chuye.
The field sees, the forest hears |
|
|