What have you learned?

[kittygrrl]

Love is not enough
True friends are rare
I am enough, just the way I am
First impressions aren't always what they appear to be
No one controls me, but me
Jealousy truly is evil
Anger and resentment only hurt me
Life is short
Your health is not guaranteed
Looks are not everything
Money is not everything
The only opinion of me that truly matters, is mine
I am strong all by myself
There is nothing wrong with being a strong independent woman
That broken hearts do heal, eventually
That a broken heart doesn't mean a broken person
That what someone says isn't always what they mean
Revenge is pointless

I wish these truths could be imprinted on every soul. Thank You:wine:

[JDeere]

Expecting the worst causes a lot of stress.

[betruetoyoursoul]

...I have learned that it is okay to take time to self nurture and allow myself to feel self compassion, without feeling guilty. I still have time for those that are a part of my life at the same time*S...

[Lover]

I have learned that there are some people who will never understand you.

[kittygrrl]

it's much better to give, then to receive

[Tierney]

I continue to learn and practice, just let it go, and be.

[jingles76]

Sadly not everyone has my best interest at heart....

phooey on them :sunglass:

[Talon]

That for me, I must respect the one giving the advice..as well as, see proven success in a given area before I can even begin to take it seriously, or at all.
(Thank you, Father).
You wouldn't take a podiatrist's advice for a toothache, now would you?

[Glenn]

Folk who insist they have "their sh*it together", are usually standing in a boatload of it.

[Stone-Butch]

You teach people how to treat you. IF someone says something extremely negative to you or about you, don't respond. If you don't, it still belongs to them.

[VintageFemme]

that no matter how much I may love cake, cake does not love me.

[Teddybear]

If u get that feeling something just isn't quite right it ISN'T. Question what is being told to you if you feel something is off.

Ask questions of potential dates to get to know them.

[gotoseagrl]

~ To wait
~ Not to settle
~ Some things take forever, while others come sooner than expected

[RockOn]

I seem to be drawn to things or want things that are not good for me.

Now just how fucked up is that? I say a whole lot fucked up! LOL! (may as well laugh about it)
:)

[cinnamongrrl]

I have learned to not expect anything from anyone....its far less disappointing

[JDeere]

To leave well enough alone but I don't always do that.

[kittygrrl]

if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, its a duck

[kittygrrl]

wickedness will never lead to happiness........................................h ave I said this before? perhaps, but it bears repeating,

[kittygrrl]

character-constancy over time

[Chad]

I have learned that I should not have expectations of other people and I do mean all other people. I have lost too many relationships with friends, lovers, and family to my expectations.

Now I say what I need and if they can't handle it then they can move on.

[RockOn]

Learning I do not HAVE to work myself outside on the weekends so hard until I drop ... I actually took an hour nap last weekend plus did not work until 8 or 9 p.m. either day.

I am hopeful ... I did fairly well yesterday.
We'll see how it goes today.

I have come to realize I am too driven when it comes to getting things accomplished and I set the bar impossibly high.

Learning how to allow myself to relax some on the weekends, take a little break and sit down.

Getting there! (I think)
:)

[Bèsame*]

What you say, is not always what is heard. Communication needs to work, before assumptions are made.

[Greco]

that going slowly in building friendship can lead to
delicious surprises built on solid ground.

Greco

[Shystonefem]

I have learned that my gut is ALWAYS right. I still haven't learned to listen to it all of the time, but I am getting wayyy better at that.

[gotoseagrl]

Letting go and getting lost in mindless, nonsensical chatter & laughter to tears at the end of each day makes it possible to get through anything.

[Nattih]

You never get what you deserve. You get what you can negotiate. Learn to stack the deck in your favor for the things you want in life.

[cinnamongrrl]

A lot....and yet...never enough...

[Shystonefem]

A lot....and yet...never enough...

NEVER enough! :glasses:

[kittygrrl]

some things are worth fighting for, some are not, having the wisdom to know the difference..

[Tuff Stuff]

You(I)can't run off to Texas or New York or Canada...you're(I'm)married!

:wtf:

Leave me alone,plz

[JDeere]

That as I get older it has become VERY tough for me to ask my parents for things, things that they base on my past and are hesitant to help me out.

[Blade]

I have learned that life during Christmas week is much easier, if shopping is finished before Dec 24. I've learned it doesn't matter how many times you go to the grocery store, you'll get home and need something else. I've learned what a Shopkin is. WOW who'da thunk it?

[PearlsNLace]

What is a shopkin??

[Blade]

What is a shopkin??

ROFL! I learned this very thing in the past few days!

[Gemme]

What is a shopkin??

Since the answer wasn't posted....here (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shopkin)you go.

[cinnamongrrl]

Sometimes...even when I do the right thing....I'm still wrong...

If something seems too good to be true it probably is...

[TruTexan]

I've learned that Santa doesn't always give me coal each year!! HAHA!!

[Blade]

What is a shopkin??
http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/61zqsAZYtUL._SY355_.jpg

SHOPKINS, they each have a name and they each have their own shopping bag..rage of the age for the little kids these days.

[Gemme]

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/61zqsAZYtUL._SY355_.jpg

SHOPKINS, they each have a name and they each have their own shopping bag..rage of the age for the little kids these days.

:blink:

Definitely not what I was picturing.

I learned something new today!

[Lecheloco]

There is such a thing as corn flan, who knew

I like to hear a good gigglesnort

[BullDog]

To always stick to my values and the things that I believe in and matter to me the most. I may go about things in the most inefficient, bull-headed and painful ways sometimes, but I do survive with myself intact and ready for the beautiful opportunities and surprises that this roller coaster called life has to offer.

[princessbelle]

I've learned a lot. But, the positive is that i've learned that i have some genuine friends that i love like family. I've learned that my favorite time to walk is right after it rains. I've learned that the power of prayer in my life is worth doing more often and i've learned I am a strong woman that has a lot of love and laughter left in her. I've learned that there is a gay community that is very cool so close to me that i never knew about. I've also learned that i had a secret Santa that evidently says i was very, very good this year.

[JustLovelyJenn]

I just finished a long report on educational diversity statistics...

I learned that there is a lot of raw data about educational statistics and I learned that a lot of reports skew that data a great deal.

[MsTinkerbelly]

I have learned that my daughter moving away won't kill me....

I have learned that prayer is very important in my life.

I have learned my friends are treasures I should never take for granted.

[Tuff Stuff]

I've learned that You can not run off to your room and shut the door...talking,communication is a must.

:beerfunnel:
:drunk:

Coffee together works too...heh

[kittygrrl]

I've learned that You can not run off to your room and shut the door...talking,communication is a must.

:beerfunnel:
:drunk:

Coffee together works too...heh

it seems simple, until it's not..but that's when it counts the most!

[betruetoyoursoul]

I have learned to be more proactive in the future...

[kittygrrl]

somethings can be incredibly good the second time around

[Triffid]

I have learned, that closed minded people love to voice their opinions but aren't open to others voicing theirs.

[Blade]

I have learned that although I only live 30 minutes from town, if I leave the yard it will be 4 hrs before I make it back.

[Chad]

I have learned that when I am at work or in public I am an extrovert but when I am home or just alone I act more like an introvert. I need my down time to recharge.

I took the test at work and I tested as a ESTJ. Well, that matches me at work.

[Gayandgray]

I have learned that money does not buy happiness, however it sure does help!! And I have also learned that even tho I might hate my job, there are plenty of people I know without a job, so I better be glad I have a job to hate.:sunglass:

[girlin2une]

Definitely all the rage...and my daughter's favourite thing to play with these days!


:blink:

Definitely not what I was picturing.

I learned something new today!

[JDeere]

Using too much conditioner in the shower is hard to fully wash out of my hair!

[kittygrrl]

happiness comes in small bites

[homoe]

Sometimes it's better to be friends than lovers!

[angelface]

Barbell squats are bad for my knees and I need to adapt my training regime to reflect this annoying fact. :sigh:

[JDeere]

Buying Men's products and learning they work just as well as Women's products on my skin.

[jools66]

That the people who truly love you will always be there for you.
No matter if you are sad, happy, or. Even wanting to retreat into yourself for a while.
So the lesson learned is to reach out to ppl you have really lost touch with, and have really thought of as a true friend.
We are stronger if we stand and support each other.

[JustLovelyJenn]

Painkillers and xanax are wonderful some days...

[gotoseagrl]

A neat trick. The sound of air kisses wakes a sleepy BullDog's eyes whenever they close in the middle of working so hard.

[Gayandgray]

That people will say one thing, then turn around and do something totally different. A person's word used to be all u needed. It was binding and legal. Now I'm realizing that you really can't trust people anymore. Not all people, just some.

[Jar]

I've learned that getting older is pretty cool. The filters are almost completely gone :cheesy: and you become more aware of your self worth and less prone to put up with unhealthy bullshit. It's easier to see through people so you know when they're being sincere and when they're trying to sell you crap you don't need. It becomes more about what makes you happy so you're less prone to let things into your life that'll threaten that

[kittygrrl]

keep your friends close, your enemies as far away as humanely possible!:hangloose:

[Blade]

I've learned that although I appreciate having health insurance and short/long term disability provided by my company, actually that is all that is provided. I have learned that you have to jump threw hoops every week to continue getting paid. It would just be easier to work than do all this crap every week. It's not right to have people jumping threw hoops when they can't get around. What do people do when they are completely disabled, say stroke, heart surgery etc

[MysticOceansFL]

Still learning every day.

[Gayandgray]

I have learned that a lot of people are all about themselves. They don't want to do anything if there isn't something in it for them. They are very good at taking, but not so good at giving......

[LOQUI]

...not much apparently :blink:

[Blade]

I've learned that some things in life are circumstantial and temporary. Some things are from our own poor or good choices.

Life is what you make it, you can make fun out of hardships and sometimes hardships out of fun. It's all about choices, I choose to have fun. Mostly...

:rubberducky::rubberducky::rubberducky:

[kittygrrl]

from Google today..
1. Do not begin eating until everyone at table is seated and served and hostess begins (learned this when 5 years old)
2. Keep off (the table) everything not related to food.
3. Don't text at the table (Sorta recently, when my husband looked at me and said "Really?":sunglass:
4. What to do if youre not drinking wine. Do not turn your glass over. Simply put your fingers on rim of your glass and say "No thank you, not tonight" This implies no judgement for those at the table who are having wine.
5. Speakerphone etiquette: Let a person know they are on speakerphone. Do not turn on a speakerphone in a roomful of people unless it's a business meeting. Do not use speakerphone to go thru your voicemail:| (guilty, but learned the hard way)
6. How to get the door for someone-whoever arrives there first, opens it (unless youre a Princess) :)
7. Work Kitchen Microwave etiquette: Don't microwave stinky food:seeingstars:
8. How to behave on an elevator-Hold the door open for others before entering.
9. Email etiquette: Don't send an email that just says "Thanks" If all you have to say is "thanks". Refrain from sending it. Youre just clogging an inbox.
10. Other phone no-nos: When you are speaking with someone in real time, do not glance down at your phone to see who is trying to reach you. Restrict hours you business text. and lastly....
11. Shield your lemon (with your hand, as you squeeze it into your tea, so it doesn't, perchance, squirt inadvertently your dining companion's eye)

[MsTinkerbelly]

Grocery shopping can be a huge chore, especially if you have health issues. In the cart, out of the cart, in the car, out of the car, put it all away....collapse!

The part that tires me the most is taking it all out of the cart and putting it on the belt; bend, reach, pile...over and over! I have 3 cats and a dog, and just their food is 56 cans/containers from the depths of the cart up to the belt for an every other week shopping trip!

So.....I grab a big cart and 3 shopping baskets, lining my cart with the baskets inside and up top. I then load everything into the 3 baskets and the underside of the cart for larger items like tp, kibble, etc....

When I get to checkout I put the 3 baskets and misc. on the belt, and let the cashier do the unloading.

I wish I had thought of it years ago!:byebye:

[Kenna]

That dogs will be dogs and dump the water bucket as soon as you fill it up, so they can play with the bucket. :byebye:

[homoe]

To never ever put all your eggs in one basket:farmchicken:

[clay]

<snipped>

When I get to checkout I put the 3 baskets and misc. on the belt, and let the cashier do the unloading.

I wish I had thought of it years ago!:byebye:


This past weekend, I put my items in my personal grocery bags, & at checkout I set them on belt....I have a nice freezer bag I use & a heavy duty square one...I just always do this when I am shopping alone...makes it so much easier.

Well, a very rude & obnoxious woman behind me started running off at the mouth...."you need to get up & unload your bags, it is not her job to do so for you. I have worked as a cashier for 32 years & have never in my life seen any such a thing happen. And besides if you didn't "lay on the couch & eat bags of chips & cartons of ice cream all day, you wouldn't need to use a cart"...OH NO, she did NOT go there. Oh yes she did. It startled me so much & I got up, politely unloaded my bags then sat back down, & I turned to her with a LOT OF RESERVE and said..."you need to mind your own business & wherever you work, I sure hope to never patronize that store..." & left the store.

[MsTinkerbelly]

This past weekend, I put my items in my personal grocery bags, & at checkout I set them on belt....I have a nice freezer bag I use & a heavy duty square one...I just always do this when I am shopping alone...makes it so much easier.

Well, a very rude & obnoxious woman behind me started running off at the mouth...."you need to get up & unload your bags, it is not her job to do so for you. I have worked as a cashier for 32 years & have never in my life seen any such a thing happen. And besides if you didn't "lay on the couch & eat bags of chips & cartons of ice cream all day, you wouldn't need to use a cart"...OH NO, she did NOT go there. Oh yes she did. It startled me so much & I got up, politely unloaded my bags then sat back down, & I turned to her with a LOT OF RESERVE and said..."you need to mind your own business & wherever you work, I sure hope to never patronize that store..." & left the store.

Well...the difference between your experience and my experience boils down to one thing; I am not a nice person, and i have a heck of a bitchy resting face. I would have got in her face and told her to shove it up her ***, and I would have felt zero remorse.

Not to rag on you, but by doing what she wanted you to do (unloading your bags) you reinforced her bad behavior.:rrose:

[kittygrrl]

even after all these years, people continue to surprise me:praying:

[clay]

Well...the difference between your experience and my experience boils down to one thing; I am not a nice person, and i have a heck of a bitchy resting face. I would have got in her face and told her to shove it up her ***, and I would have felt zero remorse.

Not to rag on you, but by doing what she wanted you to do (unloading your bags) you reinforced her bad behavior.:rrose:

I don't think I did. I choose what "battles" to have. Obviously, for me, to engage someone with that kind of behavior would only escalate hers.

I can hold my own if it is necessary, so I would rather act like someone with some control and not feed into her behavior. That is just my own preference....

[Bèsame*]

I don't think I did. I choose what "battles" to have. Obviously, for me, to engage someone with that kind of behavior would only escalate hers.

I can hold my own if it is necessary, so I would rather act like someone with some control and not feed into her behavior. That is just my own preference....

I work in customer service, ALL. DAY. LONG.

Your best bet is to pick your battles. Why stoop to someone else's level? Be the better person, kill them with kindness. Sure, it won't make them see things different, it's in their mindset to stir the pot. Let it not be yours.

....oh, and when someone is mad, you might be the first level to feel their anger, try not to take it personal.

The public is a interesting group! The things this group has taught me!

[MsTinkerbelly]

I have learned.....

That when I don't sleep properly, I nap all day long.

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[BullDog]

That I know who I am, what my intentions are, what my values are, what my flaws, weaknesses and limitations are, and what I have to offer others. I am always trying to improve, but basically I'm gonna stick with what I know to be true about myself and what others think isn't going to change that.

[JDeere]

To always check your bank account before you go out shopping or to the club!

[Gayandgray]

Well I'm starting to learn that I need to be a little less harsh, a little less cold, that everyone deserves another chance.

[Blade]

I've learned that just because the Dr releases you doesn't mean you are healed/well

[homoe]

never count your chicken before your eggs hatch:farmchicken:

[clay]

That I DO want to love again. That my heart is full & loving...

[anotherbutch]

That one human being cannot "fix" another human being.

[Jesse]

I forget. :cigar2:

[Kätzchen]

That,


Less is more.
You've only got one life, so make it count.
Slow is so much better than fast, and so much more enjoyable.

[Bèsame*]

http://images.firstcovers.com/covers/userquotes/a/actions_speak_louder-42690.jpg

[Gayandgray]

That some people are just plain mean.

[homoe]

It APPEARS that I've learned a lot about chicken and eggs:blink:

[JDeere]

Trust is very important and hard to come by these days.

[Blade]

I've learned if it don't feel right don't do it. If it feels right go for it!

[CherryWine]

I've learned that facing your fears is never an easy thing to do. However, when you find the courage to face them, and then you win....well, that's truly one of the best feelings in the world.

[Gayandgray]

I have learned that you can't help people that aren't willing to help themselves.

[Degotoga]

Just about the time I think I'm ready to jump out there and start dating again, I see someone (or several someone's, as the case may be) do some dishonorable, self-serving shit to someone they supposedly love and it baffles the hell out of me. I've learned that apparently my views on dating and relationships are too old-fashioned for today's dating game. What ever happened to protecting the people you love and defending their honor, especially in their absence?

[The JD]

I just learned that the sound of (Medusa playing) bagpipes makes tiny dogs cry. :blink:

[Orema]

I've learned if I hang around with people who don't believe in me, soon enough I'll stop believing in myself.

I've also learned that people who don't believe in themselves can't believe in me either.

[FireSignFemme]

I’ve learned some people aren’t really asking for help, what they actually want is a chance to shoot down all suggestions.

I’ve learned people looking for perfection in a partner, rarely make good partners themselves.

I’ve learned those who blame child abuse for mistakes they continue to make as adults really need to grow up.

I’ve learned the more I avoid abusive people the less often I find myself having to ask myself – Am I forgiving enough?

[Blade]

Never turn your back on a chicken. Believe me this does require thinking harder and not being complacent with the idea that chickens are "bird brains" lol

[legally_b10nde]

I have learned that a banana and Nutella is YUM!

[JDeere]

I have learned that a banana and Nutella is YUM!

Great minds think alike! I love nutella and bananas.

[JDeere]

I have learned to trust my gut instincts in certain cases.

I over think way too much as well.

[Gayandgray]

I have learned that I deserve to be happy.

[Chad]

Drinking wine in the evening gives me weird dreams and I wake up a lot. Yucky.

[BullDog]

I ran across an article today that really got me thinking. I have learned that romantic love and passion are beautiful and necessary for a good relationship but that liking and respecting the person you are with is just as important as being madly in love and passionate. Passion and romance are important but not sufficient. I did already know that but have learned along the way some important lessons regarding this. I used to think communication was the key, but actually respect is even more important. And of course true commitment.

I've had what I thought was great communication with past partners only to realize later that they totally don't get me at all. I am always exactly myself, so if someone doesn't get me and what my intentions and love for them is after a lot of communication and spending time with me where that person and our relationship is my top priority at all times and I am doing everything I can for them, then I don't get that. I've also had relationships where the communication wasn't good, and that definitely doesn't work either. All I know is it is better to find someone who really likes as well as loves me for the person I really am and not some idealized version. The person respects that I have to work and do many other practical things as part of my every day routine and I am still thinking of her every single second that I am doing that and it is out of love as well as necessity. Life is not all hearts and roses and sometimes I express my love for someone in "practical" ways as well as "romantic" ways. It really helps to have a partner who understands this.

This article is awesome:

https://qz.com/884448/every-successful-relationship-is-successful-for-the-same-exact-reasons/

Like the article says, you really want to be with someone where you both genuinely enjoy being with one another and respect one another. It's something I think that is easy to agree with and feel you do know, but sometimes you have to go through some things to really see and understand this on a practical as well as romantic level.

"True love—that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy—is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances."

[Clyde]

Not to mix plaid and stripes.

[Kätzchen]

That my youngest son is willing to divorce himself from one of his really bad habits (Alcohol Addiction). I think that half his battle in addressing his addictions was his inability to see how his choices were harming his life. He's ready to divorce himself from alcohol. I couldn't be happier for him.

[JDeere]

Being mature about situations always makes things go smoother.

[Chad]

Everyone can be replaced.

This is not new I learned this in the 70's I just ponder it sometimes.

I know that I have been replaced in jobs and other life situations. It is interesting to ponder this because as humans we think we are unique but we are not.

It is not a sad or a feeling thing it is just reality.

[Teddybear]

I have learned that no matter how much you want something with another if they aren't there they ARE NOT there. Walk away.

Sometimes you just have to remember what you had and live with that and know that they is someone out there for you.

Loving someone is never wrong maybe just the wrong time in your life.

[easygoingfemme]

I'm learning to be better and more quick at trusting my gut and taking action in the way it directs me.

[Stone-Butch]

Intelligent people have something to say. Others just have to say something.

[Gayandgray]

I have learned that sometimes life ain't always greener on the other side.

[Gayandgray]

I've also learned that sometimes you just have to take a chance, no matter how scared you are of failing.

[JDeere]

That being obsessive can be a negative and positive thing.

[Gayandgray]

I've learned that when you make major mistakes in life, you just have to suck it up and start all over again, sometimes from the bottom.:jester:

[Chad]

I am researching storm surge structures and I ran across a report about an aqua duct that was above grade and crossed over a river. Imagine a road bridge that crosses over a river only it was full of water and used as a shipping channel. It is located in Germany. It was awesome I have never seen anything like that before. If I knew how to upload photos in a thread I would.

[girl_dee]

I've learned that when you make major mistakes in life, you just have to suck it up and start all over again, sometimes from the bottom.:jester:

Yes, and with more information than you started off with.

[WolfyOne]

Oh, I am still learning
You trust the people you think are right, only to find out they are wrong.
Wake up happy and don"t let anyone steal it from you' I've finally learned this one :)

[BullDog]

That your heart can be a safe harbor, a sanctuary of sorts, of all your loves, failures, disappointments, broken dreams, hopes for the future that you have and have had, if you just are still and let things be and cherish every special person and moment you have experienced in your life. To just hold it all in your mind and heart at the same time.

I really hope this hard headed butch has learned this and it isn't just a temporary epiphany.

[JDeere]

Life isn't fair, at all, but you live and continue to learn.

[DapperButch]

I think I am at my best when I am alone. :thinking:

[easygoingfemme]

I think I am at my best when I am alone. :thinking:

I often feel the same...

[Gemme]

I think I am at my best when I am alone. :thinking:

For me, there's a fine line that I must walk so I don't lose myself in the relationship and become resentful. Being alone has its perks but so does snuggling on the sofa. Apparently, for me, the fine line is somewhere on the sofa.

:blink:

[kittygrrl]

control your thoughts-this is always where the trouble starts:tea:

[Chad]

All work and no play makes me grumpy.
I need some fun.

My wish list
:knighthorse::bbq::flying::theisland::movieguy:
:fishingboot::sailing::fishing::party:

[Gayandgray]

That sometimes life just ain't fair. It is what it is. Move on.

[JDeere]

I have hardly any patience left.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

It is way easier for me to be compassionate than to carry resentment around about the small everyday irritations.

[kittygrrl]

“Trust, Like The Soul, Never Returns Once It Is Gone” (anon)

[Chad]

I agree with kittygrrl on the point that once trust is gone then it is gone forever to me.

I am always headed forward.

:cowboy:

[girl_dee]

I think I am at my best when I am alone. :thinking:

I agree, only i am better when i LIVE alone.

An occasional sleepover is just fine but i am never giving up my space again.

[Gayandgray]

That a positive attitude goes a long way!!!!!! Life ain't that bad, seriously. Sometimes we tend to complicate things way too much. We make it hard when it doesn't have to be. I'm learning to go with the flow....:hangloose:

[introverted1]

Instead of immediately judging somebody who is being rude or brusque with me, I wonder what they might be going through personally to cause them to be that way.

If we are stressed, we might not always be on our best behavior.

[JDeere]

I have learned that it takes awhile for me to truly get over a heartbreak.

[Kätzchen]

I'm an avid crossword puzzle solver type of woman....I've been solving puzzles since I was ten years of age, maybe??

Anyhooo.... I've just learned, in a round about way, or rather it came to me while thinking about annoying pet peeves about puzzles, that most all editions of puzzle books seem to be authored by politically minded conservatives. It dawned on me that this must be the reason why I sometimes see hidden clues to the author's inner biases that seem hardly noticed by the casual puzzle solver, but this epiphany came to me while saying to myself the other day: "WTF is wrong with this person's thinking process?" , when the clue given to solve for the term used was most often a conflation of the term-proper, but also reveals rather toxic types of personal beliefs that go strictly against the grain, as far reaching as women's rights or unclever, well hidden views toward the LGBTQ, or even straight out, laugh in your face -- 'haha, I support the fucker elected to national office."

Now that I see this issue more clearly, I have resolved to never buy a puzzle book that has even one whiff of biased conservatism.

I'm guessing there is a niché market for puzzle books that do not favor biased political process?

[JDeere]

That being couth doesn't always work in my favor.

[cathexis]

To be more mindful of the depth of my relationship with my Partner, and how seemingly simple actions or words effect Her self confidence or frame of mind.

My actions and words become deeply integrated in Her view of life and Her determination.

How deeply I effect Her life and Her mine, how deep our connection is.

[cathexis]

That sometimes I need to step up, being assertive, to defend my own and other's issues no matter how uncomfortable it may feel.

[girl_dee]

that its ok to have healthy boundaries. Everyone should have them

[Greco]

I learned several years ago the difference
between being liked and admired
and being valued and appreciated
in any form of relationship...family,
friends, patrons, clients, colleagues.

It was quite a learning.


Greco

[Kätzchen]

......That Steel Magnolia's is simply a timeless, classic movie.

[kittygrrl]

i've learned every day is a treasure-don't waste it:rrose:

[akiza]

i have learned that blood doesn't always make people family surprise!

[kittygrrl]

same sh*t, different day-always applies. Period

[Gayandgray]

I have learned that at this point in my life I really, really need to simplify things. I'm gonna be 48 in a few weeks and I have to do what is best for me and my butch. We are not getting any younger, and her health is declining, and it's up to me to take care of things. Well meaning family/friends can voice their opinions all they want, but they are not doing the work and they are not offering any help either.

[Chad]

Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are tired.
Otherwise, run as fast as you can and slam into life.

Make everyday a happy day.


:cowboy:

[girl_dee]

that life is too short to hold on to anything but good stuff.

[CherryWine]

Holding a constant grudge against anyone is an incredible waste of your own energy and happiness. Let that shit go.

[Chained Daisy]

That I am under no obligation to fill every pause,
silence or gap, I do not have to appoint myself entertainer, soother, diplomat and conversational tour guide all the time and its quite alright to let others fill those pauses and put a little effort in and that does not make me a bad person. PS: This is a real time person to person observation not relating to interactions here on the Planet...just thought I should clarify !

[girl_dee]

That being in the moment is much more enjoyable than fretting about the future.

[Gayandgray]

That being in the moment is much more enjoyable than fretting about the future.

So true!!!! I'm learning this as well!

[Gemme]

I'm working on having faith and not second guessing things.

[akiza]

darkness can take control at random moments

[Penelope]

Today I learned, after 9 years of dating, that my partner does not care for mushrooms on his pizza nor is he a fan of chocolate cake. Who knew?? :blink: :p

[girl_dee]

that i have to get better and reading people........:|

[Kosmo]

Today I learned, after 9 years of dating, that my partner does not care for mushrooms on his pizza nor is he a fan of chocolate cake. Who knew?? :blink: :p
Weird huh, 'cause I love breaded mushrooms and devil's food cake. Just not canned mushrooms or the standard chocolate cake from store.

Good dialog. Getting to know you...
:flowers::flowers:

FYI it's called living together.

[Penelope]

But we haven't been living together for 9 years, only dating. We have been living together for 7.5 or so. :rolleyes: ;)


FYI it's called living together.

[Kosmo]

But we haven't been living together for 9 years, only dating. We have been living together for 7.5 or so. :rolleyes: ;)

I know you know what you mean and I love that about you!

[CherryWine]

Happiness is about a delicate balance of giving and taking, independence and interdependence, holding on and letting go. It doesn't come solely from within oneself, even though the foundation of true happiness must commence from within.

We can pretend all day long that we don't need others and don't care what other people think, but the truth is we all need people in our lives who validate us. We must make sure to seek validation from the right people, though...our loved ones, those we know on a personal, deep level...those who have our best interests at heart. And we must provide the same to them in return.

[girl_dee]

That doing the same thing and expecting different results is never going to work.

[Bèsame*]

there are two sides to every story...

[2qt]

I have learned no matter how much you put in it won't always make a difference.... That it's okay to say no once in a while.... Text can be easily misread.... That giving a part of me to someone doesn't give them the right to own every part of me... That I am okay being me & if that isn't enough then they're not enough for me... That strength doesn't come from muscles it comes from the mind... If your mind is weak all of you is....

[BullDog]

To stay true to Myself. To give my energy, attention and love to those who genuinely care about me and value me as a person and ignore the noise.

[JDeere]

That my list for what I want and don't want in my next relationship or dating, has changed.

[hopelessromantic69]

That I can't change a tire in 15 minutes anymore. It took 20 minutes yesterday! I'm getting old lol!

[Esme nha Maire]

This last few months, I have been learning that there are more ways to be than I ever dreamt of, and that education is helping me understand myself better, and feel more comfortable in my own skin and amongst other humans. This is wonderful.

[Shystonefem]

I learned the most important lesson you could learn. You do you first. Everyone needs something but you cannot be everything to everyone when you are not running on a full tank.

I am sick yet people still look to me for help. I have nothing to give them because all my energies are focused on me. I kind of like it that way.

[JDeere]

I procrastinate way too much!

[Tuff Stuff]

If you look into the face of evil, evils going to look back at you.

No sh$t!

[2qt]

That ebay is both addictive & dangerous....Cherry flavoured ice cream is really gross....When you open a bar of chocolate you can't just stop at one piece...

[kittygrrl]

if it's not broke, don't fix it

[clay]

Life is filled with challenges. Sometimes you think you have it all figured out, then suddenly, you really don't.

One has to be willing to bend a little & accept things/people at face value.

[JDeere]

That some people are rude as hell and should know better then to do what they do.

[girl_dee]

that i get to choose who i want to spend time with, and who i don't. (this was just a reminder of something i already learned)

[CherryWine]

There will always be people who don't like you, and unless you're just trying to be unlikeable, it won't have a thing to do with you.

If you're good at what you do, you will have lots of people who don't like you. Obviously, those aren't your people.

[Gayandgray]

That even though I paid to have my astrology chart done years ago and it said I was a true Cancer, I'm realizing I have an awful lot of Gemini traits too..... Wondering if there is any truth to that being born "on the cusp" stuff?:confused::confused::confused:

[homoe]

To ALWAYS trust my gut feeling.:hangloose:

[hopelessromantic69]

To listen better and keep my mouth shut!

[gotoseagrl]

That finding contentment with waiting for what is coming truly pays off.

[homoe]

To listen better and keep my mouth shut!

AMEN.......if ONLY I could learn this:blink:

[girl_dee]

That i can be myself, and it still be okay.

[2qt]

I have learned that you can't educate ignorance....
I have learned that hate is not what we are born to do but what we have learned to do.....
I have learned that letting go free's our mind from the things that weigh it down...

[kittygrrl]

i've learned it's better to be wise, then beautiful

[~ocean]

Actions speak louder than words ~ :)

[Blade]

Pertaining to the work place, I've learned the more you do the more they expect you to do

[kittygrrl]

to listen to the still small voice..

[TL1]

To sync my mind and heart


The heart just likes to fly off on its own sometimes leaving my mind way back there somewhere.

So now they work together... team work!

[BullDog]

I can never be anyone but Me. Yes, I need to constantly strive to be better, to learn from my mistakes, and to admit when I am wrong (even if it sometimes takes me years to finally realize it). I blaze with an intensity that exhausts me sometimes and makes me misunderstood by others quite often, but I can truly only be Me - flaws and all- and feel everything with every fiber of my being and never, ever give that up.

[clay]

bound....dah....ries....Set 'em & forget 'em!

[Bèsame*]

Nothing ever is how it appears.

Even salt looks like sugar.

[BullDog]

https://i.imgur.com/iqUpZIu.jpg

[JDeere]

Stop expecting things from others!

[Blade]

I have learned ya better listen to Grandma lol. I can still hear her saying don't pick that up you'll ruin your back. Yeah yeah whatever, watch this! 45 yrs later damn I wish I had listened to you.

[kittygrrl]

a true friend:rrose: is always there for you, whether she agrees with you or not

[Plaidandroses]

It's okay to need help. It's okay to accept help. It's okay to ask for help. You're not a failure just because you needed help. I have to say this to myself 1000 times a week. Maybe it will sink in eventually.

[kittygrrl]

learned...being Vegan 80% of the time feels better than 0% of the time:tea:

[kittygrrl]

musing...as time goes by what makes me happiest are the little things, in the moment-

[WheatToast]

all kinds of love (in this world) but you have to love yourself first otherwise you risk loving things that can't love you back (the way you deserve to be)

Kittygrrl, brilliant! Without self love, how can we ever hope to love others? I used to conflate self love with conceit, but all it really means is learning to advocate, trust, respect and care for ourselves. Once that becomes a habit, I believe we learn to accept nothing less from others.

[WheatToast]

that life is too short to hold on to anything but good stuff.

I've learned that an attitude of gratitude is more than just a platitude.
I've learned that affirmations work, but so do "nahfirmations."
I've learned that yesterday is gone and tomorrow is a mystery, but if I focus on having a good today, it predicts a good tomorrow, and if I keep at it, my yesterdays will make for good memories.

But most importantly, I have learned that you don't have to try on pants to know whether they'll fit. All you have to do is wrap the waistband around your neck and if the two sides connect, they'll fit.

[Femmewench]

But most importantly, I have learned that you don't have to try on pants to know whether they'll fit. All you have to do is wrap the waistband around your neck and if the two sides connect, they'll fit.


If this had not worked, I wasn't going to post. How on earth did you learn that?

[Lifesymphony]

Loving a child is unlike any other sort of love.
I thought I understood what it was to love someone. I have been in love. I have lost myself in love. I love.
Yet, it was my son who taught me the true feeling and sense of love. He was in the icu recovering after an operation gone terribly wrong which left him near death. In the quiet of those silent bedside nights praying for his recovery and praying with all my being that I could take his place, my epiphany arrived: "Love" for me is unconditional, selfless, patient, inviolable and pure. How much this young man teaches me.

[WheatToast]

If this had not worked, I wasn't going to post. How on earth did you learn that?

Probably Pinterest.

[Gayandgray]

That sometimes you gotta forget the past, give up holding grudges, and give people(including family) another chance.

[~ocean]

Loving a child is unlike any other sort of love.
I thought I understood what it was to love someone. I have been in love. I have lost myself in love. I love.
Yet, it was my son who taught me the true feeling and sense of love. He was in the icu recovering after an operation gone terribly wrong which left him near death. In the quiet of those silent bedside nights praying for his recovery and praying with all my being that I could take his place, my epiphany arrived: "Love" for me is unconditional, selfless, patient, inviolable and pure. How much this young man teaches me.

when you have a grandchild u feel all that love x2 :) beautiful post nd I am glad your son is ok :) God Bless

[JDeere]

Anger and resentment stick around and will play hide and seek with you, when you don't want it to.

[Lifesymphony]

As a lady, I don't need/want to be informed of the vulgar street phrases for intimate activities.
...I just want to share them and hear you say "mmmmmm, good girl":sunglass:

[JDeere]

Don't say permanent hurtful thoughts just because you're temporarily upset.

[Lifesymphony]

Never ruin a good apology with an explanation :deepthoughts:

[kittygrrl]

learned..ethics must be sought, before taught

[kittygrrl]

the only cage that can contain me is the one i've built myself-kitty

[kittygrrl]

love makes you thirst..don't be afraid..drink deeply-kitty

[WheatToast]

I've learned that the more fluid my thinking is, the more opportunities I have to learn, have fun and release crusty old beliefs, resentments and out-dated opinions.
I know so much less than I did in my 20s, and much less than back in my know-it all-30's.
Life gets easier when the mind starts to slough off old data to make room for new. Easier still because new data doesn't exactly rush in on a daily basis.
I've learned the older I get, the less I need to prove myself to anyone, and I've learned how mostly everything I encounter is either none of my business, or not my job to fix.

[~ocean]

I've learned to always be myself ~ I never go along with what I don't believe in. Living and leading with my own beliefs makes me respect others who do the same . Viva la difference !

[RockOn]

I have learned I am the only one on this site who finds the Cassowary (Casuarius) bird from Australia interesting. I posted a photo of it 2 weeks ago (Saturday October 6, 2018) and not one single comment.

:) :) :) *laughing really loud at myself*

(thinking ... and they don't like tannerite either)

please forgive, my sense of humor is riding on and off the wall today ... all this is tongue in cheek ... I have been sort of giggling at everything since I got up ... I am in an exceptionally good mood! ;)

[Chad]

I have learned that if I do my best then things will work out. I am not perfect and I make mistakes but I can do my best to rectify my mistakes and hopefully learn from them.

I show up everyday and I do my best.

[JustLovelyJenn]

I learned that a thirst for knowledge and stimulating conversation is probably the MOST important qualification in a partner for me.

[~ocean]

I have learned I am the only one on this site who finds the Cassowary (Casuarius) bird from Australia interesting. I posted a photo of it 2 weeks ago (Saturday October 6, 2018) and not one single comment.

:) :) :) *laughing really loud at myself*

(thinking ... and they don't like tannerite either)

please forgive, my sense of humor is riding on and off the wall today ... all this is tongue in cheek ... I have been sort of giggling at everything since I got up ... I am in an exceptionally good mood! ;)


lololol u crack me up ! I seen that pic. what can ya say !!~ lololol :blink::blink::blink:

[homoe]

I've learned that no good deed goes unpunished!

[homoe]

..


I've learned to never judge a book by its cover.....

[C0LLETTE]

I've learned that if the caller number on my phone has more than 10 digits, it's someone in India that wants my bank account number or my computer password or, even worse, wants me to sign up to get my ducts cleaned.

[Orema]

That every generation has to fight for its humanity.

[Plaidandroses]

I've learned that my days of getting 5 hours of sleep and then rockin' on the next day are over... I guess I'm getting old because I need my sleep! :hk36:

[JDeere]

I've learned that I shouldn't have updated my laptop Lol

[Cin]

Some of what i learned in 2020:

It took a pandemic to help me understand that a hug is worth a thousand words.

I used to think I hated crowds. Now I miss crowded spaces and touching strangers without fear.

We are all people who need people.

Never miss an opportunity to touch someone with your love.

Life is a wonderful and fragile gift and we are all responsible for protecting it.

Our humanity exists in our ability to care for and about each other.

Don't take anything for granted. Things can change quickly and in the most unexpected ways. Live and love in the moment.

Remember a smile also shows in your eyes.

[Stone-Butch]

I have learned that no matter how much you desire or wish for something it will never be yours if it was not meant to be.

[akiza]

I have learned and still do today that there shouldn't be a shame to be scared just as long i don't let it lock me away

[Blade]

I've learned in my next life I will take better care of my body. Not just weight, but sleep more, start eating things that are good for me earlier. Chose a career that isn't as hard on my body. Take better care of my joints.

[homoe]

~~
I've learned to never tell a friend their loved one is cheating on them.....

[Stone-Butch]

I have learned not to delve into vast problems with half vast ideas.