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05-16-2010, 02:06 PM
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Falling in Love.. Online
So i'm ust wondering what you all think on the subject of online relationships and love.
Do you think it's possible to fall in love online? |
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05-16-2010, 02:13 PM
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no don't do it. Read the thread about online relationships, meeting etc that Superfemme started.
can you care about people online? sure, look at so many here but falling in love is a whole other ball of wax.
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05-16-2010, 02:20 PM
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It IS possible to fall in love online. That is the way a lot of great relationships start. Mine included.
Here is the thread Sachita is referring to: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=1365 It's a discussion about protecting yourself while falling in love.... |
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05-16-2010, 02:37 PM
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Anything is possible. For me, it is not probable.
Relationships are complicated things, so is attraction. I might find someone on line to be intriguing or someone I might like to get to know better. But, falling in love, for me, is an up close and personal thing sans a computer screen or telephone.
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05-16-2010, 02:40 PM
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Falling in love is a process.
I know LOTS of people who MET online, and an attraction turned into a spark, the spark turned into a fire...and today they are happily together. It CAN happen. Falling in love online doesn't necessarily mean that the entire process from glimmer to fire happens online. It means that yes, online you can see the glimmer of attraction that can lead to love. |
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05-16-2010, 03:20 PM
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i've always been in love with the idea of love..
my people issues and disomfort socially kinda make it impossible. i find it difficult to even make friends because i fear rejection, sometimes live in my old little world and people don't get me. Sadly if i wanted sex, i think i could get it easily just to a "social" site. but i never just wanted sex, so i gave trying to be social. So i'm here and i think i met someone nice without even looking, we started chatting over the smallest of small things. But i am kind of woried that my social skills are going to screw me over.. i keep telling myself no matter what i should keep my distance cause i only know the person online.. However i have to consider that in person i would never have had the chance to meet anyone. God i really do babble on!! |
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05-16-2010, 03:26 PM
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Wheelie? We've chatted and you are going to be fine. You have fabulous social skills. Sometimes it's ok to take a risk, yanno?
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05-16-2010, 03:47 PM
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I met my Daddy/Sir online.... I then met him in person by going to a state I had never been to and meeting 8 people I had never met just to get out of my comfort zone.. I had really enjoyed my interactions with them online... Does it always work online? No... Can it? Yes... For me it requires real time interaction but that doesnt mean online is not possible. Everyone has their own personal experiences to judge from... but you can only judge it from your OWN experience... Listen to your heart, listen to those little nudges when something doesnt feel right.. Usually if it doesnt feel right it isnt.. My first online experience was just that way. I gave way too much of myself to someone I hadnt really spent alot of time getting to know. It was a very hard lesson to learn. I havent read the other thread yet but I have a feeling it will hopefully give you alot of helpful tips... Good luck!! Becca |
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05-16-2010, 02:23 PM
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05-16-2010, 02:25 PM
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You can do anything online or over the phone, but I would prefer real time. That way nobody can pretend to be something that they are not. Just like Rufus stated. |
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05-16-2010, 02:30 PM
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I have met people who have done it. What I know for sure for me is that it's possible to be madly and passionately >3 online.
And we >3 each other every where - even in public - right in front of people! We don't even care who knows that we are greater then three with each other. We are both hopeless romantics like that. We each stand there with one toe in the water and dare the other one to flinch. -sigh- he is so freakin' cute! On a slightly more serious note - I know that what I've been looking for is a needle in haystack. Being online gave me a bunch more haystacks to search. Once I found the right stack, the needle was much bigger and quite easy to find. *snicker*  There are no guarantees whether you meet online or in real time. Connections for me are difficult. I am not easily understood, I have a few minor issues. lol. When it's right I think you feel it. When you connect you know it. When it works it is fabulous. There is only one way to know for sure and that is to take the leap. It's not easy for those of us who have lost before. Once bitten.... |
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05-17-2010, 09:04 PM
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Just, no. Don't. Love is a transient enough whore in the real world.
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05-17-2010, 09:12 PM
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I think you can grow close to someone. Become quite fond of them, perhaps. But falling in love is something I reserve for an in person encounter. I have only really experienced full-on once in my life. And I can pinpoint the exact moment I really felt it in an unfiltered, pure way.
I recently recounted the story to someone of how I met this particular woman. The responses I get from people when I tell the story range from "that's unbelieveable" to "you have to write a book." I can't imagine I ever will because it is mostly private what happened between us. And that's the way I prefer to keep it...although I admit to a weak moment now and then. Jake |
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06-17-2010, 08:10 PM
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Okay I know that I am late on this subject, but better late than never right? Here are my thoughts on the subject of falling in love with someone online.
First of all I do not believe that any of your thoughts are wrong. For a-lot of people, falling in love with someone online or even just having an online relationship is a personal choice. Some people are totally okay with it, while other's aren't; and that's okay. Now on a more personal note... I do believe that any number of feelings can exist for a person online even the feeling of being IN love. However, you may not always know if it truly is In love, and not just love, like or lust until you meet the person face to face. Two of the main reasons for this are because A. Face to face is always different because not only is there the physical aspect of it all but you also connect in a different way and on a different level. And B. There are some people who sadly are not face to face what they claimed to be online. Some are not even WHO they claimed to be. There will always be factors that can change any situation in either a positive or negative way. This does not mean that we should limit ourselves, say no to everything or have some long list of things we won't do. Life is about taking chances. There are always going to be some things that work out for us, and some things that don't. Either way, we enjoy things for the moment and we learn and grow from things. If people didn't take chances, then would any of us ever experience love, happiness or even talking to or meeting anyone that touches our life or impacts us in any way? I have seen many relationship from online work out and last for years; some are still going strong. I have also seen some relationships from online not work out. I believe it is all a matter of whether or not the two people really want it to work and how much time and effort they put into the relationship. No matter what happens, it does not mean that any feeling that two people feel for each other online is not real or should minimized. I think only the two people directly concerned can know what it is they truly feel. Sorry if I rambled; I really didn't mean to. I just wanted to share my thoughts and I guess on some topics I kind of get off track. LOL. |
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