If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently?

[Scorp]

Hi Folks,

I thought this would be a good thread to start.

As the title states, If you could turn back time (and no I won't be busting out in any Cher song) what would you have done differently?

I would have to say, that I would have never EVER gotten involved long distance with a straight woman which was over 12 years ago. She was my first love and it was my first real experience with another woman. We did the long distance thing for 4 years and I was determined to be with this person.

She made many, many broken promises to me over the course of those years, it became complicated beyond words. We began arguing a lot and things just weren't working out, but neither one of us wanted to let go. I know she loved me very much, and I her, but it had to end. I was so consumed with the relationship and determined to make it work, but at the same time, I felt like I started to lose sight of myself and everything around me.

Finally one day I said no more. It was a emotionally draining and I think I hung in there more than I should have. I ended it and I was so heartbroken, but it was actually for the best, for both our sakes.

The strange thing is, I vowed I would never be involved in a long distance relationship ever again. Then one day, I met a pretty, intelligent, gentle, caring Minnesotan femme who I fell head over heels for. It's true what they say about opposites attract. Boy are we ever different, but we balance each other out so well. It's a nice mix

We have been together now for 8 years and the rest is history....

[apretty]

I'd take back those words that hurt you; If could reach the stars I'd give them all to you then you'd love me, love me! Like you used to do.








no cher?!

[Scorp]

(clapping) Very good...And this one's for you:

Originally Posted by apretty

I'd take back those words that hurt you; If could reach the stars I'd give them all to you then you'd love me, love me! Like you used to do.





no cher?!

[Rockinonahigh]

Oh gosh if I could turn back the hands of time I would do several things diffrently.One I wouldnt have gottem married at 18..I almost walked out of the church when mom caught me and said....I spent all this money,u arent walking out on this..I should have kept on walking.Big mistake.
Corse I would have come out way sooner than I did...famos words of many.
I also would have been more chosey who I dated,but I learned many things about life from it.

[lyric]

Oh, so many things...

I would have studied more in high school. I also would not have sacrificed one entire semester in college in favor of the party scene. One semester of nothing but drunken fuckery was not worth the 5 F's on my transcript and is causing me stress as I apply for a new job and work on a change in grad school plans.

I wouldn't have gotten married right after college. We thought it was a great idea because we were both gay, and we were both two kids from the country too scared of disappointing our families. Bad idea!

I wouldn't have wasted so many years worrying about my father's opinion.

I would have told my grandfather how much he meant to me before he died.

I would not have eaten those shrimp at the chinese buffet. :/

[Strappie]

I would not of let my partner cheat on me 4 times and gave up 12 yrs of my life. But I guess I did learn from it. Once a cheater always a cheater.

[lyric]

Originally Posted by Strappie

I would not of let my partner cheat on me 4 times and gave up 12 yrs of my life. But I guess I did learn from it. Once a cheater always a cheater.

Oh yeah... THAT too! LOL

Btw... Strappiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

[Kenna]

During a crisis I faced in 2001/early 2002...I wouldn't have put "it" back in "it's" place. Things would have been much better for many people had I handled that crisis in a different way and not shut down emotionally or allowed myself to get completely and utterly overwhelmed.

[nowandthen]

I would not change a thing as has been stated, I am who I am as a result of all that I have done. Having lived through the Aids in the 80's I learned to tell the people that I love I love them, seek my Dreams and love deeply....

[JAGG]

You can't change the past, why would you want to? The past has changed you. It's always about choices. I take chances lots of them. Because I believe in myself. I believe in the impossible. I know you can have it all, exactly the way you want it.
I have no regrets, because in my failures I can truely say, I did everything I should have. Regret comes from, not what you did or tried to do, but what you should have done. Once again, it's always about choices. The best choices, the best decisions, the ones that you never regret, come from listening to ourselves.

[asphaltcowboi]

i would have kept my mouth shut instead of expressing my pain verbaly in hurtful ways to the ones i loved but still blamed for my situation and pain. TG i think i have learned to express myself in a more kind way.

[shadows papa]

I wouldn't change a thing. Every twist, turn, hill, valley etc of the road of life has led me to where and who I am now. I would however, had changed how my Daddy responded when he first started coughing up blood. Instead of waiting 6 months to tell anyone, he would have gone to a doctor immediately and maybe the cancer wouldn't have metastized to his brain. Maybe he would have lived a little while longer. That is the only thing in the story of my life that I would re-write, if it were possible.

[Scorp]

Bummm, bum bum bummm Bummmmmmmmmpity!

[tapu]

I would never have had alcohol or drugs in my whole life.

Whenever I meet someone who hasn't, I think, "Good on ya. Don't let anyone tell you you missed out."

[sara-bera]

I've spent a good deal of my life as a joyful girl. There have been nights of crying wretchedly into my pillow and there are things I regret saying... or not saying, but I think I would leave everything as is. When the ultimate sweetness finally comes, it will be the most beautiful, comforting, loving thing I've ever felt and I don't know that I'd appreciate it without walking the path I've been on all along. My blind faith will pay off someday and I believe I'm getting much closer than I've ever been. I'm grateful for all of life's lessons, no matter how difficult they've been.

[Scorp]

I should have added this to the mix of what I "could" have done differently back in the day:

I should have gone into radio broadcasting which was a huge dream of mine from a very young age. I've always been intrigued by music and anything in the entertainment industry. It's definitely in my blood.

My grandfather was an actor back in the day and I also came from a somewhat musically inclined family. I'm not too sure why I didn't pursue any of my dream. I believe it was my lack of confidence at the time. You get to an age where you graduate high school and in the real world many things around you become overwhelming and it was difficult to make certain decisions. Instead I chose the Corporate world ugh...

People say you can pursue anything at any age, but...it isn't that easy when you need a steady job and put food on your table. I'm too old for the industry now especially broadcasting because you need to start out from a very young age and do all sorts of internships, and you are way at the bottom of the barrel. But, in my heart I'll always have those broadcasting dreams.

Since i'm on the topic of should have, would have, could have, I'd also like to mention that I wanted to become a police officer. I passed my officer's exam a very long time ago. I didn't pursue the academy because of back/neck issues and at the time and figured it wasn't worth putting my life on the line especially when you need to be in good "physical" shape and be up against all kinds of shapes/sizes of folks. I was bummed but had to make a choice and did what I thought was the right thing at that time. Plus, maybe it's a good thing that didn't happen, imagine me with a gun?

[nobelcarrot69]

I would have said no more often. And stayed away from people and things that had no benefit in them for me.

[Corkey]

Everything I have done has led me to where I am, everything I have endured has led to this moment in time, to change the past is to change the present, and I like where I am at present.

[Gemme]

I'm sure I've posted in here already, but I would change a lot of things, both good and bad.

You know those books that had multiple endings and, as you made choices, you found yourself in different scenarios and, ultimately, a new ending?

I wish life was like that where you could go back. It's still the same book but it gives you a chance to see a different side of your life. Sometimes we need that in order to see the present more clearly.

[Bella~Vita]

I would of pursued a career in music. Oh well, maybe the next life