If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently?

[Scorp]

Hi Folks,

I thought this would be a good thread to start.

As the title states, If you could turn back time (and no I won't be busting out in any Cher song) what would you have done differently?

I would have to say, that I would have never EVER gotten involved long distance with a straight woman which was over 12 years ago. She was my first love and it was my first real experience with another woman. We did the long distance thing for 4 years and I was determined to be with this person.

She made many, many broken promises to me over the course of those years, it became complicated beyond words. We began arguing a lot and things just weren't working out, but neither one of us wanted to let go. I know she loved me very much, and I her, but it had to end. I was so consumed with the relationship and determined to make it work, but at the same time, I felt like I started to lose sight of myself and everything around me.

Finally one day I said no more. It was a emotionally draining and I think I hung in there more than I should have. I ended it and I was so heartbroken, but it was actually for the best, for both our sakes.

The strange thing is, I vowed I would never be involved in a long distance relationship ever again. Then one day, I met a pretty, intelligent, gentle, caring Minnesotan femme who I fell head over heels for. It's true what they say about opposites attract. Boy are we ever different, but we balance each other out so well. It's a nice mix

We have been together now for 8 years and the rest is history....

[apretty]

I'd take back those words that hurt you; If could reach the stars I'd give them all to you then you'd love me, love me! Like you used to do.








no cher?!

[Scorp]

(clapping) Very good...And this one's for you:

Originally Posted by apretty

I'd take back those words that hurt you; If could reach the stars I'd give them all to you then you'd love me, love me! Like you used to do.





no cher?!

[Rockinonahigh]

Oh gosh if I could turn back the hands of time I would do several things diffrently.One I wouldnt have gottem married at 18..I almost walked out of the church when mom caught me and said....I spent all this money,u arent walking out on this..I should have kept on walking.Big mistake.
Corse I would have come out way sooner than I did...famos words of many.
I also would have been more chosey who I dated,but I learned many things about life from it.

[lyric]

Oh, so many things...

I would have studied more in high school. I also would not have sacrificed one entire semester in college in favor of the party scene. One semester of nothing but drunken fuckery was not worth the 5 F's on my transcript and is causing me stress as I apply for a new job and work on a change in grad school plans.

I wouldn't have gotten married right after college. We thought it was a great idea because we were both gay, and we were both two kids from the country too scared of disappointing our families. Bad idea!

I wouldn't have wasted so many years worrying about my father's opinion.

I would have told my grandfather how much he meant to me before he died.

I would not have eaten those shrimp at the chinese buffet. :/

[Strappie]

I would not of let my partner cheat on me 4 times and gave up 12 yrs of my life. But I guess I did learn from it. Once a cheater always a cheater.

[lyric]

Originally Posted by Strappie

I would not of let my partner cheat on me 4 times and gave up 12 yrs of my life. But I guess I did learn from it. Once a cheater always a cheater.

Oh yeah... THAT too! LOL

Btw... Strappiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

[Spirit Dancer]

I would never take one minute of life for granted.

[Soft*Silver]

I would not have given up my job and home in PA...both times

I would have talked more to my brother...it might have stopped him before he killed himself

I would have been kinder and more attentive to Mrs Rogers who lived downstairs from me and was in a wheelchair

I would have gone out to see my mom when she called me and asked me to, on the day she died

I would have gone on for my PhD in anthropology like I wanted to

[Bella~Vita]

I wish we could in a way turn back time. For me , I would have furthered my education and been more career orientated instead of looking for love. Geesh how dishearting , but my lessons were learn. However, all the lifes experiences made me a better woman. And I thank God for that. For showing me I had love all the time ...

[BornBronson]

I was a Hollywood runaway rape victim at age 11.That turned me into the person that I became for the next 30 years of my life...it was not a nice person.I couldn't see how wrong my life style was until just recently.I was a brute,a monster,especially to the female race.Some of you experienced that side of me personally.I'm sorry.

Of course there's no turning back time.

I'm much nicer these days,trust me.

[atomiczombie]

There are too many things to count for me. Really. I live with a lot of regret. At this point in my life, if I could change one thing, it would be not telling someone that I loved them when it would have really counted. Now it's too late. Never let fear stop you from telling someone that you have feelings for them. I don't regret the chances I took, only the ones I didn't.

[Miss Scarlett]

I know this sounds self-serving but with all the lumps, bumps and bruises I have from living life over the last 50 years I don't think I would change anything. Even the really, really bad stuff because it made me who I am now.

Though I would have bought those shoes...

But seriously if I could go back I would ask that I not go back to high school or junior high. Even with what I know now, once was more than enough.

[Oiler41]

A few things (assuming I knew then what I know now),,

I wouldn't have left my mother, career and home in Mississippi when I did. Huge life-altering mistake on several fronts.

I would have finished my education the first time around instead of waiting until I was 40. I eventually did finish a master's degree but it would have been better had I done it sooner.

I would have asked my mom more questions about so many things. I didn't realize how many questions I had until I couldn't ask them.

I would have purchased flood insurance on my home in Mississippi before hurricane Katrina. 4.5 feet of water; enough said.

I would have spent more time talking with my brother before his passing in 1979. I was only 17 when he committed suicide but I think there were more things I could have learned from him had I known what was to come.

Only a few things. I've learned a great many lessons along the way in this life; some of them are harder to think about than others but overall, I live with few regrets and apply lessons I've learned along the way as I go forward in life. Great topic for a thread!

Glynn

[Scorp]

Hey Folks,

Thanks for sharing your stories. I think you're all pretty special with sharing some intimate stories about yourselves and what you would have done differently and I appreciate that.

Keep your posts coming. I'm enjoying reading them as I'm sure the next person is as well.

Be well.

[chefhmboyrd]

started T at 20
learned to play more instruments
had more sex...... (if that is possible)
scheduled more vacation with my family
drank less
never smoked
worked out more
recorded more songs

that is all for now

[Apocalipstic]

If I turned back time I would have to live the bad parts over, can't do it.

[Fancy]

“Regret for time wasted can become a power for good in the time that remains, if we will only stop the waste and the idle, useless regretting.”
~Arthur Brisbane

I would not turn back time. Everything in the past happened for a purpose, and changing variables would not create the same learning, the same experience, or the same bonds. If there are regrets, they are only in the mind. Mental torture and mental suicide. Instead, I choose to embrace acceptance for the balance and thankful for all experiences however they are perceived by me. I've experienced and continue to experience love, life, and hard lessons, and am grateful for each and every second that I can continue to grow and move forward in this wild chaotic ride of a short life on Earth.

“We do not live an equal life, but one of contrasts and patchwork; now a little joy, then a sorrow, now a sin, then a generous or brave action.”
~Emerson

[Gemme]

If you went back in time, it would be nearly impossible not to change something, whether that was your intent or not. So, for those afraid or leary of reliving some rough times, those times may not happen in that circumstance or they may happen differently. It would be adding chapters to your life that you were previously unaware of.

I think I would like to go back as long as I went back with one single thought seared into my brain: trust my instincts. As long as I had that in my head and remembered it when I needed to, I think I would be a similarly different person. I'd still be the same at my core, but referential experiences would be different.

Then again, I've always been a sucker for those adventure books that you can choose where the story is going to go next and, if you didn't like that, you could just go back to that page and choose another option. I like options. I've felt that, in large quantities of my life, I had none. So getting a redo and possibly having some is quite appealing to me.

[WolfyOne]

Personally I wouldn't turn back time to change a thing
Whatever happened then is my past and many lessons learned
If I was always able to turn back time, I'd never make a mistake
How the heck would I learn anything without mistakes
I have few regrets with many mistakes along the way
Life is one big lesson in learning and I'm still doing it today
I'm thankful for all those people, places and things that have touched me over time

I will however enjoy reading what others would have done if they could go back in time for a redo