What do you prefer to be called on the site?

Jesse · 09-02-2010, 11:10 AM

Just wondering...what do you prefer to be called on here? What would you rather people not call you?

For instance, I prefer to be called either Tranzman or Jesse.

On the other hand, I truly detest being called Tranzy, Tranzy Poo etc.

Don't do it!

SuperFemme · 09-02-2010, 11:15 AM

i don't care what you call me as long as you do it in front of my face and not behind my back.

Greyson · 09-02-2010, 11:15 AM

Greyson or Grey. One person refers to me as "Gayson." I find it offensive only because I suspect his use of it is queerphobic. I have no issue with my gender nor sexuality.

Corkey · 09-02-2010, 11:22 AM

Corkey or Cork are fine with me, but please leave the cutsey shit off the end. I'm not that kind of guy to be calling cutsie names, it may come back to bite one in the rear end. As my wife uses Corkey when she is ticked at me and needs the first middle and last names to grab my attention she is the only one allowed to do so. It's called boundaries, I haz them.

betenoire · 09-02-2010, 11:31 AM

Really it depends on who it talking to me. Different people get to call me different things.

Brandy is always a safe bet. As is Potty. Bete works. Bête noire if you've got a bitchin' French accent.

Never Bran or Brand or Pots, thanks.

Arwen · 09-02-2010, 11:26 AM

Arwen. Ar.

My given name is Stephanie. That's what my mother and father named me. Some folks still prefer that over Arwen and that's okay.

Just do not shorten it to Stephie. I hate that with a passion. Steph I can handle but Stephie sends me right over the edge.

And, just so you know, I don't think it's cute to tease me about it. At all. One of my triggers and you will get a curt response. If you are lucky, I'll send it back channel.

Of course, darlin' is always good.

BullDog · 09-02-2010, 11:29 AM

BullDog, Bully or Jules. I also don't mind other terms of endearment when they are good natured.

As to my gender I am butch and/or butch woman. I do not use female identified butch- which I find to be very jargony and seems to be used because of male identified being used. So for those who prefer female identified butch that's fine and I will refer to you that way, but it does not refer to me.

Leigh · 09-02-2010, 11:36 AM

Since this thread was created, I think its as good a time as any to mention what it is that we prefer to be called. I've used Braedon for a long while and thats what everyone online knows Me as, but since I will soon be transitioning I have chosen a permanent male name that I will change it to legally when I can afford it:

Matthew Alexander

Those who prefer Braedon can still call Me that, though I'd prefer Matthew or Matt if that can be arranged. Other then that, I'm all good as long as you don't call Me late for dinner

ravfem · 09-03-2010, 08:28 AM

i'm rav, ravvie (ravvie poo to Pink), rev to the typonese

rhonda is my given name.
i don't really care what you call me, as long as it's not mean.
i'm easy like that

betenoire · 09-03-2010, 08:32 AM

Not relevant to this site, but I wanted to put out there that I have a coworker who calls me "Brandy-Girl" and it makes me want to slash her tires.

BullDog · 09-03-2010, 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jackhammer

I'm a female butch, my wife is a femme women. Thats how I choose to roll and it doesn't have ANYTHING to do with how others choose to identify.
To some of us female and women are different.

I said that was my personal preference, and that for myself do not want to be referred that way and I don't like the term. I never heard of female identified or male identified until I came online. I also said I would use it for those who do like it.

pajama · 09-03-2010, 10:40 AM

Ana
A
Bitch/Whore
And whatever a select few wish to call me....

BullDog · 09-03-2010, 11:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jackhammer

BullDog
I am asking you from this point on that if you want members to respect your identity, that you leave out the value judgments (the whole jargony and assumptions) when referring to how other people identify.
It comes off as judgmental and intolerant and that is not the kind of space we are trying to create here.

I said that is how it feels to me. I also said I would refer to others how they want to be called. The topic of the thread is how do you like to be called on the site. People constantly refer to me as female identified and I am clarifying that I would prefer people didn't refer that way to me. I don't consider it to be an umbrella term that I fall under.

waxnrope · 09-02-2010, 11:31 AM

I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ...
Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk.
Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

betenoire · 09-02-2010, 11:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by waxnrope

I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ...
Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk.
Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

You can get Linus to change your screen name if you're not happy with the one you picked.

turasultana · 09-02-2010, 11:36 AM

i get turasultana, tura, tura tura.

all fine. Hey sultana is fine too.

Laura is my actual name. that's fine by me too. although if i don't know you and you say it, i'll probably totally forget that I posted it and be confused for a minute.

Soft*Silver · 09-02-2010, 11:37 AM

S works fine. Strappie was calling me Softie in the chat room which was a new one for me. Like Wax, it doesnt matter here. I prefer not to be called by my given or nick names on the site, unless its in private. A real transgression of boundaries happened on another site when my given and nicknames were used in public posts aimed at harrassing me. Its amazing how web bullies can find cyber ways to maim....

chefhmboyrd · 09-02-2010, 11:49 AM

chef
andy
king andy
baby boy
daddy

dumbass
asshole
asshat
dick
prick
fucker
billy's boy toy (jk)
any or all of the above

DapperButch · 09-02-2010, 11:49 AM

Dapper is fine by me.

Perhaps for those who want to be called by something other than their screen name, they can put it in their signature?

Just a thought...

Cowboi · 09-02-2010, 02:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Arwen

Arwen. Ar.

My given name is Stephanie. That's what my mother and father named me. Some folks still prefer that over Arwen and that's okay.

Just do not shorten it to Stephie. I hate that with a passion. Steph I can handle but Stephie sends me right over the edge.

And, just so you know, I don't think it's cute to tease me about it. At all. One of my triggers and you will get a curt response. If you are lucky, I'll send it back channel.

Of course, darlin' is always good.

Don't forget, ............. Bella!!!!!

09-02-2010, 11:10 AM	#1
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,783 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	What do you prefer to be called on the site? Just wondering...what do you prefer to be called on here? What would you rather people not call you? For instance, I prefer to be called either Tranzman or Jesse. On the other hand, I truly detest being called Tranzy, Tranzy Poo etc. Don't do it! __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

09-02-2010, 11:15 AM	#3
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,153 Times in 2,005 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Greyson or Grey. One person refers to me as "Gayson." I find it offensive only because I suspect his use of it is queerphobic. I have no issue with my gender nor sexuality. __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

09-02-2010, 11:22 AM	#4
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,274 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Corkey or Cork are fine with me, but please leave the cutsey shit off the end. I'm not that kind of guy to be calling cutsie names, it may come back to bite one in the rear end. As my wife uses Corkey when she is ticked at me and needs the first middle and last names to grab my attention she is the only one allowed to do so. It's called boundaries, I haz them. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

09-02-2010, 11:31 AM	#5
betenoire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Satan in a Sunday Hat Preferred Pronoun?: Maow Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: The Chemical Valley Posts: 4,086 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,312 Thanked 8,737 Times in 2,565 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Really it depends on who it talking to me. Different people get to call me different things. Brandy is always a safe bet. As is Potty. Bete works. Bête noire if you've got a bitchin' French accent. Never Bran or Brand or Pots, thanks. __________________ bête noire \bet-NWAHR\, noun: One that is particularly disliked or that is to be avoided.

09-02-2010, 11:26 AM	#6
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,123 Times in 6,414 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	Arwen. Ar. My given name is Stephanie. That's what my mother and father named me. Some folks still prefer that over Arwen and that's okay. Just do not shorten it to Stephie. I hate that with a passion. Steph I can handle but Stephie sends me right over the edge. And, just so you know, I don't think it's cute to tease me about it. At all. One of my triggers and you will get a curt response. If you are lucky, I'll send it back channel. Of course, darlin' is always good. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

09-02-2010, 11:15 AM	#2
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	i don't care what you call me as long as you do it in front of my face and not behind my back.

09-02-2010, 11:29 AM	#7
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,691 Times in 4,464 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	BullDog, Bully or Jules. I also don't mind other terms of endearment when they are good natured. As to my gender I am butch and/or butch woman. I do not use female identified butch- which I find to be very jargony and seems to be used because of male identified being used. So for those who prefer female identified butch that's fine and I will refer to you that way, but it does not refer to me. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

09-02-2010, 11:36 AM	#8
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Since this thread was created, I think its as good a time as any to mention what it is that we prefer to be called. I've used Braedon for a long while and thats what everyone online knows Me as, but since I will soon be transitioning I have chosen a permanent male name that I will change it to legally when I can afford it: Matthew Alexander Those who prefer Braedon can still call Me that, though I'd prefer Matthew or Matt if that can be arranged. Other then that, I'm all good as long as you don't call Me late for dinner

09-03-2010, 08:28 AM	#9
ravfem Senior Member How Do You Identify?: i'm a girl Relationship Status: negative Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,239 Thanked 3,126 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 1969286	i'm rav, ravvie (ravvie poo to Pink), rev to the typonese rhonda is my given name. i don't really care what you call me, as long as it's not mean. i'm easy like that __________________

09-03-2010, 08:32 AM	#10
betenoire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Satan in a Sunday Hat Preferred Pronoun?: Maow Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: The Chemical Valley Posts: 4,086 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,312 Thanked 8,737 Times in 2,565 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Not relevant to this site, but I wanted to put out there that I have a coworker who calls me "Brandy-Girl" and it makes me want to slash her tires. __________________ bête noire \bet-NWAHR\, noun: One that is particularly disliked or that is to be avoided.

09-03-2010, 10:40 AM	#12
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,478 Times in 1,809 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Ana A Bitch/Whore And whatever a select few wish to call me....

09-02-2010, 11:31 AM	#14
waxnrope Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 5/27/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: hy ho, hy ho; he, she, it, whatever Relationship Status: Going slow ... Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: in her orifices ... la frontera Posts: 1,433 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,414 Thanked 2,957 Times in 952 Posts Rep Power: 0	I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ... Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk. Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

09-02-2010, 11:36 AM	#16
turasultana Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: spoken for Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: brooklyn Posts: 432 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 226 Thanked 713 Times in 249 Posts Rep Power: 2043785	i get turasultana, tura, tura tura. all fine. Hey sultana is fine too. Laura is my actual name. that's fine by me too. although if i don't know you and you say it, i'll probably totally forget that I posted it and be confused for a minute.

09-02-2010, 11:37 AM	#17
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,911 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	S works fine. Strappie was calling me Softie in the chat room which was a new one for me. Like Wax, it doesnt matter here. I prefer not to be called by my given or nick names on the site, unless its in private. A real transgression of boundaries happened on another site when my given and nicknames were used in public posts aimed at harrassing me. Its amazing how web bullies can find cyber ways to maim.... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

09-02-2010, 11:49 AM	#18
chefhmboyrd Senior Member How Do You Identify?: man Preferred Pronoun?: beef Relationship Status: Uncle Daddy Snap Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: nashvegas Posts: 1,607 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,411 Thanked 2,846 Times in 898 Posts Rep Power: 14271904	call me chef andy king andy baby boy daddy dumbass asshole asshat dick prick fucker billy's boy toy (jk) any or all of the above __________________ what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here?

09-02-2010, 11:49 AM	#19
DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,838 Times in 5,771 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Dapper is fine by me. Perhaps for those who want to be called by something other than their screen name, they can put it in their signature? Just a thought... __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?