The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over. - Page 146

morningstar55 · 08-01-2012, 10:39 AM

Wow whats it gona take 2 , get ths thread going again?? Heh

Afternooners all u old farts ... lol
am roaming the roads of ohiya lands 2day.... nex stop ... Clyde oh... wher evr that is... heie.. my grandfather's name Clyde

Anyways....... have a awsome day.

ruthie14 · 08-05-2012, 08:55 AM

Hello Lofters.. Morning star!

Hope everyone is having a great weekend! I had a relaxing day yesterday and today I am going to a ladies dance... fun! Going to put blond highlights in my hair today for the first time. I enlisted Mom's help and we shall see.. never did it before, but hey, hair is meant to be played with..right!?

Ruthie

fever · 08-05-2012, 11:38 AM

The landlord is power washing the house. I was awakened at 7am to the sound of big equipment roaring. lol So, having a coffee, watchin a chick flick, and trying to stay cool in 30 degree celsius weather. (I can't open the windows because he is power washing) I think I will go and see the Spiderman movie tonight. What are the rest of you doing this long weekend?

Candice

morningstar55 · 08-08-2012, 03:43 AM

Wow what a awsome lunch and visit with 2 awsome guys . Simpleasdirt nd the ever fabulous Dutch Leonard . A very smiling girl here..
Now bk to work i go.
And good morning loft dwellers nd peekers
Have a awsome day.

spiritfemme7 · 08-08-2012, 10:36 PM

This is really cool that there is a thread for us forty and fifty somethings! i'm 45 and holding! lol! it's not so bad being in the forty something group, even though sometimes i feel like i've been through the war! but i did enjoy my first time skydiving recently! so that makes up for a lot of the bad and sad times in life! so where are the hot single butches in their forties on here? lol!

ruthie14 · 08-09-2012, 07:26 PM

Dance was fun... however on the way to the dance I was at a red light that had just turned green and the car in front of me backed into me.... hard. I pulled over, they took off....ofcourse! Thank goodness I have an honest mechanic who will do the work for 500 that everywhere else would charge me over 1000. Oye On a better note, with the meds change and less lifting at work, I have been almost heachache free for 8 days. I usually get several a day in addition to the migraines so this is a HUGE and WONDERFUL change!!! Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have a great friday and a wonderful weekend!

Ruthie

ruthie14 · 08-11-2012, 06:23 AM

morningstar55 · 08-12-2012, 04:55 AM

Morning lofty dwellers nd peekers
Its a awsome Sunday morning here near DC .....
IN a little bit here, Will b visitng with ...... chef Jo ( aka chef jo) who Will b whipping upta awsome breakfast...
On another note......... y is ths thread so dead???
Hope everyone is having a awsome weekend

ruthie14 · 08-12-2012, 06:21 AM

Morning lofters... or should i just say Morning Morning star..... I know what you mean! Where is everyone???

Have a great breakfast with Chef Jo! Pictures please, I have high expectations! lolol

Going on a date today.... lunch then swimming or swimming then dinner... Always a lot of fun with her... too bad she has a commitment issue right now. Oh well, I always seem to find the ones that are out of long term relationships before they are ready for another one. I thought this one would be different... she has been out of that relationship for a while. Oh well, the heart mends when it mends. Gonna have fun while its fun...but after a while.. it starts to affect my self worth. That's when I will have to give it a break. I know I shouldn't let it... but somehow it does. *shrug*

Ruthie

KayCee · 08-12-2012, 06:35 AM

ruthie14 · 08-12-2012, 08:46 PM

While date was fun, she was definately pulling away. There was affection, but not as much as before. No making out etc. I know she is dating other people, and one other in particular. We have both been very honest with each other. I will not have sex outside of a relationship, she doesn't want a relationship..but does want sex. She has respected my boundaries and I respect her honesty. However, after today, I think she is leaning towards the other woman. We were seeing each other every other weekend (she has kids). Now she is going away on the weekend we usually see each other and the next time I see her will be at a women's event where we will be in the same cabin for a weekend with a number of other women. I know she is having sex with this other woman... fine. My head knows, and I told her, that she needs to figure this out for herself. She no longer wants to be monogamous because of past hurts. I want her to figure this out, I don't mind that she is doing this.It is something she feels she needs to do for a while and figure out what she wants. What bothers me is that she seems to be pulling away from me. She still seems to like me, played with my hair, kissed me sweetly several times, took me swimming and then out to dinner. But I am getting the feeling that she is wanting to go backwards... more of a friendship. I think I need some time away from her to figure out what I want to do. It's starting to hurt, and I don't like that.

lusciouskiwi · 08-14-2012, 10:32 AM

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

KayCee · 08-14-2012, 10:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lusciouskiwi

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

This is so sad. I esp. liked the words: 'In this world we can't worry about what others think...'

Thank you for posting this.

ruthie14 · 08-15-2012, 04:25 AM

OS Butch · 08-15-2012, 04:53 AM

Good morning Ruthie

I don't get here very often, but thought I would pop in before I head to work.

Have a great day!

Quote:

Originally Posted by ruthie14

morningstar55 · 08-15-2012, 05:59 AM

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh
((((((((Ruth)))))))))))
I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer.
hope everyone has a blessed day.

OS Butch · 08-15-2012, 05:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morningstar55

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh
((((((((Ruth)))))))))))
I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer.
hope everyone has a blessed day.

Ummm and ask me if it is ok to post pictures of me

....Just how many pictures did you take? I only saw the one!

*Anya* · 08-15-2012, 07:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lusciouskiwi

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

Just what I needed.

LadyRieinAL · 08-18-2012, 09:46 AM

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

ruthie14 · 08-18-2012, 11:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyRieinAL

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

I have had the same thoughts recently in regards to this butch I've been dating (see recent posts). She wants to have sex while dating various people... I wish I could. I think she is hot, she is smart, caring, affectionate. I just can't wrap my head around it and i know from past experience...once we cross that bridge, not matter how hard I try, i will expect more. It will ruin what we do have. Ohhhh but I do wish I could... just enjoy myself. I have the same problem the the ldr too. I won't do that anymore, but that is who I seem to connect with. I live in Jersey and currently am quite attracted to a woman in Cali... sigh. I won't have a ldr with her.. won't move.. sooooooooo it's flirty texts and leaving it at that. .. I feel ya!!

08-01-2012, 10:39 AM	#2901
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Wow whats it gona take 2 , get ths thread going again?? Heh Afternooners all u old farts ... lol am roaming the roads of ohiya lands 2day.... nex stop ... Clyde oh... wher evr that is... heie.. my grandfather's name Clyde Anyways....... have a awsome day. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-05-2012, 11:38 AM	#2903
fever Member How Do You Identify?: stonefemme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 1,279 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 17783436	Good morning The landlord is power washing the house. I was awakened at 7am to the sound of big equipment roaring. lol So, having a coffee, watchin a chick flick, and trying to stay cool in 30 degree celsius weather. (I can't open the windows because he is power washing) I think I will go and see the Spiderman movie tonight. What are the rest of you doing this long weekend? Candice

08-08-2012, 03:43 AM	#2904
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Wow what a awsome lunch and visit with 2 awsome guys . Simpleasdirt nd the ever fabulous Dutch Leonard . A very smiling girl here.. Now bk to work i go. And good morning loft dwellers nd peekers Have a awsome day. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-08-2012, 10:36 PM	#2905
spiritfemme7 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: NY Posts: 75 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 33 Thanked 65 Times in 23 Posts Rep Power: 517699	Love this forum! This is really cool that there is a thread for us forty and fifty somethings! i'm 45 and holding! lol! it's not so bad being in the forty something group, even though sometimes i feel like i've been through the war! but i did enjoy my first time skydiving recently! so that makes up for a lot of the bad and sad times in life! so where are the hot single butches in their forties on here? lol!

08-12-2012, 04:55 AM	#2908
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning lofty dwellers nd peekers Its a awsome Sunday morning here near DC ..... IN a little bit here, Will b visitng with ...... chef Jo ( aka chef jo) who Will b whipping upta awsome breakfast... On another note......... y is ths thread so dead??? Hope everyone is having a awsome weekend __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-05-2012, 08:55 AM	#2902
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Hello Lofters.. Morning star! Hope everyone is having a great weekend! I had a relaxing day yesterday and today I am going to a ladies dance... fun! Going to put blond highlights in my hair today for the first time. I enlisted Mom's help and we shall see.. never did it before, but hey, hair is meant to be played with..right!? Ruthie

08-09-2012, 07:26 PM	#2906
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Dance was fun... however on the way to the dance I was at a red light that had just turned green and the car in front of me backed into me.... hard. I pulled over, they took off....ofcourse! Thank goodness I have an honest mechanic who will do the work for 500 that everywhere else would charge me over 1000. Oye On a better note, with the meds change and less lifting at work, I have been almost heachache free for 8 days. I usually get several a day in addition to the migraines so this is a HUGE and WONDERFUL change!!! Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have a great friday and a wonderful weekend! Ruthie

08-11-2012, 06:23 AM	#2907
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08-12-2012, 06:21 AM	#2909
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Morning lofters... or should i just say Morning Morning star..... I know what you mean! Where is everyone??? Have a great breakfast with Chef Jo! Pictures please, I have high expectations! lolol Going on a date today.... lunch then swimming or swimming then dinner... Always a lot of fun with her... too bad she has a commitment issue right now. Oh well, I always seem to find the ones that are out of long term relationships before they are ready for another one. I thought this one would be different... she has been out of that relationship for a while. Oh well, the heart mends when it mends. Gonna have fun while its fun...but after a while.. it starts to affect my self worth. That's when I will have to give it a break. I know I shouldn't let it... but somehow it does. shrug Ruthie

08-12-2012, 06:35 AM	#2910
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08-12-2012, 08:46 PM	#2911
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	While date was fun, she was definately pulling away. There was affection, but not as much as before. No making out etc. I know she is dating other people, and one other in particular. We have both been very honest with each other. I will not have sex outside of a relationship, she doesn't want a relationship..but does want sex. She has respected my boundaries and I respect her honesty. However, after today, I think she is leaning towards the other woman. We were seeing each other every other weekend (she has kids). Now she is going away on the weekend we usually see each other and the next time I see her will be at a women's event where we will be in the same cabin for a weekend with a number of other women. I know she is having sex with this other woman... fine. My head knows, and I told her, that she needs to figure this out for herself. She no longer wants to be monogamous because of past hurts. I want her to figure this out, I don't mind that she is doing this.It is something she feels she needs to do for a while and figure out what she wants. What bothers me is that she seems to be pulling away from me. She still seems to like me, played with my hair, kissed me sweetly several times, took me swimming and then out to dinner. But I am getting the feeling that she is wanting to go backwards... more of a friendship. I think I need some time away from her to figure out what I want to do. It's starting to hurt, and I don't like that.

08-14-2012, 10:32 AM	#2912
lusciouskiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme lesbian feminist Preferred Pronoun?: Anything except for "aunty" Relationship Status: Happy with my butch. Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Aotearoa New Zealand Posts: 2,681 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25,494 Thanked 9,096 Times in 1,899 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	short film - 9 mins, bring tissues I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ... __________________ happiness is a form of courage. George Holbrook Jackson Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth. Katherine Mansfield Motivate yourself or be miserable. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice. Wayne Dyer

08-15-2012, 04:25 AM	#2914
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08-15-2012, 05:59 AM	#2916
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning loft dwellers nd peekers am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh ((((((((Ruth))))))))))) I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer. hope everyone has a blessed day. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-18-2012, 09:46 AM	#2919
LadyRieinAL Member How Do You Identify?: Evolving Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, girl, her Relationship Status: found my vibrational match Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Sweet Home Alabama Posts: 459 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,024 Thanked 1,214 Times in 281 Posts Rep Power: 18359992	over 50 The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship. The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough. I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing. So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?