Abuse in butch-femme relationships

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Originally Posted by dancer611

So you do not allow for self defense? I was supposed to allow her to drunkenly attack me??!

I didn't mean that to sound rude, at all. It's just that people keep saying I should have done something different, and I'm not sure what that was. I was screaming and crying, but no one came; I had no phone to call anyone; and I could not just "walk away" because she was trapping and following me, and/or pinning me down or putting her hand over my mouth. So what on earth else was I supposed to do, if I'm not allowed to ever lay a hand on anyone?

Now's your time to do something different.
Stay in the reality of how bad that felt and dont go back.

First you were making excuses for her now you are telling us how bad it was.
We believe you and we arent the enemy.