Abuse in butch-femme relationships

Toughy · 03-30-2012, 09:56 PM

A story has been told. Both sides were physically violent which we are told after our sympathy has been captured. We are told one side of the story. It was the femme side. What is the other side?. What if a butch came and told the same story?

I hate this kind of thread. It leaves many impressions that are not always deserved. Lots of RUN NOW before you DIE.....and then the 'I hit back in self defense' story starts begins to appear from the injured party. Very little attention is paid and what there is has to do with self defense......

either it is wrong for anyone to hit anyone or it's ok to hit sometimes in certain circumstances or it's wrong if a masculine person hits a feminine person but ok if a feminine person hits a masculine person......

from the story told..............both sides are fucked up and both sides need to deal with their own shit before they ever try to have a successful relationship with anyone......

Random · 03-31-2012, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Toughy

A story has been told. Both sides were physically violent which we are told after our sympathy has been captured. We are told one side of the story. It was the femme side. What is the other side?. What if a butch came and told the same story?

I hate this kind of thread. It leaves many impressions that are not always deserved. Lots of RUN NOW before you DIE.....and then the 'I hit back in self defense' story starts begins to appear from the injured party. Very little attention is paid and what there is has to do with self defense......

either it is wrong for anyone to hit anyone or it's ok to hit sometimes in certain circumstances or it's wrong if a masculine person hits a feminine person but ok if a feminine person hits a masculine person......

from the story told..............both sides are fucked up and both sides need to deal with their own shit before they ever try to have a successful relationship with anyone......

Nods....

Years ago I was a smacker...

I thought it was CUTE and girly to smack my butch on the shoulder when she annoyed me... In that.. *Oh YOU, stop that* kind of way...

Never thought a thing about it...

Until she finally said... Will you stop hitting me?

Hitting her? I didn't hit her... I smacked her on the shoulder...

Then I thought about it... I was putting my hands on my partner in a not so loving way and it hurt/annoyed her...

Yep, I was hitting her... Techn is could be considered abuse...

Made me sick to my stomake and I've never smacked anyone like that again...

Non negotiated hitting is a no no...

03-30-2012, 09:56 PM	#1
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