Trans Invisibility

[Thinker]

Originally Posted by PapaC

Are there other guys like me that have these moments? Do you miss your 'obvious' queer/butch look? Does it bring up moments of loneliness for you? Do you talk to other trans-friends about it? (for the record, I have problems bringing up this topic with my local pals, as many of them have not lived in any sort of b/f bubble let alone queer id'd)

Hey PapaC...

I do run into the same situations you are describing.......interacting with a "butch" (my way of IDing them) and sometimes wanting to say, "Hey, I see you and get you." Under some circumstances, I'd probably even say that out loud......just haven't yet.

What feels most right for me is to be completely respectful of these individuals.......not be rude or dismissive in any manner. I know those feelings of isolation. I know the apprehension involved when approaching someone for help or being approached......the looks, the remarks that follow once they got the "full me". I always feel protective when I see masculine females, butches, etc... I don't want to be the next asshole that she (he?) runs into that day.

And I know that "protective" statement above stinks to high heaven of privilege. I get that. I'm just being honest about my feelings.