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Gemme · 11-24-2009, 10:35 AM

Kassy, just as you mentioned in your post, it's more of a feeling. You said butch didn't always mean dressing boylike but you knew you aren't one. It's the same with femme. If you feel it, then it is so.

There are tons of 'types' of femmes in this world of ours. Tomboy femmes, high femmes, lipstick femmes, and the list goes on. You should define yourself as YOU see yourself; no one else. After all, you have to live with you and the decisions you make for yourself.

For myself, I am femme because I am. I've known it since I first admitted (not realized...ADMITTED) that I wasn't straight. In the most simplistic view, I saw GLBTQ relationships as having a more feminine partner and a more masculine partner. I knew I was the more feminine partner from the beginning. Of course, as I've grown more comfortable with myself, I've realized that our kind of relationships are anything BUT simple. But I am still femme.

Some days, I like to get dressed up and do the heels and make up and whatnot. Some days I am very low key. It depends on what I feel like doing that day. I like to be pampered but I'm not going to get a mani or pedi every week (unless I win the lottery and then I'll have more time and funds to devote to stuff like that and then it still wouldn't be EVERY week).

So, don't worry about how others see you or if you are defining yourself 'right'. It's your label, if you choose to use one. You need to be okay with it before anyone else, after all, it's YOUR label.

11-24-2009, 10:35 AM	#2
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,972 Times in 25,664 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	Kassy, just as you mentioned in your post, it's more of a feeling. You said butch didn't always mean dressing boylike but you knew you aren't one. It's the same with femme. If you feel it, then it is so. There are tons of 'types' of femmes in this world of ours. Tomboy femmes, high femmes, lipstick femmes, and the list goes on. You should define yourself as YOU see yourself; no one else. After all, you have to live with you and the decisions you make for yourself. For myself, I am femme because I am. I've known it since I first admitted (not realized...ADMITTED) that I wasn't straight. In the most simplistic view, I saw GLBTQ relationships as having a more feminine partner and a more masculine partner. I knew I was the more feminine partner from the beginning. Of course, as I've grown more comfortable with myself, I've realized that our kind of relationships are anything BUT simple. But I am still femme. Some days, I like to get dressed up and do the heels and make up and whatnot. Some days I am very low key. It depends on what I feel like doing that day. I like to be pampered but I'm not going to get a mani or pedi every week (unless I win the lottery and then I'll have more time and funds to devote to stuff like that and then it still wouldn't be EVERY week). So, don't worry about how others see you or if you are defining yourself 'right'. It's your label, if you choose to use one. You need to be okay with it before anyone else, after all, it's YOUR label. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.