The Ethics of Closets and Outings

Diva · 09-01-2010, 08:49 AM

This will be short and sweet.

My ex-husband outed me to my parents shortly after we divorced.
During our custody trial, that came out.
And I believe that information belongs to one person and one person only: ME.
We were in a bitter custody battle. I am not proud to say that I outed my former brother-in-law (my ex-husband's brother) in the courtroom......in front of my ex, his wife & his mother.....

But I can also tell You this: I would have outed Mother Teresa (if she'd been a lesbian) if I thought it would have won my children. I'm a Mama Bear like that.

So do I believe in outing someone ~ even a hypocrite? No. It is their story to tell. And I can only imagine the inner turmoil they experience every waking moment is a far greater pain than any humiliation the world would give them. This I know from personal experience.

09-01-2010, 08:49 AM	#8
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	This will be short and sweet. My ex-husband outed me to my parents shortly after we divorced. During our custody trial, that came out. And I believe that information belongs to one person and one person only: ME. We were in a bitter custody battle. I am not proud to say that I outed my former brother-in-law (my ex-husband's brother) in the courtroom......in front of my ex, his wife & his mother..... But I can also tell You this: I would have outed Mother Teresa (if she'd been a lesbian) if I thought it would have won my children. I'm a Mama Bear like that. So do I believe in outing someone ~ even a hypocrite? No. It is their story to tell. And I can only imagine the inner turmoil they experience every waking moment is a far greater pain than any humiliation the world would give them. This I know from personal experience.