Why lipstick lesbians have to keep coming out of the closet

[mariamma]

Originally Posted by Quintease

It took over a year for the lesbians to believe I was gay. Even while I was with my first girlfriend I still had doubters.

At the time it sucked but now, now I understand it. Lesbians are just like anyone, we all hate rejection. It's ok to say 'She left me because she wasn't into women and it's ok', but it's not ok. None of us are ever ok about being dumped. Yet so many non-lesbians walk into the lesbian community as women are so warm and welcoming and so understanding, only to walk out a few years later when they realise they love the company of women, not the sexuality.

I ''stole'' one of my exes from a girl, who we later found out had realised she was heterosexual while she was still with my friend. My friend couldn't face it but the rest of us knew. Did I feel bad about stealing her? Not really, especially when it came out later that she'd been having an affair with a boy behind my friends back. Did it make my friend feel better knowing that she'd moved on with someone else? Not really. She'd turned to me as she was feeling hurt, paranoid and rejected. To have all of that confirmed as a reality really stung. It's that kind of behaviour which makes gay women excessively cautious.

I'm not in the habit of stealing other peoples girlfriends btw, that was the one and only time.

This is all great and everything. I'm glad we're talking about this stuff but fuck people are emotionally retarded! Really....emotionally delayed, wtf people.
This is just my opinion. I expect no one to subscribe to it. But that 'girlfriend that was stolen' was not stolen since she did not belong to anyone but herself. She is not someone's property. She DID do a douchey and dishonest thing be being with more than 1 BUT ONLY IF SHE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE COMMITTED TO ONE.
This is why I think people should be more poly and honest about it. Then people won't have to be the romantic drama (emotional) focal point in the world and people can just be honest and clear about needs and desires (it's ok to have needs and desires. just be emotionally clean, non-douchey and speak when you know how you feel).
When we have sex, the potential for love is there. Love comes from the actions of hormones (O,V,T,E, prolactin and it's run by dopamine). Love feels holy and sacred since these are the same hormones and neurotransmitters that we connect to God or the Creator with. When anyone (elephants, humans, dogs) have sex they run these hormones, they create the potential for love. It's how one runs and guides oneself (hormonally and via which neurotransmitters in the brain) when you do have sex that determines whether or not one will be in love with said lover at some point.
Anyways, I guess I am better off being a cracked gem and unable to attract a lover. At least an emotionally stable lover. At least that's what I'll tell myself as I huddle alone in my bed