Wedding planning

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by guihong

The first-a small wedding and a big party-is correct, but OP, please don't do either of the other two things. It's not really good etiquette to tell your guests what to buy you (i.e. a honeymoon), or to say anything like "in lieu of gifts, donate to this charity". That's supposed to be the couple's business, and a wedding is not a fundraiser.

I agree. Etiquette has not changed. People may ignore it now but it does not make it OK.

Putting a trip or a charity on a registry for people to have the choice to contribute or not, may be more unorthodox but much, much better than putting anything on the wedding invitation asking for cash in lieu of gifts.

It creeps me out when I see that on wedding invitations.