Do you *want* people to assume you're a man?

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Sparkle

Just a point of semantics not all male-ID'd butches identify as trans (gender/sexual), and yet they may still feel more male than female.

The ID: genderqueer is a good example, and there are many others.

There are as many variations as there are individuals, and along with that, I expect a spectrum of feelings/beliefs/preferences as regards how they are perceived and addressed by the public, by the queer community, by their families, and their co-workers, and their peers, and their partners -- one butch might, in fact, have a variety of different preferences when it comes to IF they are perceived as a man or not, even some female-ID'd butches.

I feel as though your question is rooted in the binary, and that may be *your* experience and *your* peers' experience of butch identity...but I don't think "a butch does not want to be seen as a man" is a truism that applies to all non-trans butches.

Thanks, Sparkle, for your post.

I didn't mean to imply that all male-ID'd butches are trans. I'm not new to the b-f world or the GLBT world, etc. I've dated all kinds of butches and also dated transguys at many different levels of transitioning, including one with top and bottom surgery—not that those experiences mean I am not ignorant of the things you are explaining to me.

And no, I'm so not rooted in the binary.

Clearly my post was disastrously unclear, and did not accomplish what I was hoping it would, but you responded so thoughtfully, and I appreciate it.