Dating other femmes exes: what do you think?

[imperfect_cupcake]

Originally Posted by June

And as I said to Martina, I am speaking from a personal place of how I do friendships. I get to do that.

Of course you do. But it's also a forum and I can say "weirdo." :P

cause I actually can't wrap my head around the "femme sistah" thing. Eve I love dearly and gets me to the ends of the earth. she's bi with no ID. I don't grasp the concept of her sexuality or ID having anything to do with the friendship. And she gets me way more than many of my friends who happen to ID as femme.

This could be, though, because I don't live in a community that forces my ID into a place that I feel I should take pride in my ID and therefore my ID and what communities I have around it become very important for feelings of being understood. I think local politics may play a big huge role in that, possible. Cause I don't feel misunderstood as a "femme" where I am. So I don't feel any particular "sistahood" to my femme mates. I mean I'm bloody glad for them, but it's not like they corner any particular form of understanding. Whereas, at home, I know I felt quite differently about that. SO it may be our local community access to acceptance in who we are that influences this.