The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by JustJo

Completely understandable given that pic...

Pups in fedoras...pups in goggles...very, very crushable!

Yeah! Right on! Any pup crush is a grand crush!! That's what my Frog Dog says! But, 'cept he thinks maybe his old dawgg Mom just doesn't have it anymore.... Hummm, cookie protest? Must be the fedora...

And this would be his Holiday hat!

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Yeah! Right on! Any pup crush is a grand crush!! That's what my Frog Dog says! But, 'cept he thinks maybe his old dawgg Mom just doesn't have it anymore.... Hummm, cookie protest? Must be the fedora...

And this would be his Holiday hat!

And just what does that mean, that little admission in the middle of "cute dog" remarks? You wanted to get a discussion going, I'm all up for discussion AtHomeLast....... so let us discuss....... what exactly are you saying here? I'm sensing that you may be feeling that you are "not all that", what is the "not all that" you are feeling? You are among anonymous online peeps here, we are just words on a screen, spit it out..... I'm notorious for doing that.....please feel free to join me......

Okay, I'll start. I decided last night to go to a local hangout for the Glbt community. Yes, i was nervous, i've been out the loop for a very very long time...... I stepped out of my usual comfort zone, and after trying my darndest for 2 hours, finally had to come to the conclusion, that single women, are not welcome in those venues.....All the women were paired up with butches, and made sure i knew that i was trespassing and getting too close to "their butch", all i did was ask if i could use one of the spare stools at their table that was not being used...., I needed to sit down, because of health issues......only young gay men said hello to me, and asked if i was having fun......i of course smiled my "thank you for asking smile" and said yes, and said "thanks for asking". The handsome male bartender bought my diet soda for me, cause i don't drink.

So I'm feeling that "I'm not all that" this morning, i managed not to cry when i got home, that's a first, but i'm sitting here re-evaluating what am i going to do with this information, the fact that single femmes are not welcome in places "reserved for couples and pre-established groups".

So now i'm back to, if I'm not welcome, how am i supposed to develop a network of butch and femme friends to hang with, have bbq parties, go camping, fishing, day trips, movies, baseball games, soccer games, get together on Sunday and have breakfast and shoot the breeze?......

So does this mean, that my ex is right? No one will ever love me? That my life as a partner is over? Life will continue to over look my rich personal history of loving and caring for others? That when my laugh lines became a permanent fixture on my face, the party was over? That my heavy breasts that fed two children are not worthy of attention? That my perfect size 6 firm hot body at 20 is the only thing i had going for me? My wit and humor and compassion for others means nothing? My cooking skills and gift for making you feel like a king are just gonna blow in the breeze, like fall leaves?

Good grief. After spending a life time developing my self into someone I can be proud of, this is all that awaits me?

Ya, l guess this is just rhetorical again this morning.... seems no one wants to really get into how they "really feel", i am just going to resign my self to the rest of the nameless faceless online fantasy world and stick to the fluff topics..... cause that's the only 'real' things worthy of discussion.

[Martina]

Gay bars are not for the past forty set, i find. i don't know how old you are, but they are dangerous places for the egos of older folks.

Lesbians are notoriously unfriendly to outsiders. (i know, i know . . . but it's mostly true).

It might not be easy to ease back in.

If you really want to date now, i would suggest a dating site or craigslist or whatever is available where you are.

If you want to meet people and get to know them, you are going to have to keep showing up until people get used to you. Bars would not be my first choice, but i don't know what else is available to you.

Also there will be slings and arrows and possibly drama. My best advice as someone who moved four years ago and had to reestablish community is YOU be picky. Don't bond with the first person who asks you to go shopping or hang out. See if you like them too.

It ain't fun getting back out there. i wish you the best of luck.

[Sweet Bliss]

I posted this once, long ago, so despite the fact some peep will out me on this, here goes anyway.....


All I can offer is my self, standing here, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love. Such as I am, flawed, imperfect, woman.. is that enough?

What is enough?

Enough is someone who can say, "here i am, such as I am, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love, is that enough?"

To which i will say, "yes"

Everything else is about compromise, acceptance, tenderness, and understanding.

[Rockinonahigh]

Over the age of 40 or so..or single and not part of a "group".This can be a big problem because of egos on both ened of the spectrum.I hadnt gone to a gbar for quite awhile till I went one evening out of the blue.OMG..I could have parented/grandpareted most all of the ppl in the bar,no one was over 30 at the most.Jayseaus what happend to the peeps I use to hang out with ?There isnt any other place to go hang out xcept another gbar wich isnt much better...so what the H dose anyone do if u r over the so called age limit that is shoved down ur throat?I havent changed much besides geting a bit older and a bit chubbyer.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Rockin,

Move over. I need a place to sit down next to you. No alcohol for me. I have to watch it. Do they sell bottled water here? I sure hope the ac is on high. I am hot as he**.

[Andrew, Jr.]

These ladies get me all hot and bothered:

Vanessa Williams - 44
Diane Lane - 42
Jodie Foster - 44
Meryl Streep - ?
Cher - 60+

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Over the age of 40 or so..or single and not part of a "group".This can be a big problem because of egos on both ened of the spectrum.I hadnt gone to a gbar for quite awhile till I went one evening out of the blue.OMG..I could have parented/grandpareted most all of the ppl in the bar,no one was over 30 at the most.Jayseaus what happend to the peeps I use to hang out with ?There isnt any other place to go hang out xcept another gbar wich isnt much better...so what the H dose anyone do if u r over the so called age limit that is shoved down ur throat?I havent changed much besides geting a bit older and a bit chubbyer.

Omfg, is that fabulous bbq place still there, the one with the giant copper smoker, hotter than hell inside, with the bbq sauce to freaking DIE FOR??????

My daughter was born in Bossier City, at Barksdale AFB, wow, does that take me back,,,,,, way way back.......

Well, i don't know where to hang here either, right now it's my front porch, alone with my dog, and the cool evening breeze. Grab a beer or something, we'll talk about the good ol' days when peeps actually came to your house and brought chips and beer, or soda, and told funny stories, and laughed our butts off.... you know, when people used to show up in person, not on a screen.... and bring their extra fresh crawfish or catfish to throw on the grill.....

Sorry, got really bad news about my health situation today, so am feeling really angry right now.... not doing a good job of hiding it am I? That's what else sucks as we get older, your body betrays you, your mind says you are still a 20 something hottie, and the doc says, "now don't panic okay?, we can do something about this....." Ya, like i trust you after you say "don't panic"....

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Over the age of 40 or so..or single and not part of a "group".This can be a big problem because of egos on both ened of the spectrum.I hadnt gone to a gbar for quite awhile till I went one evening out of the blue.OMG..I could have parented/grandpareted most all of the ppl in the bar,no one was over 30 at the most.Jayseaus what happend to the peeps I use to hang out with ?There isnt any other place to go hang out xcept another gbar wich isnt much better...so what the H dose anyone do if u r over the so called age limit that is shoved down ur throat?I havent changed much besides geting a bit older and a bit chubbyer.

I discovered the Male Gay bar scene, and GUESS WHAT??? That's where the after 40 crowd is hanging!! There is a woman DJ who plays oldies and disco on Friday night!!! Whoo hooo!!!!

[Greco]

Alright, will admit that someone that frequents this site
is intelligent, intriguing, has a life, seems compassionate
and well read, and no, not a crush but an intellectual
attraction for sure.

but, I am busy times 100 and while I would like to get
to know her, at this time, I cannot

So, another will be the lucky guy.

I find your mind quality, your heart of Gold, yet I
cannot reach out to you. Destiny is a strange thing.

Greco

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

I discovered the Male Gay bar scene, and GUESS WHAT??? That's where the after 40 crowd is hanging!! There is a woman DJ who plays oldies and disco on Friday night!!! Whoo hooo!!!!

Day'am!! That's where they are???

Hummm... an older celeb I have crushed on is Bonnie Rait. And the rest of my crushes are a secret! There are many fine femmes here over 40!