The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40

Legendryder · 06-12-2010, 07:53 AM

Is it strange that the only crush I have is on Bob?

JustJo · 06-12-2010, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Legendryder

Is it strange that the only crush I have is on Bob?

Completely understandable given that pic...

Pups in fedoras...pups in goggles...very, very crushable!

scootebaby · 06-12-2010, 08:44 AM

ok so i KNOW we arent supposed to be posting crushes on film stars and such,but i crush on attitudes and stuff more so than looks and i just HAVE to add Joan Crawford and Bette Davis...especially in "Whatever happened to BabyJane"

AtLast · 06-12-2010, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by JustJo

Completely understandable given that pic...

Pups in fedoras...pups in goggles...very, very crushable!

Yeah! Right on! Any pup crush is a grand crush!! That's what my Frog Dog says! But, 'cept he thinks maybe his old dawgg Mom just doesn't have it anymore.... Hummm, cookie protest? Must be the fedora...

And this would be his Holiday hat!

Sweet Bliss · 06-13-2010, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Yeah! Right on! Any pup crush is a grand crush!! That's what my Frog Dog says! But, 'cept he thinks maybe his old dawgg Mom just doesn't have it anymore.... Hummm, cookie protest? Must be the fedora...

And this would be his Holiday hat!

And just what does that mean, that little admission in the middle of "cute dog" remarks? You wanted to get a discussion going, I'm all up for discussion AtHomeLast....... so let us discuss....... what exactly are you saying here? I'm sensing that you may be feeling that you are "not all that", what is the "not all that" you are feeling? You are among anonymous online peeps here, we are just words on a screen, spit it out..... I'm notorious for doing that.....please feel free to join me......

Okay, I'll start. I decided last night to go to a local hangout for the Glbt community. Yes, i was nervous, i've been out the loop for a very very long time...... I stepped out of my usual comfort zone, and after trying my darndest for 2 hours, finally had to come to the conclusion, that single women, are not welcome in those venues.....All the women were paired up with butches, and made sure i knew that i was trespassing and getting too close to "their butch", all i did was ask if i could use one of the spare stools at their table that was not being used...., I needed to sit down, because of health issues......only young gay men said hello to me, and asked if i was having fun......i of course smiled my "thank you for asking smile" and said yes, and said "thanks for asking". The handsome male bartender bought my diet soda for me, cause i don't drink.

So I'm feeling that "I'm not all that" this morning, i managed not to cry when i got home, that's a first, but i'm sitting here re-evaluating what am i going to do with this information, the fact that single femmes are not welcome in places "reserved for couples and pre-established groups".

So now i'm back to, if I'm not welcome, how am i supposed to develop a network of butch and femme friends to hang with, have bbq parties, go camping, fishing, day trips, movies, baseball games, soccer games, get together on Sunday and have breakfast and shoot the breeze?......

So does this mean, that my ex is right? No one will ever love me? That my life as a partner is over? Life will continue to over look my rich personal history of loving and caring for others? That when my laugh lines became a permanent fixture on my face, the party was over? That my heavy breasts that fed two children are not worthy of attention? That my perfect size 6 firm hot body at 20 is the only thing i had going for me? My wit and humor and compassion for others means nothing? My cooking skills and gift for making you feel like a king are just gonna blow in the breeze, like fall leaves?

Good grief. After spending a life time developing my self into someone I can be proud of, this is all that awaits me?

Ya, l guess this is just rhetorical again this morning.... seems no one wants to really get into how they "really feel", i am just going to resign my self to the rest of the nameless faceless online fantasy world and stick to the fluff topics..... cause that's the only 'real' things worthy of discussion.

Martina · 06-13-2010, 12:57 PM

Gay bars are not for the past forty set, i find. i don't know how old you are, but they are dangerous places for the egos of older folks.

Lesbians are notoriously unfriendly to outsiders. (i know, i know . . . but it's mostly true).

It might not be easy to ease back in.

If you really want to date now, i would suggest a dating site or craigslist or whatever is available where you are.

If you want to meet people and get to know them, you are going to have to keep showing up until people get used to you. Bars would not be my first choice, but i don't know what else is available to you.

Also there will be slings and arrows and possibly drama. My best advice as someone who moved four years ago and had to reestablish community is YOU be picky. Don't bond with the first person who asks you to go shopping or hang out. See if you like them too.

It ain't fun getting back out there. i wish you the best of luck.

Sweet Bliss · 06-14-2010, 09:19 PM

I posted this once, long ago, so despite the fact some peep will out me on this, here goes anyway.....

All I can offer is my self, standing here, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love. Such as I am, flawed, imperfect, woman.. is that enough?

What is enough?

Enough is someone who can say, "here i am, such as I am, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love, is that enough?"

To which i will say, "yes"

Everything else is about compromise, acceptance, tenderness, and understanding.

Rockinonahigh · 06-15-2010, 08:30 AM

Over the age of 40 or so..or single and not part of a "group".This can be a big problem because of egos on both ened of the spectrum.I hadnt gone to a gbar for quite awhile till I went one evening out of the blue.OMG..I could have parented/grandpareted most all of the ppl in the bar,no one was over 30 at the most.Jayseaus what happend to the peeps I use to hang out with ?There isnt any other place to go hang out xcept another gbar wich isnt much better...so what the H dose anyone do if u r over the so called age limit that is shoved down ur throat?I havent changed much besides geting a bit older and a bit chubbyer.

06-14-2010, 09:19 PM	#7
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	What is enough? I posted this once, long ago, so despite the fact some peep will out me on this, here goes anyway..... All I can offer is my self, standing here, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love. Such as I am, flawed, imperfect, woman.. is that enough? What is enough? Enough is someone who can say, "here i am, such as I am, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love, is that enough?" To which i will say, "yes" Everything else is about compromise, acceptance, tenderness, and understanding.

06-15-2010, 08:30 AM	#8
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	gay bars & dateing if u r.... Over the age of 40 or so..or single and not part of a "group".This can be a big problem because of egos on both ened of the spectrum.I hadnt gone to a gbar for quite awhile till I went one evening out of the blue.OMG..I could have parented/grandpareted most all of the ppl in the bar,no one was over 30 at the most.Jayseaus what happend to the peeps I use to hang out with ?There isnt any other place to go hang out xcept another gbar wich isnt much better...so what the H dose anyone do if u r over the so called age limit that is shoved down ur throat?I havent changed much besides geting a bit older and a bit chubbyer.

06-12-2010, 07:53 AM	#1
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scootebaby Timed Out How Do You Identify?: yes dear Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: south florida Posts: 2,494 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,264 Thanked 6,737 Times in 1,777 Posts Rep Power: 0	ok so i KNOW we arent supposed to be posting crushes on film stars and such,but i crush on attitudes and stuff more so than looks and i just HAVE to add Joan Crawford and Bette Davis...especially in "Whatever happened to BabyJane"

06-13-2010, 12:57 PM	#6
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Gay bars are not for the past forty set, i find. i don't know how old you are, but they are dangerous places for the egos of older folks. Lesbians are notoriously unfriendly to outsiders. (i know, i know . . . but it's mostly true). It might not be easy to ease back in. If you really want to date now, i would suggest a dating site or craigslist or whatever is available where you are. If you want to meet people and get to know them, you are going to have to keep showing up until people get used to you. Bars would not be my first choice, but i don't know what else is available to you. Also there will be slings and arrows and possibly drama. My best advice as someone who moved four years ago and had to reestablish community is YOU be picky. Don't bond with the first person who asks you to go shopping or hang out. See if you like them too. It ain't fun getting back out there. i wish you the best of luck.