Open Letter: Dear Femme

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by apretty

i think also, that little girls are taught to not trust *female*, bombarded with messages of 'less-than' and weakness and quite possibly, if grown women are searching to pin-point how and why they've been 'silenced' we find ourselves looking for ways in which 'femmes' have 'silenced' us because we *still* believe that female, specifically femme = EVIL (due to our heavy and as yet, very UNpacked knapsack), not to mention, i strongly believe that we all find what we're looking for...

When I asked the question do Femme's judge each other harshly, it was a myopic question related to the topic here, and the microcosm that is the B/F community.

In no way did I mean to imply that *only* Femmes judge. Or silence. Or anything.

I also wonder about the validity of being silenced by anything other than ones self. There must be some pretty heavy self imposed borders that allow a person to think this. To me, nobody has the power to take away our voices. We mute them as a willing participant.

I have to do a big ole think on feminine and/or Femme equaling = Evil. I have to think if those are the messages I have received.

If I am dating somebody and another Femme persues and ultimately ends up with said person? Is the Femme really the bad person? Or is it the person I was dating who has free will?