How to tell if she's into you...

The_Lady_Snow · 03-01-2011, 08:40 PM

If you wake up Thursday morning and she's in your kitchen in her panties sipping OJ out the jug.

She just might be into you

key · 03-01-2011, 08:48 PM

She IS into you!

I have read this thread from the start and all the signs she has given are green lights. Go forward assuming she is into you, not questioning it.

Relax and enjoy.

But I also want to say, that if she dates a lot of women, don't forget this either. Not sure what you are looking for in this situation but I would not advise you to assume you are the only one she is into.

Cool?

Glenn · 03-01-2011, 08:50 PM

She walked and talked with me for a long time, picked me a

before her bus came, and kept on waving goodbye from the bus window the first time we met.We were married for over thirty years.

key · 03-01-2011, 09:12 PM

I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me.

Today's example:

Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her.

It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH!

This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it.

Can anyone relate?

Mister Bent · 03-02-2011, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

Well, I was just doing the right thing and giving a girl the heads up!
Sheeesh!!!

I agree with you, not just from the FB breakup stand point, but more importantly, you're giving someone access to a lot of your stuff - who your friends are, photos, other personal info, that you might not want them to have right away. I have my reasons for being a paranoid freak!

Quote:

Originally Posted by proximitywithoutintimacy

I don't necessarily want to do that, mainly because I don't want to put any pressure on the girl. I figure, if she's interested in me, she'll let me know. Until then, I'm just going to relax and let things happen the way they do

Me, Devil's Advocate: I'm with the turned tables contingent. Sounds like you're into her, so why not let her know? That doesn't necessarily mean you're placing any pressure on her. Sometimes you just have to leap.

The_Lady_Snow · 03-02-2011, 10:22 AM

See!!! I'm not the only "downer"

MsTinkerbelly · 03-02-2011, 11:09 AM

When she loves you warts and all, she is in to you!

lipstixgal · 03-02-2011, 12:09 PM

I'm seeing someone and we are meeting again tonight. Our first meeting was yesterday and we had fun. I hope she is into me. She asked to go to a comedy club tonight and of course some other woman wants to come. I'm not into that so I told her. I would like to spend the evening with you alone!! I think that is fair??

atomiczombie · 03-02-2011, 01:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by key

I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me.

Today's example:

Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her.

It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH!

This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it.

Can anyone relate?

I totally do this too!!!

Or, I tend to assume that the only reason a girl is interested in me, when she does make it obvious, is for carnal reasons (this has happened to me in the past and my heart was broke a little bit). I just don't know how to tell if a girl is interested in me for sex or for more, for who I am and not just what I can do for her in the bedroom (or the car, living room, kitchen, shower, etc. :P). It makes me honestly distrustful.

undone · 03-12-2011, 04:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by atomiczombie

I totally do this too!!!

Or, I tend to assume that the only reason a girl is interested in me, when she does make it obvious, is for carnal reasons (this has happened to me in the past and my heart was broke a little bit). I just don't know how to tell if a girl is interested in me for sex or for more, for who I am and not just what I can do for her in the bedroom (or the car, living room, kitchen, shower, etc. :P). It makes me honestly distrustful.

treat her the way you feel about it... If you want just sex then be honest about it, but your tone implies that you are looking for something a bit more, so treat her like it, she will either reciprocate or not. It also never hurts to talk or ask about it, keeps the air clear so you can see what's coming and maneuver accordingly.

I have always appreciated when some else can express what there interest is. It doesn't mean anything more than this is how i fell and what i am looking for at this moment

smouldering · 03-15-2011, 06:30 AM

Yup it can be hard..

I have the same issue as AtomicZombie lol.. I can't always tell if someone is just looking for something casual or something more long term... if they are being genuine or saying whatever they think will get them in my pants lol..

Ive also had the issue of Butches thinking I am into them because I am nice or they assume because I am being sweet I want in their pants... -- Dating can be confusing!

But I agree about paying attention to body language sometimes how we act or react speaks louder then what we say

Sweet_Amor_Taino · 03-15-2011, 07:31 AM

The morning phone call.. the sound of her voice.. giggles and laughter.

Chancie · 03-24-2011, 03:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by smouldering

Yup it can be hard..

I have the same issue as AtomicZombie lol.. I can't always tell if someone is just looking for something casual or something more long term... if they are being genuine or saying whatever they think will get them in my pants lol..

Ive also had the issue of Butches thinking I am into them because I am nice or they assume because I am being sweet I want in their pants... -- Dating can be confusing!

But I agree about paying attention to body language sometimes how we act or react speaks louder then what we say

I hope it's okay if I ask you a question.

Your profile says, 'as long as you pull my hair you can call me anything .'

Doesn't that sound like you want something casual?

I think casual can be fun and fabulous and

I think that if you want your hair pulled,

You should get your hair pulled, so

I am not being judge-y.

Dreamer · 03-02-2011, 01:59 PM

If she leans over whispers in your ear "you place or mine" she may be into you..... or she could just be horny one of the two.

proximitywithoutintimacy · 03-02-2011, 02:02 PM

If she says "hi" to you in the middle of a crowded place and smiles, her voice all cute and sweet... is she into you?

Bella~Vita · 03-02-2011, 02:08 PM

When actions speak louder than words

bigbutchmistie · 03-24-2011, 01:37 PM

I'm on my I phone typing this but for me I can feel it and someone's lack of actions will.tell me every time

If you tell me you are gonna so something and you don't etc

Lots of the things show when someone is just not into you

Personally I think I'm a Damn good catch and someone is crazy not.to.be into.me.lol

LeftWriteFemme · 03-24-2011, 02:19 PM

If you give her bottom a little spank and she starts following you around, she is into you; if she calls the cops she's not.......

homoe · 12-23-2018, 11:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

If you give her bottom a little spank and she starts following you around, she is into you; if she calls the cops she's not.......

..............

AtLast · 03-02-2011, 03:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by key

I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me.

Today's example:

Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her.

It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH!

This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it.

Can anyone relate?

Oh, yes..... I can relate! yes.... "after-the-fact" is my middle name!

03-01-2011, 08:40 PM	#1
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	If you wake up Thursday morning and she's in your kitchen in her panties sipping OJ out the jug. She just might be into you __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

03-01-2011, 08:48 PM	#2
key Member How Do You Identify?: androgynous, gender-queer, butch Preferred Pronoun?: depends on person addressing me Relationship Status: merrily single hopefully married one day Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: san francisco, ca and chama, nm Posts: 197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 430 Times in 136 Posts Rep Power: 885764	Prox, let me put this as plainly as I can She IS into you! I have read this thread from the start and all the signs she has given are green lights. Go forward assuming she is into you, not questioning it. Relax and enjoy. But I also want to say, that if she dates a lot of women, don't forget this either. Not sure what you are looking for in this situation but I would not advise you to assume you are the only one she is into. Cool? __________________ http://i43.photobucket.com/albums/e3...ariation6t.jpg

03-01-2011, 09:12 PM	#4
key Member How Do You Identify?: androgynous, gender-queer, butch Preferred Pronoun?: depends on person addressing me Relationship Status: merrily single hopefully married one day Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: san francisco, ca and chama, nm Posts: 197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 430 Times in 136 Posts Rep Power: 885764	Want to add my own little quandary I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me. Today's example: Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her. It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH! This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it. Can anyone relate? __________________ http://i43.photobucket.com/albums/e3...ariation6t.jpg

03-02-2011, 10:22 AM	#6
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	See!!! I'm not the only "downer" __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

03-02-2011, 12:09 PM	#8
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494761	I'm seeing someone and we are meeting again tonight. Our first meeting was yesterday and we had fun. I hope she is into me. She asked to go to a comedy club tonight and of course some other woman wants to come. I'm not into that so I told her. I would like to spend the evening with you alone!! I think that is fair?? __________________ Gail

03-01-2011, 08:50 PM	#3
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03-15-2011, 06:30 AM	#11
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03-15-2011, 07:31 AM	#12
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03-24-2011, 01:37 PM	#17
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03-24-2011, 02:19 PM	#18
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