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Want to add my own little quandary
I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me.
Today's example: Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her. It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH! This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it. Can anyone relate?
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03-02-2011, 10:17 AM
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Me, Devil's Advocate: I'm with the turned tables contingent. Sounds like you're into her, so why not let her know? That doesn't necessarily mean you're placing any pressure on her. Sometimes you just have to leap.
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03-02-2011, 10:22 AM
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03-02-2011, 12:09 PM
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I'm seeing someone and we are meeting again tonight. Our first meeting was yesterday and we had fun. I hope she is into me. She asked to go to a comedy club tonight and of course some other woman wants to come. I'm not into that so I told her. I would like to spend the evening with you alone!! I think that is fair??
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Ah, thank you!
 I haven't heard back from her in two days, but she is a busy woman - going to school, working, and being the vocalist in her band... very busy, indeed. I will not forget I'm the only girl she's into, and the way I see it, I'm not necessarily looking for a girlfriend... so whatever happens, will happen... I just know I like her I'm one of those girls, who, unless you outright kiss me - I don't really know if you're into me or not 
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Or, I tend to assume that the only reason a girl is interested in me, when she does make it obvious, is for carnal reasons (this has happened to me in the past and my heart was broke a little bit). I just don't know how to tell if a girl is interested in me for sex or for more, for who I am and not just what I can do for her in the bedroom (or the car, living room, kitchen, shower, etc. :P). It makes me honestly distrustful. |
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I have always appreciated when some else can express what there interest is. It doesn't mean anything more than this is how i fell and what i am looking for at this moment |
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03-15-2011, 06:30 AM
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Yup it can be hard..
I have the same issue as AtomicZombie lol.. I can't always tell if someone is just looking for something casual or something more long term... if they are being genuine or saying whatever they think will get them in my pants lol.. Ive also had the issue of Butches thinking I am into them because I am nice or they assume because I am being sweet I want in their pants... -- Dating can be confusing! But I agree about paying attention to body language sometimes how we act or react speaks louder then what we say 
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The morning phone call.. the sound of her voice.. giggles and laughter.
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Ummmm.....no clue.
I'm one of those dense people when it comes to flirting. Years ago, in a group of friend/acquaintances I jokingly said "how come you all flirt with each other and no one flirts with me?" There was general laughter and then one was kind enough to inform me "uh, Jo...we do...you just don't get it." True story.
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03-19-2011, 04:57 PM
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One girl told me it made her feel "a little jealous" when I told her about this beautiful love letter I had from an ex-girlfriend who I adore. I think she might be into me...
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Your profile says, 'as long as you pull my hair you can call me anything .'Doesn't that sound like you want something casual? I think casual can be fun and fabulous and I think that if you want your hair pulled, You should get your hair pulled, so I am not being judge-y. |
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Ummm.... so......
Why not just say "I'm into you?" I know, I'm no fun..... 
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if they are still calling you after they've moved on....
they may be into you. *shrugs* 
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If she leans over whispers in your ear "you place or mine" she may be into you..... or she could just be horny one of the two.
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If she says "hi" to you in the middle of a crowded place and smiles, her voice all cute and sweet... is she into you?
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I'm on my I phone typing this but for me I can feel it and someone's lack of actions will.tell me every time
If you tell me you are gonna so something and you don't etc Lots of the things show when someone is just not into you Personally I think I'm a Damn good catch and someone is crazy not.to.be into.me.lol |
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