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04-13-2011, 08:10 PM
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04-13-2011, 08:14 PM
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Remember to say *Please* & *Thank you*
Listen and hear what is being said... Be patient... Be kind... |
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04-13-2011, 08:22 PM
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Always assume good intent ... and have it yourself too.
Say "I love you" and mean it...frequently. Be faithful...not just physically, but also emotionally, verbally...and especially in your own head and heart. Talk it out...and if you find yourself shouting, take a breath, and keep talking. Do the little things that show your love to your partner...in our case it's jello and foot rubbing (not together  )Spend time together....just the two of you. It doesn't have to be a fancy date....take a walk, go to the garden center, sit outside and enjoy the day. Remember that they're human and make mistakes....and the same goes for you. Remember why you got together in the first place. 
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04-14-2011, 08:28 AM
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No matter how mad you are, reach out and touch - literally - just before you go to sleep.
There is nothing as lonely or as crazy making as being in bed next to the person you love but being too hurt/proud/indignant to ask for a hug. Don't make them ask. Just do it. Words |
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04-14-2011, 08:33 AM
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04-14-2011, 08:45 AM
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04-14-2011, 08:55 AM
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Touch me...
with words... your hand... your lips... your heart... Touch me deep into my soul... |
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04-14-2011, 09:24 AM
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Be nice to me
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04-19-2011, 12:36 PM
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hmmmmm...
don't forget to take care of yourself... if you are not meeting your own personal needs, those can sometimes shift to your partner... which can be an overwhelming thing. you love your partner so easily... don't forget to love yourself!
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06-11-2011, 11:42 PM
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Always have a Date Night at least once a week.
Leave little notes (post-it) for them on the mirror when they wake or in their purse or lunch. Cook together for each other Spend 1 hour (or longer) a week on "talking about how we are feeling" Learning to communicate Be playful (keeping the relationship fun and playful) Having Boy's night out and Girls night out once a month or more if it works. (learning to trust) Kiss often (I love to kiss) Tell each other .. I love you every day!!!! |
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06-12-2011, 01:05 AM
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Simply go the extra mile...
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06-12-2011, 02:05 AM
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Have a couple Red Stripes (or equally delicious beverage), watch The Hebrew Hammer, and play Mario Super Sluggers on the Wii.
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08-04-2011, 06:04 AM
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look past the online /long distance veil
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08-04-2011, 07:28 AM
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Always be affectionate
Always be there for her during the good times and the bad. Always always laugh and have fun and be silly Always treat her the same way you did to get her. It should be the way you continue to keep her... Make sure you treat her like the lady and the Queen she is Always never go to bed angry |
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08-04-2011, 05:25 PM
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09-07-2011, 04:47 PM
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Always sleep in the same bed.
Compliment each other even on the worst days.
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09-07-2011, 05:01 PM
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Compliment your partner! Say the things you said in the days when you were in a lustmance!
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09-07-2011, 05:57 PM
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For the love that all that is holy, above all else, Make a Good Choice!! Do not excuse bad behavior early in the relationship and think...."If I just love them enough they will change." It's not going to happen, in fact, it almost always gets worse. So trust your gut and believe that you deserve "xyz", whatever that is for you. Remember, we teach people how to treat us. /rant
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accept the fact that you're going to argue
make an agreement that if the argument gets too passionate - you'll drop it so that both of you can calm down. make an agreement that the disagreement will be readdressed when both are in a better head space. understand that you both need to have your own life, you don't have to share every facet of your lives with each other. understand that there will be times where it will be much easier to walk away from each other than to stay and work it out - make an agreement that barring "deal breakers" you'll both strive as hard as possible to work it out. Remember that people tend to make serious changes in their lives every 7 years or so - as a couple you have to learn to grow together. Don't think that the person you're with today will be the same person 10 years from now - or vice versa. We all change. When it comes to arguing - ask yourself "Is this the beach I want to die on" Chances are - it's not. When you argue - never call each other names. It will destroy your relationship. Plain and simple. There's not a single successful healthy long term relationship that contains name calling when arguing. Understand that your sex life will at times not be a significant part of your life - for various reasons. Also understand that even if your partner doesn't have a high sex drive it doesn't mean that you can't masturbate - or that they wouldn't enjoy watching you do such.. who knows what it may spark  teasing is one thing - picking on a sensitive subject is another thing. Find out the difference for your partner. you're going to at some point (probably multiple times during the course of the relationship) take each other for granted - it's a natural human condition. Talk to your partner if you feel that is happening. Learn how to take constructive criticism. Buy your partner small knickknack gifts randomly just for the hell of it. It lets them know you're thinking about them. You and your partner should have this room in your relationship that no one else can go to. This is a figurative room - a room where you and he/she share each others secrets - a room where you talk to each other more than and about more subjects than you talk to anyone else. If you find yourself building a room with someone else - and starting to tell that person more than you tell your partner - you're asking for trouble. Serious trouble. |
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