What TO DO in a relationship.....

Words · 04-14-2011, 08:28 AM

No matter how mad you are, reach out and touch - literally - just before you go to sleep.

There is nothing as lonely or as crazy making as being in bed next to the person you love but being too hurt/proud/indignant to ask for a hug. Don't make them ask. Just do it.

Words

girl_dee · 04-14-2011, 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Words

No matter how mad you are, reach out and touch - literally - just before you go to sleep.

There is nothing as lonely or as crazy making as being in bed next to the person you love but being too hurt/proud/indignant to ask for a hug. Don't make them ask. Just do it.

Words

I'm the opposite, I don't want to be hugged or hug if I am mad. I just want to be left the hell alone, maybe I've been doing it wrong all these years.

Words · 04-14-2011, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

I'm the opposite, I don't want to be hugged or hug if I am mad. I just want to be left the hell alone, maybe I've been doing it wrong all these years.

I was thinking more along the lines of the person who was mad with the other reaching out, but you're right, we're all very different.

Me? I need some kind of physical contact just before W/we go to sleep regardless of who's mad with the other. Nothing sexual, just a 'so okay, one of us is mad now but it'll all be okay in the morning' kind of touch. And, to be honest, nine times out of ten it is.

Words

justkim · 04-14-2011, 08:55 AM

Touch me...
with words...
your hand...
your lips...
your heart...

Touch me deep into my soul...

Apocalipstic · 04-14-2011, 09:24 AM

Be nice to me

Ebon · 04-14-2011, 09:29 AM

Give random back rubs, foot rubs, kisses.

Make decisions together after you discuss them.

Be there for your mate.

Realize that some days you will not like each other and that is fine.

Try not to go to bed upset with each other. Release the bad energy before the new day starts.

Always be honest and have good intentions.

There are plenty more things but I am lazy and I don't want to type them.

Lynn · 04-14-2011, 09:53 AM

Find joy in each other's joy.
Take affection as willingly as you give it.
Encourage each other to new heights.
Make the most of the day-to-day moments together.
Treat each other with respect and kindness.
Communicate and tell the truth.
Never use each other as excuses for unhappiness.

Bring me tea when I'm tired.

JAGG · 04-14-2011, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Words

No matter how mad you are, reach out and touch - literally - just before you go to sleep.

There is nothing as lonely or as crazy making as being in bed next to the person you love but being too hurt/proud/indignant to ask for a hug. Don't make them ask. Just do it.

Words

If I'm angry and the other person hugs me , my anger is instantly gone. Especially if we are in bed and they slide up behind me and spoon me. But I won't tell them , cos it's a secret that I should not reveal, but if they really love they would figure it out, they'd learn how to get through to me.

04-14-2011, 09:24 AM	#5
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Be nice to me __________________

04-14-2011, 09:29 AM	#6
Ebon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: With my souls eyes. Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: lol Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Here Posts: 3,476 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,524 Thanked 11,143 Times in 2,757 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Give random back rubs, foot rubs, kisses. Make decisions together after you discuss them. Be there for your mate. Realize that some days you will not like each other and that is fine. Try not to go to bed upset with each other. Release the bad energy before the new day starts. Always be honest and have good intentions. There are plenty more things but I am lazy and I don't want to type them. __________________ In Lak'ech Ala K'in I'm a Soul Rebel http://wannabereverend.wordpress.com/ Spirituality is not a belief system or ideology, it is the surrender of one's ego to the infinite wisdom and knowledge that is the universe.

04-14-2011, 09:53 AM	#7
Lynn Member How Do You Identify?: Unabashed Feminine Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Her, She Relationship Status: Married! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 689 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,499 Thanked 2,414 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9668975	Find joy in each other's joy. Take affection as willingly as you give it. Encourage each other to new heights. Make the most of the day-to-day moments together. Treat each other with respect and kindness. Communicate and tell the truth. Never use each other as excuses for unhappiness. Bring me tea when I'm tired. __________________ In the flush of love's light we dare be brave And suddenly we see that love costs all we are and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free. Maya Angelou Wedding Photos: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...1&l=22b092b98c

04-14-2011, 08:28 AM	#1
Words Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme submissive Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 969 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,449 Thanked 4,258 Times in 677 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	No matter how mad you are, reach out and touch - literally - just before you go to sleep. There is nothing as lonely or as crazy making as being in bed next to the person you love but being too hurt/proud/indignant to ask for a hug. Don't make them ask. Just do it. Words

04-14-2011, 08:55 AM	#4
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