The Love list.

[*Anya*]

1 Interesting conversationalist
1. Interesting conversationalist
2. Well-read
3. Sense of humor, easy to laugh
4. Insight into self
5. Ability to be vulnerable when we are alone
6. Comfortable with both sexuality & sex
7. Healthy libido
8. Belief in the concept of monogamy in a committed relationship
9. Ethical values
10. Social & feminist consciousness
11. Kind, thoughtful, loving
12. Accepts me for who I am, in all my imperfect glory & I in return-do the same
13. Even if hurt previously, healed from it, learned from it, ready & able to move on with hope & excitement for the future

[clay]

Originally Posted by lillith

I have 1, as well:

Integrity

When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible.

Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

1 Interesting conversationalist
1. Interesting conversationalist
2. Well-read
3. Sense of humor, easy to laugh
4. Insight into self
5. Ability to be vulnerable when we are alone
6. Comfortable with both sexuality & sex
7. Healthy libido
8. Belief in the concept of monogamy in a committed relationship
9. Ethical values
10. Social & feminist consciousness
11. Kind, thoughtful, loving
12. Accepts me for who I am, in all my imperfect glory & I in return-do the same
13. Even if hurt previously, healed from it, learned from it, ready & able to move on with hope & excitement for the future

Hi there Anya: Very well worded!!! THank you!!! Goo dluck..and pleased to meet you! Clay

[Queerasfck]

I'm not single. But when I was I didn't really have a list. But when I saw her I knew I had to make her mine. Too bad she didn't want me. She threw me back. Alright, there may have been some things I had to take care of....

Once I heard "all relationships fail until you find one that doesn't". It might sound like an odd way to put it but it's totally true. You have to put yourself out there, you know in whatever way works for you and as mentioned in a previous post, be true to who you are. That way when you meet someone you are really interested in you are showing all sides of yourself to them and hopefully they are doing the same.

After several attempts to get Ms Pretty's attention-that she claims bordered on stalking--what's wrong with just "stopping by"???? (OK, it was a five and a half hour drive). I had almost given up. There was no list. I just knew I had to see her again. Sometimes you just know, you know?

Eternally grateful she didn't call the cops.

[apretty]

Let's just say *someone* sang my dog to sleep--This song:



And accepted all of me and is encouraging, loving and honest and had already had his therapy--plus, he's got a great pompadour! <3

Originally Posted by EzeeTiger

After several attempts to get Ms Pretty's attention-that she claims bordered on stalking--what's wrong with just "stopping by"???? (OK, it was a five and a half hour drive). I had almost given up. There was no list. I just knew I had to see her again. Sometimes you just know, you know?

Eternally grateful she didn't call the cops.

[Apocalipstic]

Pretty! That sneaky Ezee singing to your dog! that made me smile!!

I have had lists in the past and found special someones with everything on the list. Am I still with them? No. However, I don't have any exes (of over a month lol) I am not friends with since college.

None of my exes has ever done anything so horrible to me I can't be their friends, and I think that is important...and making a list made that possible...I knew what traits were important to me in someone close.

Maybe some of us are list makers and some not?

I make lists, spreadsheets or itineraries for everything and sometimes even notebooks with tabs, so it is a given that in search for a victim...oooopssss...I mean GF, I would make lists...and the same goes for listmakers everywhere. lol.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ok people who like lists, keep them coming.

[ScandalAndy]

Honest
Romantic
Will always ask me to dance even though I"m not good at it
Cuddler
Secure in themselves
employed
has own transportation
Comes up with something other than "i don't know, what do YOU want to do"
music lover
thinks my terrible jokes are funny
Calm


That should pretty much do it. Here's hoping it isn't too long/strict a list!

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I have had lists in the past and found special someones with everything on the list. Am I still with them? No. However, I don't have any exes (of over a month lol) I am not friends with since college.

Good point.

I have been with more than one woman who matched my "list", but am no longer with them. The "list" may equal a good fit for you, but that doesn't mean that the chemistry follows.

Also, sometimes when you find love, the damn "list" goes out the window! One can find that something they didn't know they needed they do need, or what they thought they didn't want, they do want (like kids, for example). I think it is important to not be too strict when it comes to a "list", or you may miss out on something great!

[clay]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

Good point.

I have been with more than one woman who matched my "list", but am no longer with them. The "list" may equal a good fit for you, but that doesn't mean that the chemistry follows.

Also, sometimes when you find love, the damn "list" goes out the window! One can find that something they didn't know they needed they do need, or what they thought they didn't want, they do want (like kids, for example). I think it is important to not be too strict when it comes to a "list", or you may miss out on something great!

Excellent thoughts and points Dapper!