The Love list.

lillith · 06-19-2011, 10:30 PM

I have 1, as well:

Integrity

When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible.

siam_blue · 06-20-2011, 01:31 AM

Hi all,

Well, here goes--off the top of my head (before bed).

-handsome butch
-Top
-Daddy
-good sense of humour
-serious
-intelligent
-possesses good spelling and grammar
-well-employed and enjoys their job
-Canadian!
-someone who won't let me get away with shit!
-believes in honesty and lives their life with integrity and compassion
-gentle but firm
-prioritizes travelling
-someone who drives
-someone who loves cats and dogs and animals in general
-someone who speaks more than one language
-someone who wants a committed relationship
-someone aged 40-45 or so
-someone who accepts me for me and is not bothered that i have a mobility disability

There you have it! You did say to be specific!

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 02:37 PM

Keep it going peeps!! Love the lists and yes, we all will find love.

Starrynightaw · 06-20-2011, 02:56 PM

Okay here goes a few im just grabbing out of the thoughts.

Honest
Loyal
Over 30
Wants kids
Family orientated
Wants a marriage/ commitment ceremony at some point
Stable financially and emotionally
Dominant
Aggressive
Protective
Loves animals
Monogamous

Thats pretty good so far.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 03:05 PM

Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

bigbutchmistie · 06-20-2011, 03:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

I'm glad you have hope Elusive cause I lost hope. That's my list and its non negotiable.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 03:18 PM

Big, it will happen even if I have to help. I think you know me on the other site. "Handsome" ring a bell? If you know me there then you know how I can be. So yes I do have faith that you will find love with or without my help.

dixie · 06-21-2011, 12:51 AM

Someone I can trust who trusts me in return.

Someone who can be my friend, not just my partner/lover.

Someone who appreciates me as I am, as a whole, inside and out.

Someone who not only appreciates me but enjoys me as well.

Someone who realizes that when I fall in love, I love deeply.

Someone who realizes that when I go into a relationship I go in looking for forever, not for "just now".

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 03:40 AM

Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

girl_dee · 06-21-2011, 05:57 AM

I can see why it took me so long to find a life partner.

I don't know how to be on time and I am not patient, now I know what I was doing wrong! (I am working on the patience thing)

Are any of us as perfect as these lists??

If these are non negotiable, how do you go about finding the perfect human being? I mean I understand addictions and major obstacles like children but wow, some of these are pretty small things in the grand scheme of life..

Just wondering....

girl_dee · 06-21-2011, 06:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

But, but beautiful is just part of it.. (and I agree she is)..what if she ummm does not love dogs or something? Beautiful can only go so far... What if she has a tendency to be late or tap her toe... That's it?

disclaimer: Hypothetically using Dixie here, I am sure she loves dogs.

LaneyDoll · 06-21-2011, 09:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

Yes, Dixie is quite lovely. And I hope she does not mind that we are referencing the comment directed at her.

Sometimes I think that the prettier someone is, the harder time they have. People automatically write you off as unapproachable, stuck-up, obviously involved etc. I may be wrong though, these are just my random thoughts on Tuesday morning.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 12:39 PM

Ok, Elusive here and I'm adding two things to my list.
Must like to be f$&ked and gives a good bj.
Sorry if that was crude. But I forgot to put that on the list.

Sassy · 11-16-2011, 08:06 PM

I like this list idea. I'm currently in a relationship and there are a few things that haven't felt like a great fit. Making the list helped me see exactly what those things are. But also, let me see/revisit the multitude of awesomeness that my SO does bring into the relationship. So, a good idea, even if you are involved.

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The Love List

1. Earth-based spirituality
2. Open-minded sexuality (kink, poly)
3. Has goals and a career
4. Has time for love and family
5. Respects outside relationships (family, friends, coworkers)
6. Likes to spend time together
7. Understands time apart (with friends or alone) is necessary for my sanity
8. Prejudices unwelcome: No racists. No sexists.
9. Must like kids. (Doesn’t have to want children. But my nephews are important.)
10. Financially responsible
11. Generous with their time and resources, but not to a fault
12. Knows how to communicate and does so willingly
13. Enjoys occasional forays into nature
14. Non-judgemental towards those who indulge in libations, recreation
15. Must love coffee
16. Enjoys experimenting with food, new recipes
17. Strives to live healthy, but doesn’t obsess
18. Stays current on politics, news, issues
19. High sex drive
20. Allows me creative freedom in my home, decorating, cooking, hobbies
21. Willing to be supportive when life challenges arise
22. Allows me to fight my own battles, doesn’t speak for me when I can speak for myself
23. Makes me laugh
24. Enjoys and respects a wide variety of music
25. Loves sci-fi and fantasy books and movies
26. Plays video games, but not compulsively (No WOW or Evercrack)
27. Has a deep love for animals but won't bring home every stray
28. Doesn't complain or make fun of my driving
29. Knows how to ride a bike, canoe and kayak
30. Will kiss me, and mean it, every day

Vlasta · 11-16-2011, 08:58 PM

I see that there any not many demands from a partner just 30 ? * laughing*

I guess I will die alone and just in case I will choose to date again .

honesty
communication
brain
job
chemistry

after that everything can be worked out

HoustonHuny · 11-17-2011, 12:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vlasta

I see that there any not many demands from a partner just 30 ? * laughing*

I guess I will die alone and just in case I will choose to date again .

honesty
communication
brain
job
chemistry

after that everything can be worked out

Great List, Vlasta. I would add one more thing. Humor

sara-bera · 11-17-2011, 01:25 PM

Over two years ago, I read this book called Meeting Your Half-Orange. I was so happy to find a book on dating that was positive and upbeat. It has really, really helped me learn about myself and helped me figure out what it is I really want the next time I commit to a relationship.

I have complete faith that I am will meet The One and I know they're looking for me, as well.

I want a relationship...

… filled with passion; for each other and for life. I want someone who enjoys life and living it.
… filled with joy.
… that is healthy in mind, spirit, and body. I want someone comfortable, happy, and secure with themselves and I want us both to be gentle motivators to stay that way, always.
… in which I feel truly known and loved for exactly who I am and I want to be able to give love like that as well.
… that has comfortable, easy communication. I want to listen, speak, and be honestly heard and understood. There will be transparency (honesty) from both people.
… in which we can share many meals together because our eating habits are similar.
… in which I feel wanted and can make them feel wanted.
... in which we only have birds, fish, lizards or other small, hypoallergenic pets (as I have painful allergies).
… in which there is a balance of our opposites: their masculinity to my girlishness, their strength and force to my softness, their decisions where I cannot make up my mind, their initiative to my shyness, their maturity where I am happily a little bit childish, their dominant nature to my submissive one.
… in which I feel perfectly safe.
... in which the relationship itself is important and protected.
… that sometimes has lovely, warm, comfortable silences.
… filled with intimacy of all kinds: physical, emotional, passionate!
… filled with respect; for each other and for other people. I want to be with someone that loves people as much as I do so that we can be happily and comfortably social together.
… in which even the off parts of me are loved… and loved a lot. We should both be abother to love one another, 'warts and all.'
… that is peaceful.
… that finds us living in a comfortable space with very little clutter.
… in which any big, loud, passionate interaction between us involves laughter or sex.
… that allows us to sleep snuggled together, often.
… in which we are important to one another. I want to matter as much to the other person as they do to me. I want to feel loved and special.
… with someone who likes being needed.
… in which there is consistency and stability; emotionally and financially.
... In which there is just the two of us.

I wish you all love, happiness, and healthy relationships!

Vlasta · 11-17-2011, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

Great List, Vlasta. I would add one more thing. Humor

oh , you are right ! I forgot , I was listening about Demi Moore and A. Kutcher are getting divorce and nobody should be surprised . hmm , at least it lasted more than 72 days :l ... well , kutcher got sheen's job and started acting like him

bigbutchmistie · 06-15-2012, 03:23 PM

Femme Girly Girl

Loves being a a femme, and though clothes do not make her femme does enjoy dressing up in heels, dresses skirts etc but is just as comfortable in t shirt and shorts.

BBW Preferably

Must Believei In God and go to church

Love all animals but doesnt have a cat as I am highly allergic

Has teenagers/or has kids already raised is fine with me. At this point in my life Im not looking to raise kids

Nurturing... Love taking care of her butch but not financially. Does things like cooks for me etc....Like I would do for her

Employed Full Time and can Financially can hold her own

Romantic and Believes In Happily Ever After no matter how many times she's been burned

Identifies as Lesbian

Affectionate, loving, tender, kind hearted

Has old fashioned values. Like believing sex is between two people who love each other and isnt into one night stands. Has a high sex drive with a partner

Is a Diva but loves the little things

Loves to laugh

Someone I can talk about anything and everything too

Gets along with my friends

Is ok with me not having family.

OH IS OVER HER EX AND READY TO FIND LOVE

Mr Nice Guy · 06-15-2012, 04:09 PM

Great list. Loved the last part.

06-19-2011, 10:30 PM	#1
lillith Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, hey you! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 204 Thanked 688 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 5173241	I have 1, as well: Integrity When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible. __________________ now how can you ignore a dancing pink elephant? and how i so wish it would rain here.

06-21-2011, 05:57 AM	#10
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	I can see why it took me so long to find a life partner. I don't know how to be on time and I am not patient, now I know what I was doing wrong! (I am working on the patience thing) Are any of us as perfect as these lists?? If these are non negotiable, how do you go about finding the perfect human being? I mean I understand addictions and major obstacles like children but wow, some of these are pretty small things in the grand scheme of life.. Just wondering.... Last edited by girl_dee; 06-21-2011 at 05:58 AM. Reason: added more finesse...

06-20-2011, 01:31 AM	#2
siam_blue Junior Member How Do You Identify?: queer grrl dyke Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 21 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 12 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 16	Hi all, Well, here goes--off the top of my head (before bed). -handsome butch -Top -Daddy -good sense of humour -serious -intelligent -possesses good spelling and grammar -well-employed and enjoys their job -Canadian! -someone who won't let me get away with shit! -believes in honesty and lives their life with integrity and compassion -gentle but firm -prioritizes travelling -someone who drives -someone who loves cats and dogs and animals in general -someone who speaks more than one language -someone who wants a committed relationship -someone aged 40-45 or so -someone who accepts me for me and is not bothered that i have a mobility disability There you have it! You did say to be specific!

06-20-2011, 02:37 PM	#3
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Keep it going peeps!! Love the lists and yes, we all will find love.

06-20-2011, 02:56 PM	#4
Starrynightaw Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme. Queer. Submissive. Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Girl, Honey :) Relationship Status: Single! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Southern Alabama, But I can also be found in surrounding areas. (Travel Alot) Posts: 89 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11 Thanked 168 Times in 55 Posts Rep Power: 745055	Okay here goes a few im just grabbing out of the thoughts. Honest Loyal Over 30 Wants kids Family orientated Wants a marriage/ commitment ceremony at some point Stable financially and emotionally Dominant Aggressive Protective Loves animals Monogamous Thats pretty good so far.

06-20-2011, 03:05 PM	#5
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

06-20-2011, 03:18 PM	#7
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Big, it will happen even if I have to help. I think you know me on the other site. "Handsome" ring a bell? If you know me there then you know how I can be. So yes I do have faith that you will find love with or without my help.

06-21-2011, 12:51 AM	#8
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Someone I can trust who trusts me in return. Someone who can be my friend, not just my partner/lover. Someone who appreciates me as I am, as a whole, inside and out. Someone who not only appreciates me but enjoys me as well. Someone who realizes that when I fall in love, I love deeply. Someone who realizes that when I go into a relationship I go in looking for forever, not for "just now".

06-21-2011, 03:40 AM	#9
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

06-21-2011, 12:39 PM	#13
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok, Elusive here and I'm adding two things to my list. Must like to be f$&ked and gives a good bj. Sorry if that was crude. But I forgot to put that on the list.

11-16-2011, 08:06 PM	#14
Sassy Member How Do You Identify?: Female Relationship Status: Together Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In the sunshine Posts: 598 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 815 Thanked 1,929 Times in 460 Posts Rep Power: 19641164	I like this list idea. I'm currently in a relationship and there are a few things that haven't felt like a great fit. Making the list helped me see exactly what those things are. But also, let me see/revisit the multitude of awesomeness that my SO does bring into the relationship. So, a good idea, even if you are involved. -------------------------- The Love List 1. Earth-based spirituality 2. Open-minded sexuality (kink, poly) 3. Has goals and a career 4. Has time for love and family 5. Respects outside relationships (family, friends, coworkers) 6. Likes to spend time together 7. Understands time apart (with friends or alone) is necessary for my sanity 8. Prejudices unwelcome: No racists. No sexists. 9. Must like kids. (Doesn’t have to want children. But my nephews are important.) 10. Financially responsible 11. Generous with their time and resources, but not to a fault 12. Knows how to communicate and does so willingly 13. Enjoys occasional forays into nature 14. Non-judgemental towards those who indulge in libations, recreation 15. Must love coffee 16. Enjoys experimenting with food, new recipes 17. Strives to live healthy, but doesn’t obsess 18. Stays current on politics, news, issues 19. High sex drive 20. Allows me creative freedom in my home, decorating, cooking, hobbies 21. Willing to be supportive when life challenges arise 22. Allows me to fight my own battles, doesn’t speak for me when I can speak for myself 23. Makes me laugh 24. Enjoys and respects a wide variety of music 25. Loves sci-fi and fantasy books and movies 26. Plays video games, but not compulsively (No WOW or Evercrack) 27. Has a deep love for animals but won't bring home every stray 28. Doesn't complain or make fun of my driving 29. Knows how to ride a bike, canoe and kayak 30. Will kiss me, and mean it, every day

11-16-2011, 08:58 PM	#15
Vlasta BFP Sentinels How Do You Identify?: ................. Preferred Pronoun?: .............. Relationship Status: .................. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ............... Posts: 546 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,353 Thanked 1,001 Times in 286 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I see that there any not many demands from a partner just 30 ? * laughing* I guess I will die alone and just in case I will choose to date again . honesty communication brain job chemistry after that everything can be worked out

11-17-2011, 01:25 PM	#17
sara-bera Member How Do You Identify?: female Join Date: May 2011 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,161 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,687 Thanked 2,858 Times in 739 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Over two years ago, I read this book called Meeting Your Half-Orange. I was so happy to find a book on dating that was positive and upbeat. It has really, really helped me learn about myself and helped me figure out what it is I really want the next time I commit to a relationship. I have complete faith that I am will meet The One and I know they're looking for me, as well. I want a relationship... … filled with passion; for each other and for life. I want someone who enjoys life and living it. … filled with joy. … that is healthy in mind, spirit, and body. I want someone comfortable, happy, and secure with themselves and I want us both to be gentle motivators to stay that way, always. … in which I feel truly known and loved for exactly who I am and I want to be able to give love like that as well. … that has comfortable, easy communication. I want to listen, speak, and be honestly heard and understood. There will be transparency (honesty) from both people. … in which we can share many meals together because our eating habits are similar. … in which I feel wanted and can make them feel wanted. ... in which we only have birds, fish, lizards or other small, hypoallergenic pets (as I have painful allergies). … in which there is a balance of our opposites: their masculinity to my girlishness, their strength and force to my softness, their decisions where I cannot make up my mind, their initiative to my shyness, their maturity where I am happily a little bit childish, their dominant nature to my submissive one. … in which I feel perfectly safe. ... in which the relationship itself is important and protected. … that sometimes has lovely, warm, comfortable silences. … filled with intimacy of all kinds: physical, emotional, passionate! … filled with respect; for each other and for other people. I want to be with someone that loves people as much as I do so that we can be happily and comfortably social together. … in which even the off parts of me are loved… and loved a lot. We should both be abother to love one another, 'warts and all.' … that is peaceful. … that finds us living in a comfortable space with very little clutter. … in which any big, loud, passionate interaction between us involves laughter or sex. … that allows us to sleep snuggled together, often. … in which we are important to one another. I want to matter as much to the other person as they do to me. I want to feel loved and special. … with someone who likes being needed. … in which there is consistency and stability; emotionally and financially. ... In which there is just the two of us. I wish you all love, happiness, and healthy relationships!

06-15-2012, 03:23 PM	#19
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Femme Girly Girl Loves being a a femme, and though clothes do not make her femme does enjoy dressing up in heels, dresses skirts etc but is just as comfortable in t shirt and shorts. BBW Preferably Must Believei In God and go to church Love all animals but doesnt have a cat as I am highly allergic Has teenagers/or has kids already raised is fine with me. At this point in my life Im not looking to raise kids Nurturing... Love taking care of her butch but not financially. Does things like cooks for me etc....Like I would do for her Employed Full Time and can Financially can hold her own Romantic and Believes In Happily Ever After no matter how many times she's been burned Identifies as Lesbian Affectionate, loving, tender, kind hearted Has old fashioned values. Like believing sex is between two people who love each other and isnt into one night stands. Has a high sex drive with a partner Is a Diva but loves the little things Loves to laugh Someone I can talk about anything and everything too Gets along with my friends Is ok with me not having family. OH IS OVER HER EX AND READY TO FIND LOVE

06-15-2012, 04:09 PM	#20
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Great list. Loved the last part.