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Old 06-24-2011, 08:17 AM   #1
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Almost a month, how damn cool is that. You've done one month you can do another. And so it carries on. You're doing brilliantly. Do you feel a different, "this time I'm going to succeed" mind-set?
Thank you, Incubus. I am getting there. Most day are getting easier. I still have moments. They are passing faster.

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I started a thread thread like this on a UK based BF site when I was giving up and like you found it a 'comfort' to post my progress most days. I was the only one giving up at the time but still received support from those that had already done it. I found that in writing the posts I was supporting myself. If no-one else had said anything I would still have continued posting and giving up. I guess it was more a blog than an interactive thread but it worked for me.
That is how I feel about it, too. It certainly is helping me.

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As you can see I still find visiting the giving up smoking thread somewhat comforting. Infact it's supporting other folks that I gain comfort from now. I am the lesson of what happens if you don't give up and if I can help another from learning that lesson the hardest way then I'm happy.
I hope to be supportive to those trying to quit. I have tried and failed so many times. It is the hardest thing I have ever done! I truly believe in paying things forward. It is a reward all in itself.


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Old 06-24-2011, 08:27 AM   #2
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Thank you, Incubus. I am getting there. Most day are getting easier. I still have moments. They are passing faster.
Ooooh the moments still come even after a year or so. They're just easier to rationalise and deal with.



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That is how I feel about it, too. It certainly is helping me.

I'm glad you feel that way. I'm 'enjoying', if that's the right word, watching both you and gaea walk this walk. It's a privilege to be able to offer any hand-holding that's needed.


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I hope to be supportive to those trying to quit. I have tried and failed so many times. It is the hardest thing I have ever done! I truly believe in paying things forward. It is a reward all in itself.


Just by writing your experience of giving up this time with the positivity you're showing after many a failure is supportive.



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I am proud of you all!


I quit once for 8 years.



I have cut down, but am not quite at the 'quit' stage again.
We decided to start off with the 'eating better than we ever have' first.
This way I don't cave straight for the junk food fix during the no-smoke stage.


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ok im gonna whine a bit....

yesterday i wanted to take myself to the hospital and just "check in" for a few days s that even possible? i somehow think that if i went and stated i just need a rest they would probably throw my ass in the looney bin and perhaps rightly so...

this has gone in my chest and im just tired...just plain ole exhausted.

ok done whining now.

2 days from 11 full weeks....damn im friggen stoked

Day, once you have made up your mind its difficult to not get on that train, your baby sis
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I am proud of you all!


I quit once for 8 years.



I have cut down, but am not quite at the 'quit' stage again.
We decided to start off with the 'eating better than we ever have' first.
This way I don't cave straight for the junk food fix during the no-smoke stage.


Hey there Daywalker, can I ask what made you go back to tobacco after 8yrs?
Wishing you luck on the healthy preparations for giving up. Is it junk food that is your downfall or is it just substituting one oral fixation for another (any sort of food?). I tried really hard not to substitute cigs/joints for food. I still gained weight because my metabolism wasn't artificially speeded up by nicotine - not to mention hitting man-o-pause and becoming a sedentary student all at the same time . 25 whole pounds all round my middle sucks but at least my poorly-sick lungs aren't being tortured by all the toxins in tobacco. Btw. I did check with my copd nurse that I could still smoke 'erb as long as it was sans tobacco and he said "...yes, as long as it's through one of those 'water bung' things" *insert bong tokin' smiley*


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ok im gonna whine a bit....

yesterday i wanted to take myself to the hospital and just "check in" for a few days s that even possible? i somehow think that if i went and stated i just need a rest they would probably throw my ass in the looney bin and perhaps rightly so...

this has gone in my chest and im just tired...just plain ole exhausted.

ok done whining now.

2 days from 11 full weeks....damn im friggen stoked

Day, once you have made up your mind its difficult to not get on that train, your baby sis
lol gaea...what I'd give for a break in the hospital right now, even the loony bin (I'd probably fit right in )

Make sure you rest (and sleep) lots, drink lots of liquids and rest some more.

Almost 11wks...just a week away from 3 whole MONTHS if the universe wills it. I'm stoked for you dudette
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ok im gonna whine a bit....

yesterday i wanted to take myself to the hospital and just "check in" for a few days s that even possible? i somehow think that if i went and stated i just need a rest they would probably throw my ass in the looney bin and perhaps rightly so...

this has gone in my chest and im just tired...just plain ole exhausted.

ok done whining now.

2 days from 11 full weeks....damn im friggen stoked

Day, once you have made up your mind its difficult to not get on that train, your baby sis
Yer Big Bro demands U get rest.


I will be talking with Drew after 3pm today to make plans for our
BV Fundraiser meeting dealio. U have to be better, so whine while
U can cuz Lady Day will 'nurse' that whining right outta ya.

Wee.


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Hey there Daywalker, can I ask what made you go back to tobacco after 8yrs?
Wishing you luck on the healthy preparations for giving up. Is it junk food that is your downfall or is it just substituting one oral fixation for another (any sort of food?). I tried really hard not to substitute cigs/joints for food. I still gained weight because my metabolism wasn't artificially speeded up by nicotine - not to mention hitting man-o-pause and becoming a sedentary student all at the same time . 25 whole pounds all round my middle sucks but at least my poorly-sick lungs aren't being tortured by all the toxins in tobacco. Btw. I did check with my copd nurse that I could still smoke 'erb as long as it was sans tobacco and he said "...yes, as long as it's through one of those 'water bung' things" *insert bong tokin' smiley*



lol gaea...what I'd give for a break in the hospital right now, even the loony bin (I'd probably fit right in )

Make sure you rest (and sleep) lots, drink lots of liquids and rest some more.

Almost 11wks...just a week away from 3 whole MONTHS if the universe wills it. I'm stoked for you dudette
Well I was going thru a break-up and wanted to self destruct for
a couple weeks, lol...what that turned into was a few social outings
where just one smoke with a cocktail here n there was do-able.

I now had my house to myself and would have 'just one smoke' before
getting on the bike and heading across the bridge to work. That turned
into 'just one here' and 'just one there'...but it kept me from delving in
to the icky world of drugs which can be easy in the Bay Area.


So in a way it saved me, but then it stayed...to kill me. LOL.


I know from past experience that eating was a quick replacement for
the occupying of the hands and jaws, and what with my love of all things
resembling Ding Dongs, etc. we have decided that if we were going to have
a chance at not replacing one evil for another then setting one pattern at
a time would be best. Therefore we have embarked on the eating healthier
project first. Once we are confident it has become second nature to grab
fruit instead of pastries...lol, then we can consider ourselves
ready for Phase 2 ~ Operation Kick da Butts.


I had quit for short periods of time since...once for over a year, etc.
Somehow it was easier when I was 25 to go cold turkey.
Over 20 years later it seems more a precarious
journey thru smoking hoops of evil.


And yes, the 'erb smoking is healthier thru a water bong, I am more apt
to roll mine in Job Crystal papers. They're see thru...it's paper before it
goes thru the chemical process to become white.
Burns clean and smooth and slow.


Hope that answered yer query and to all who have begun their journey
already...just remember there is no map, this journey is
driven by your mind not your feet!




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Thank-you for your reply Daywalker. I hope you get into quit-mode again. Modifying your eating behaviour is a really good preparation. I'm almost afraid to ask what a Ding Dong is but I'll ask anyway...what is it? The things I like to snack on aren't healthy options either so along with that slowed down nicotine free metabolism, that probably accounts for my extra 25lbs. I need to start a healthier food regimen too and cycle more miles.

I can understand the 'self destruct' thang. I'm at the start of one of those times myself. I just lost my (very prt time) job and then my home of the last 13yrs all within the space of a couple of weeks the house move isn't quite imminent but it's going to happen sooner or later. I just wanna bury my head in the self-destruct-sand ...I won't smoke tobacco though, that lung-destruction is already done.
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