Women-identified Lesbians Loving/Living with other Woman-identified Lesbians

starryeyes · 09-19-2011, 05:52 PM

I live in San Diego, and there is a thriving gay community here. We have a gay town, we call "The Gayborhood" or "The Hilly" which is called Hillcrest. There are some pretty awesome places for lesbians to go here, we have bars, social clubs and a very active meet-up.com group that have weekly activities for lesbians of all ages.

Now, when it comes to Butch-femme? Not so much. I have hosted a few meet-up events, and had a speed dating event, but when I advertised them as "butch/femme" I pretty much got my head chewed off. I met my current girlfriend on the dash site (Thank goodness for the internet!!). I dated a few girls that I met in my community, but none of them appreciated a Femme. Mostly when I go out, I am thought of a straight or a fag-hag, which stinks.

I know they are out there, but I haven't found my BF community in San Diego. I have one lesbian friend who identifies as Femme, but the rest ID as Lesbian.

I hope to some day find a BF community in my area and be able to have closer relationships with people who subscribe to the same ideas I do!! Until then, I love this site for resources and meeting people!!

:-D
Starry

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09-19-2011, 05:52 PM	#17
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,050 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I live in San Diego, and there is a thriving gay community here. We have a gay town, we call "The Gayborhood" or "The Hilly" which is called Hillcrest. There are some pretty awesome places for lesbians to go here, we have bars, social clubs and a very active meet-up.com group that have weekly activities for lesbians of all ages. Now, when it comes to Butch-femme? Not so much. I have hosted a few meet-up events, and had a speed dating event, but when I advertised them as "butch/femme" I pretty much got my head chewed off. I met my current girlfriend on the dash site (Thank goodness for the internet!!). I dated a few girls that I met in my community, but none of them appreciated a Femme. Mostly when I go out, I am thought of a straight or a fag-hag, which stinks. I know they are out there, but I haven't found my BF community in San Diego. I have one lesbian friend who identifies as Femme, but the rest ID as Lesbian. I hope to some day find a BF community in my area and be able to have closer relationships with people who subscribe to the same ideas I do!! Until then, I love this site for resources and meeting people!! :-D Starry