Women-identified Lesbians Loving/Living with other Woman-identified Lesbians

JAGG · 09-19-2011, 07:18 PM

Well that's what we have mostly in Tulsa. Almost all are what I call burkenstock lesbians, or andro lesbians. They aren't butch or femme and don't have a clue what butch femme dynamics are . And are even insulted by it. But that's what most my friends are. I guess if I wasn't ok with it I wouldn't have any friends. hahaha To each his own. But it does bug me when someone says, you should grow your hair out. Or suggest more female style of clothes. They think if you have short hair or wear hats that makes you butch. HAHAHAHA NO CLUE!!!!!! They have no exposure and no interest in it. They are happy in their andro burkenstock world and good for them. They can share wardrobes and shoes and even make-up , pluck each others eyebrows, you know burkenstock bonding moments . It's special.

*Anya* · 09-19-2011, 07:29 PM

Lol Jagg!

In LA we have a lot of lipstick lesbians!

clay · 09-19-2011, 07:38 PM

hey Jaggy...you are so darn funny! Love your humor dude!
LA Lisptick lesbians...whoohoo....love them!

JAGG · 09-19-2011, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by claybabytwo

hey Jaggy...you are so darn funny! Love your humor dude!
LA Lisptick lesbians...whoohoo....love them!

Thanks I'm glad you like it!!!

JAGG · 09-19-2011, 07:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

Lol Jagg!

In LA we have a lot of lipstick lesbians!

hahah yes we do too. Lipstick lesbians and burkenstocks make up 95 percent of female gay population here. The only butches you see are usually butch on butch. They look like twinkies too. Dress alike , same hair style, same style cars. hahahaha Whatever floats your boat. Just please don't call them butch , it makes my ribs hurt from laughing so much.

*Anya* · 09-19-2011, 07:57 PM

LA Lipstick lesbians do not always identify as femme and frequently date each other, not butches.

It gets very confusing sometimes.

Julie · 09-19-2011, 08:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JAGG

Well that's what we have mostly in Tulsa. Almost all are what I call burkenstock lesbians, or andro lesbians. They aren't butch or femme and don't have a clue what butch femme dynamics are .

They think if you have short hair or wear hats that makes you butch. HAHAHAHA NO CLUE!!!!!! They have no exposure and no interest in it. They are happy in their andro burkenstock world and good for them. They can share wardrobes and shoes and even make-up , pluck each others eyebrows, you know burkenstock bonding moments . It's special.

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

*Anya* · 09-19-2011, 08:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julie

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

Julie you are a femme!

Julie · 09-19-2011, 08:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

Julie you are a femme!

I was getting worried there Anya - all that birkenstock androgyny talk!

JAGG · 09-19-2011, 08:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julie

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

Why you are the kindest sweetest prettiest femme on the planet, but you already knew that. hahah Also I'd like to add , My your hair looks nice today.

JAGG · 09-19-2011, 08:48 PM

Did it work? I'm I in the clear?
Ps thanks for the heads up Dapper lol

Julie · 09-20-2011, 08:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JAGG

Why you are the kindest sweetest prettiest femme on the planet, but you already knew that. hahah Also I'd like to add , My your hair looks nice today.

Can you repeat that? (snort).
(not the hair part - we already established that).

ruthie14 · 09-20-2011, 07:46 PM

I am loving this thread! I love a female identified butch! Love the butch/femme thing. Most of my friends are butch (but won't identify with the label), andro, Tweeners, butch ...very few femmes. You would think that would get me a lot of dates.. uhhh NO! A lot of attention, yes... dates... once they figure out I won't have sex outside of a relationship... gone...done.... an occational flirt maybe. My friends keep telling me to give up on the butch/femme thing. Ok, you give up on the lesbian thing and go straight and I'll think about it. lolol.. Really, I am who I am. I LOVE a butch... one that lets me love her back, even better!!!

Jagg.... you are very funny my dear. Here's a wink just for you! ;-) hiya handsome!

Ok, this femme is headed to bed.

Night all!
Ruthie

1QuirkyKiwi · 09-25-2011, 05:15 PM

I live in a semi-rural area and most lesbians are partnered, those that aren’t are too young for me or a little older than I’d comfortably like – I’m only 41, but, I’ve travelled and experienced many things in my life and want a woman who has also experienced life and the world – who can be my equal on an emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical level.

I also want a woman who can hold her own when my unyielding determination (read as stubborn) kicks in and I try to do too much only to end up in pain, in tears and on crutches. I’m NOT wanting a carer – that is the last thing I want (when I’m old, completely Ga-ga and sporting a pink rinse hair-do, then yes! More like I’d need a rubber room in a Psychiatric unit, lol!), yet, what I do seek is a woman who is able to allow me to remain independent as I am now, yet, when I need/ask for help, she is willing to do so and not feel put-upon.

I appreciate that me having a form of Spina Bifida and Alpha-Thalassaemia (treated with high doses of Folic Acid) isn’t what every woman wants to have in a partner, especially is they love hiking, and other sports. I am active with regular Yoga practice, swimming and walking – I can walk about 2 miles at a fairly steady pace……OK! I can’t do that everyday, but, I CAN still do it! (Unless of course it’s traipsing round shops for hours, then I’d rather watch paint dry! LOL!).

When I’m on my crutches, I’m slower doing my daily activities and have to be fairly strict in organising myself and plan ahead.

When I’m getting to know a woman, I’m open hearted and vulnerable - I do feel insecure and feel embarrassed about some of the challenges that come with Spina Bifida, yet, I’m comfortable confronting the necessary issues and not be dishonest about them to her…..Sometimes even the most confident, self assured, carefree spirit has moments of weaknesses.

*Anya* · 09-25-2011, 05:42 PM

To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)!

We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by.

I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes.

LaneyDoll · 09-20-2011, 07:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julie

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

Hmmm, you are a masochist if you are plucking hair from the toes.

09-19-2011, 07:18 PM	#1
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,531 Times in 4,137 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Well that's what we have mostly in Tulsa. Almost all are what I call burkenstock lesbians, or andro lesbians. They aren't butch or femme and don't have a clue what butch femme dynamics are . And are even insulted by it. But that's what most my friends are. I guess if I wasn't ok with it I wouldn't have any friends. hahaha To each his own. But it does bug me when someone says, you should grow your hair out. Or suggest more female style of clothes. They think if you have short hair or wear hats that makes you butch. HAHAHAHA NO CLUE!!!!!! They have no exposure and no interest in it. They are happy in their andro burkenstock world and good for them. They can share wardrobes and shoes and even make-up , pluck each others eyebrows, you know burkenstock bonding moments . It's special. __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

09-19-2011, 07:29 PM	#2
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,449 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Lol Jagg! In LA we have a lot of lipstick lesbians! __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

09-19-2011, 07:38 PM	#3
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,666 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	hey Jaggy...you are so darn funny! Love your humor dude! LA Lisptick lesbians...whoohoo....love them! __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

09-19-2011, 07:57 PM	#6
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,449 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	LA Lipstick lesbians do not always identify as femme and frequently date each other, not butches. It gets very confusing sometimes. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

09-19-2011, 08:48 PM	#11
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,531 Times in 4,137 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Did it work? I'm I in the clear? Ps thanks for the heads up Dapper lol __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

09-20-2011, 07:46 PM	#13
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	I am loving this thread! I love a female identified butch! Love the butch/femme thing. Most of my friends are butch (but won't identify with the label), andro, Tweeners, butch ...very few femmes. You would think that would get me a lot of dates.. uhhh NO! A lot of attention, yes... dates... once they figure out I won't have sex outside of a relationship... gone...done.... an occational flirt maybe. My friends keep telling me to give up on the butch/femme thing. Ok, you give up on the lesbian thing and go straight and I'll think about it. lolol.. Really, I am who I am. I LOVE a butch... one that lets me love her back, even better!!! Jagg.... you are very funny my dear. Here's a wink just for you! ;-) hiya handsome! Ok, this femme is headed to bed. Night all! Ruthie

09-25-2011, 05:15 PM	#14
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I live in a semi-rural area and most lesbians are partnered, those that aren’t are too young for me or a little older than I’d comfortably like – I’m only 41, but, I’ve travelled and experienced many things in my life and want a woman who has also experienced life and the world – who can be my equal on an emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical level. I also want a woman who can hold her own when my unyielding determination (read as stubborn) kicks in and I try to do too much only to end up in pain, in tears and on crutches. I’m NOT wanting a carer – that is the last thing I want (when I’m old, completely Ga-ga and sporting a pink rinse hair-do, then yes! More like I’d need a rubber room in a Psychiatric unit, lol!), yet, what I do seek is a woman who is able to allow me to remain independent as I am now, yet, when I need/ask for help, she is willing to do so and not feel put-upon. I appreciate that me having a form of Spina Bifida and Alpha-Thalassaemia (treated with high doses of Folic Acid) isn’t what every woman wants to have in a partner, especially is they love hiking, and other sports. I am active with regular Yoga practice, swimming and walking – I can walk about 2 miles at a fairly steady pace……OK! I can’t do that everyday, but, I CAN still do it! (Unless of course it’s traipsing round shops for hours, then I’d rather watch paint dry! LOL!). When I’m on my crutches, I’m slower doing my daily activities and have to be fairly strict in organising myself and plan ahead. When I’m getting to know a woman, I’m open hearted and vulnerable - I do feel insecure and feel embarrassed about some of the challenges that come with Spina Bifida, yet, I’m comfortable confronting the necessary issues and not be dishonest about them to her…..Sometimes even the most confident, self assured, carefree spirit has moments of weaknesses. __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

09-25-2011, 05:42 PM	#15
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,449 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)! We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by. I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

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