What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

• Please don't get jealous of my love of Kermit but there needs to be room for three in our relationship. Be comforted that my love for Kermit is platonic and non-threatening to our relationship (for the time being at least).

Hands off he's mine.... I'm older than you and saw him first! LOL!

I had a large Kermit that sat on my bed with his legs dangling over the side.

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

Hands off he's mine.... I'm older than you and saw him first! LOL!

I had a large Kermit that sat on my bed with his legs dangling over the side.

I'm not possessive - we can share him

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

I'm not possessive - we can share him

It's a deal! Which half do you want?

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

It's a deal! Which half do you want?

I'll take the top half. You're welcome to the dangling legs.

[ButchKnight]

ok here it goes

smoking cigs
excessive drug alcohol use
being a republican

there are more but theses are biggies

BK

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

I'll take the top half. You're welcome to the dangling legs.

Errr....hang on! Just because I'm part French doesn't mean I like frog legs, ya know! LOL! I was thinking more on the lines of splittin' 'im straight down the middle....equal halves an' awl tha'! LOL!

[adorable]

There are more non-negotiables in a relationship, but these are my top three:

Know the rules of engagement. Nothing else is attractive. My home is a sanctuary, a safe base. I have never had a relationship (after age 17) where there was fighting, intense disagreements, screaming, or even slamming of doors. (I did have a significant relationship, where, when she became very sick five years in, it resulted in some Jerry Springer like stuff – it was understandably different and not the norm for us.)

Know thyself. It’s hard to convey the importance of this or how seriously I take it. I have no desire to be your therapist, mother or boss. I don’t want to figure you out or sort through your problems. I want to be me and for you to be you. Yes, we all have issues sometimes. At this point in our lives though, we should have a good handle on our inner core – the shaky ground should be long behind us. I am a rock that can manage almost any situation. I want a fellow rock, not the person that depends on one.

Be passionate. About something. Anything. The things you can’t wait to do in your free time. Those things that you never get tired of reading about, thinking about, participating in, or fighting for. There is nothing more exciting or engaging than talking to someone that is passionate about something. I’ve had some of the most fascinating conversations with someone who writes mathematical theory that only he and four other people in the world understand. (I'm still not one of those four.) It’s mind boggling to me, but his intensity is awe inspiring. I am passionate about several things. To me those are the most authentic of human interactions. I treasure sharing them.

[SweetJane]

Non-negotiables?

Excessive alcohol

Lying

Cheating


(Already dealt with all three. Don't want to go back there.)