What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

SweetJane · 01-25-2012, 05:56 PM

Non-negotiables?

Excessive alcohol

Lying

Cheating

(Already dealt with all three. Don't want to go back there.)

genghisfawn · 01-25-2012, 06:11 PM

Dishonesty

Dishonour

Disrespect

Talon · 07-13-2012, 12:34 PM

Intellect....Integrity....Powerfulness.

thedivahrrrself · 07-13-2012, 01:04 PM

3 must-haves:

Intellect/Wit/Humour - they all go together. Conversation is the root of any good relationship, and without these things, our conversations would be dull.

Passion - I would prefer you to be passionate about me, of course, but you should be passionate about something else, or several somethings. I often refer to this as geekiness. You should know more than I do about something, be willing to educate me on the subject, and be willing to listen to the things I am passionate about, which you may be surprised to learn, is more than just shoes.

But you're probably going to have to listen to me chatter about shoes too.

Physical affection - some people are just not huggers, or touchers. They should find people like themselves to couple up with. I need to be touched, hugged, kissed, etc (etc etc etc) as often as possible.

3 must-nots:

lying jerks - I could probably forgive a cheater if they were at least HONEST about it. It's the lying that kills me.

lazy fucks - I'm too hyper for you. I am not one just to sit around all day.

mean/rude bastards - If you're can't be nice to your waitress, the homeless guy you see, or the people who work for you, odds are you won't be nice to me for very long. My theory is, you can treat anyone the way you treat anyone else. I'm not special. You can't say, "Oh, I'm a jerk to this guy, but I'd never treat you that way." Yes, you would. I just haven't pissed you off yet.

Beloved · 07-13-2012, 01:12 PM

Let's see...

Mine are...

Must be intelligent
Drug or alcohol addiction (in the past is ok, just not current)
Dislike of children because I have one
Dislike of animals
Unemployed, you must have job or actively seeking one. I am not your sugar momma.
Smoking if they are not trying to stop
Conservatives (sorry but we would fight all the time)
Hygiene and clean teeth (I'm a dental hygienist)
Must treat people with respect
People who need anger management
Lying
Cheaters
Responsible
I require attention. Must be attentive.
Must be emotionally available

I may have more. I need to think about it.

07-13-2012, 12:34 PM	#3
Talon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Divine Feminine Preferred Pronoun?: . Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: . Posts: 4,921 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,246 Thanked 10,223 Times in 3,305 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	My 3 Intellect....Integrity....Powerfulness.

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01-25-2012, 05:56 PM	#1
SweetJane Member How Do You Identify?: stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: always solo Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New Mexico Posts: 368 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 380 Thanked 815 Times in 198 Posts Rep Power: 4309957	Non-negotiables? Excessive alcohol Lying Cheating (Already dealt with all three. Don't want to go back there.)

01-25-2012, 06:11 PM	#2
genghisfawn Member How Do You Identify?: Femme/Gentlewoman Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: Happily married 05/17/14 Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,056 Thanked 2,158 Times in 403 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Dishonesty Dishonour Disrespect

07-13-2012, 01:04 PM	#4
thedivahrrrself Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Sapiosexual Femme Relationship Status: Mrs. Grumpy Cat Tournaments Won: 4 Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: 8,660 feet high in the Andes Posts: 2,640 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,519 Thanked 11,657 Times in 2,292 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	3 must-haves: Intellect/Wit/Humour - they all go together. Conversation is the root of any good relationship, and without these things, our conversations would be dull. Passion - I would prefer you to be passionate about me, of course, but you should be passionate about something else, or several somethings. I often refer to this as geekiness. You should know more than I do about something, be willing to educate me on the subject, and be willing to listen to the things I am passionate about, which you may be surprised to learn, is more than just shoes. But you're probably going to have to listen to me chatter about shoes too. Physical affection - some people are just not huggers, or touchers. They should find people like themselves to couple up with. I need to be touched, hugged, kissed, etc (etc etc etc) as often as possible. 3 must-nots: lying jerks - I could probably forgive a cheater if they were at least HONEST about it. It's the lying that kills me. lazy fucks - I'm too hyper for you. I am not one just to sit around all day. mean/rude bastards - If you're can't be nice to your waitress, the homeless guy you see, or the people who work for you, odds are you won't be nice to me for very long. My theory is, you can treat anyone the way you treat anyone else. I'm not special. You can't say, "Oh, I'm a jerk to this guy, but I'd *never* treat *you* that way." Yes, you would. I just haven't pissed you off yet.

07-13-2012, 01:12 PM	#5
Beloved Member How Do You Identify?: alive Preferred Pronoun?: um Relationship Status: married Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: on the stars Posts: 460 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,415 Thanked 1,653 Times in 298 Posts Rep Power: 19348703	Let's see... Mine are... Must be intelligent Drug or alcohol addiction (in the past is ok, just not current) Dislike of children because I have one Dislike of animals Unemployed, you must have job or actively seeking one. I am not your sugar momma. Smoking if they are not trying to stop Conservatives (sorry but we would fight all the time) Hygiene and clean teeth (I'm a dental hygienist) Must treat people with respect People who need anger management Lying Cheaters Responsible I require attention. Must be attentive. Must be emotionally available I may have more. I need to think about it.