Is Marriage for you?

[MsTinkerbelly]

Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

As some of you know I post a whole lot of updates regarding equal marriage in our country and elsewhere in the world. So if tomorrow you were told that you could get married, would you want to? Why or why not?

All I ask is that you (collective you) be respectful to each other and our points of view.

I'll be back later...

I am in my 2nd Marriage; the first one was to my daughter's father, and (the last one I will ever be in) now with my Kasey. When I say the last one I mean it 100%. Should Kasey leave me, or should she pass before me, I will not marry again.

I hear people (general people) say that it is just a piece of paper...in my opinion if they get married believing that statement they have no business being married. For "me" marriage is HUGE! You tell another person that for better or for worse, bedhead, bad breath, blah, blah, blah, that you are going to work it out day after day, week after week, year after year, because you have chosen to be here in this reality with them. There are days when I wish my Kasey would go to ....well I'm sure you get it. I'm sure there are days that if I wandered into traffic there would be no tears for her either. The thing is, I have sworn before my diety, my family and friends, and before my Kasey, that when the going gets rough it will still be the two of us standing there side by side against the world. That MEANS something.

Marriage also affords the greatest protections for a family...no notarized documents, power of attorney's, or wills are going to stop someone truely determined from taking everything your partner has left you when you go. Marriage changes that...no one has EVER asked me to see my marriage certificate when I have to do something legal for Kasey, but they did when it was a Domestic Partnership.

I don't want to just ramble here...I am truely interested in what everyone has to say, and I enjoy reading your posts and hearing where you are coming from.