Terminology question

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by TossedNTurned

Hello!

Ok, so this is my first post and question. Something I am unfamiliar with is terminology when it comes to how some are described.

Prior to my boi and I getting together, I had never considered being with a butch. Since then, I have been referred to as a straight girl. Which...while I was until my new relationship, seems like a contradiction.

Is there something I am missing? Please explain to the noob. Thanks!

Hi Tossed, and welcome to the Planet!

I think "what you're missing" has more to do with other peoples' issues.

How you identify, as far as I'm concerned, has nothing to do with who you sleep with or are in a relationship with....it has to do with how you feel inside. I think you can be with a boi/butch/trans/femme/whomever and still call yourself straight or queer or butch or femme or bi or....you get the idea.

I wouldn't worry too much about what people call you. You decide how you identify and what you want to be called...and then you tell them.